by Sherri | Sep 15, 2018
Last week I fulfilled one of my bucket list dreams – hiking the Grand Canyon Rim to Rim! Wow what an amazing experience! We started on the North Kaibab Trail at 4am with nothing but our headlamps lighting the way. After a challenging 14 miles downhill we arrived at Phantom Ranch where we caught our breath for a day and had a chance to rest our wobbly and sore muscles! Then we climbed up Bright Angel Trail for 10 miles ( the last 3-4 miles being steep, steep, did I say steeeeeeeeeep, switchbacks!) Oy!!!!!
Whoohooo was I ever elated to reach the top of the south rim!! It was sure a sweet moment and one that will always make my heart smile. But believe you me, reaching this dream wasn’t always easy! There were challenges and times I wanted to quit and that’s what I want to talk to you about today.
YOU most likely have a dream or something really significant that you would love to see happen in your life. And what I learned and want to share with you is this; set yourself up with a highly developed mindset for success. It’s crucial to keep the end result in the forefront of your mind! Staying in a high vibration will help you stay connected to the completion of your dream.
That said, today, we focus on how you can develop mindfulness around your vibrational energy – one of my favorite topics – by making small changes in your daily life.
Click here to learn 4 easy ways to raise your vibration!
by Sherri | Sep 8, 2018
Last month, we began looking at charisma, that divine sparkle that makes us irresistible to others and acts as a powerful magnet to attract more love, joy, and fun into our lives! In my last post, Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself to Others, I explained how comparing yourself can zap your self-confidence and leave you feeling disconnected from your charismatic nature. But comparison isn’t the only trap that gets us.
For many of us, the way we lose the connection to our charisma is by caring way too much about what other people think. When you get caught up in other peoples’ opinions, you abandon yourself and create an imbalance in your soul, making it impossible for your charisma to shine through.
Why Do We Care So Much About What Other People Think?
Tens of thousands of years ago, when humans were living in hunter-gatherer societies, what other people thought often meant the difference between being embraced and cared for or shunned and abandoned.
The desire to be accepted is deeply rooted in our survival patterns, so it makes sense that we sometimes worry we’re flawed, not good enough or people please to be liked/loved. But here’s the thing: that survival pattern doesn’t hold up in today’s society. It’s time to let go of that anxiety, embrace a higher way of thinking, and build up your inner validation of Self.
You Can’t Change What Other People Think
In last month’s post, Free Yourself by Becoming More Accepting of Others, I wrote that when you try to make other people conform to your rigid expectations, you communicate the belief that you’re not OK unless they change their behavior. Working to convince someone to believe something different about you communicates the same idea.
Several years ago, I found myself in a very tough situation with my sisters. They had specific ideas about my character that weren’t based in any truth. It was very painful and hurtful. I quickly realized nothing I could say would convince them otherwise. And ultimately I saw this was an opportunity for me to gain more solid state in the truth – that God knows who I am, and that is most important. That gave me great inner peace and allowed me to let go of trying to “prove” myself to my sisters. What I learned was the more I connected with my Diamond Power (the power that breathes me) and spent time increasing my self love, the less it mattered what they thought of me and that set me free.
How to Dial Down the Fear of What Other People Think
If you find yourself heading into an anxious space, worrying about what someone has said about you, or working overtime to change their opinion, try one of the following tools:
- Breathe! Trust me; breathing is a panacea for just about everything. Take a few deep breaths to center yourself – this will interrupt the thought pattern that is occurring and bring you back to peace.
- Remind yourself that you are a child of God. You are whole, and it doesn’t matter what anyone else says. You are unconditionally loved – wholey and fully.
- Tune into your vision of the woman you are and want to be. Ask yourself, “What is the truth of me? What is essential to my nature?” BE heard.
- Ask yourself if what others are saying is true? First ask yourself, is this true? If it doesn’t feel right don’t accept it as true. Let it go and understand everyone has their own perspective. On the other hand, if what the other person is saying has some validity, don’t judge or blame yourself, simply ask yourself what you can do to turn things around.
Using any one of these tools will help you to create a space for self-love and self-acceptance, which will ultimately make other peoples’ opinions irrelevant, clear the sludge off the diamond, and allow you to be in your authentic, beautiful, charismatic state.
Sparkling love,
Sherri
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by Sherri | Aug 25, 2018
Do you have a burning desire for things to change in your life yet you don’t know how or where to begin? If so, you’re not alone. Many people long for more meaningful relationships, better health, more soul satisfying careers, time and money freedom yet something always seems to get in the way of successfully anchoring into these shifts.
Can you relate? Is it one distraction or delay after another creating a slow down or backslide to your dreams? Does fear or a terrified voice creep in the moment you decide to move in a new direction?
If this is you, you’re going to love this interview with my award-winning brilliant business mentor, John Boggs. In this conversation he gives us his wise life-changing success tips for leading yourself to a calm, balanced, empowered and happy life. Oh, and this isn’t only about being a leader in business it’s about being the leader of YOU.
Because he has helped me sift through “life” many a time – teaching me how to focus and prioritize with simple solutions I wanted to share him with you. He is a true master of self-leadership!
In this interview you will learn:
- A daily practice to build self-confidence and set yourself up for success.
- A step-by-step process to get out of toxic emotional states
- The most common culprits that block self-leadership and how to overcome them
- #1 secret to moving in the direction of creating a life you love
Take the time to listen to this interview – not only is John warm and authentic, he will inspire you to believe in a possibility of a better way of life PLUS give you the success tips and strategies to do it!
Happy listening!
xo,
Sherri
PS If you enjoyed this interview you will looooove the upcoming Love Summit 2 where I interview 20 extraordinary speakers about LOVE – in every aspect of your life. Click here to join us!
by Sherri | Aug 11, 2018
In my last article, we explored the power of charisma to attract and inspire. When you connect with your charismatic nature, you shine with a light that is irresistible to the people around you. However, sometimes we inadvertently disconnect from that light by engaging in self-defeating behaviors that dim our sparkle and leave us feeling lousy.
One way to immediately lose touch with your charisma is by comparing yourself to others. Teddy Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and boy, was he right! When you compare, you engage in a thought pattern that wreaks havoc with your self-image and takes away your inner light like nothing else.
The Dangers of Comparison
We live in a society that inundates us with images of other peoples’ “perfect” lives. Whether you’re flipping through a fashion magazine or scrolling through your Facebook feed, it doesn’t take much to start believing that you’re not measuring up or living as fully as you would love.
But you have to remember that you’re only ever seeing part of the picture. Fashion photography is always touched up, and your friends on social media mostly post about the good stuff. It’s impossible to know what’s really happening with other people, so when you compare yourself to their “outer world” as you see it, you’re comparing your reality against a perception that is rarely, if ever, based in fact!
Always Remember You Are Perfect
We’re all made uniquely and masterfully. When you compare yourself to others, what you’re doing is communicating the belief that you’re flawed, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! If you’re having a hard time believing that, try these tips:
- Push pause on your thoughts of comparison. Don’t deny the thoughts and don’t judge them. Just accept that they’re coming up, take a breath and repeat to yourself, “I am enough, I am a beautiful being, I am unique.”
- Focus on the truth. Ask yourself what you know to be true. Focus on your strengths and what’s good about your life. Then ask yourself how you can be your most sparkling self at this moment. How can you be your own best friend?
- Smile at yourself. If you find yourself falling into the comparison trap, look in the mirror, wink, smile, and say, “Hi Beautiful. You’re perfect just the way you are!”
I have a client who was dating somebody on and off for quite a while. She knew she was in love with him, but they weren’t exclusive. One night, she discovered that he was out on a date with someone else. Instead of getting upset, she empowered herself by repeating this truth, “ Whoever she is, she’s not me. I am a unique, beautiful woman. I know that I am lovable and high-quality – if this is the right guy for me, he’ll see that too.”
She and that man have now been married for twenty years! Why? Because the next time they were together, she didn’t show up in an anxious, jealous headspace. She held her own, refused to fall into the comparison trap and stayed solid in who she was, which made her irresistible.
Put Your Attention on Your Intention
If you have the intention of living a fabulous life, being centered and feeling good about yourself, but you continue to let your attention go to comparison, you’re going to find it nearly impossible to close the gap between your intention and where you are now.
Direct your energy towards your intention and take steps to support yourself in achieving that goal. This will keep you moving forward and allow your beautiful, charismatic self to shine through!
Sparkling love,
Sherri
by Sherri | Aug 4, 2018
Last month, we explored a variety of ways you can step into your freedom and connect with your inner sparkle. When you’re tapped into that energy, you feel the light of God pouring through you, removing all the sludge that’s accumulated around your inner diamond so that your beautiful light can shine out into the world.
A few weeks ago 10 AWESOME and AMAZING women did just that at Soul Sparkle Retreat (pics above) – it was incredible and awe’ing to see them totally transform in less than 24 hours of their arrival. Intentions were made, fears released, hearts opened and deeply connected friendships born – that’s the power of immersion. I felt like a proud mama as I witnessed these lovely ladies LETTING GO of OLD haunting, hurtful beliefs and EMBRACING their vivacious, unique, feminine Divine essence to SHINE fully!. Simply stunning!
So this month, I want to celebrate that vibrant energy with a series of posts aimed at helping you do what these ladies did, connect with your natural charisma! You have it, it’s inside of you, all you have to do is bring it to the surface and let it shine like the bright August sun!
According to author and spiritual teacher, Marianne Williamson, charisma was initially a religious term meaning, “of the spirit,” or “inspired.” She writes, “Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects”
Click here to learn more about developing charisma.
Sparkling love,
Sherri
by Sherri | Jul 28, 2018
This month, we’ve been celebrating independence with a series of posts aimed at helping you free yourself from limiting thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors so that you can move forward with clarity while inviting more love, joy, and fun into your life. I know this might sound counterintuitive, but one of the best ways you can create and nurture a sense of freedom for yourself, is by learning how to accept others exactly as they are.
Loosen Your Grip
It’s very common to want our loved ones, kids, friends, siblings even strangers to say things or behave in ways that we find acceptable and pleasing. However, having those expectations often sets us up for disappointment. If you think about it, what we are saying with this expectancy is, “you have to act this way in order for me to feel ok”. No wonder many of us are upset and frustrated much of the time – with this belief we give our power away, reliant on others to create our state of being. What an emotional roller coaster!
Growing up in a family where my brother was the golden child I got into this habit, very early on, in regards to my mother’s behavior towards me. If she said something sharp or gave me the silent treatment, my entire mood would change and I’d either become quiet and hurt or angry and explosive. I desperately wanted her to treat me with the love and kindness she showed my brother. This created years of conflict.
One day, my mom was upset about something that she refused to discuss. After several frustrating attempts to get her to share what was wrong, I went outside to get some fresh air and cool down. All of a sudden I was inspired to pray with a specific question that came into my mind: What would love do?
It was like I’d gotten this immediate download from God. At that moment, I was able to see and feel what was happening for my mother emotionally; her hurts and disappointments in life. That shift allowed me to stop making it about me and my pain and move into a deep compassion for my mom that filled my heart and soul. When I walked back into the house, not only had this experience shifted me,it had changed her too. She opened up and told me what had been bothering her, and we were finally able to connect. This was the first time EVER and it was the beginning of a beautiful new relationship with my mom.
Tips for Becoming More Accepting of Others
As soon as I started accepting my mom for who she is, no matter what her behavior towards me, our relationship began to evolve. So, the next time you find yourself in that rigid place, working to change or fix another person, I encourage you to use the following tips:
- Take three big breaths. If someone says something that upsets you, take three big breaths before you respond. Breathing interrupts your reactive patterning and calms your central nervous system allowing you to become more neutral and peaceful. This is always a better place to come from when responding 🙂
- Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Most of the time, when we find ourselves getting angry, it’s because we think something is happening to us, but it’s far more likely that whatever is going on, has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person. Try creating a scenario. Maybe that person just got fired, or they found out their child is sick. Imagine as many possible scenarios as you can that have nothing to do with you.
- Bless the other person silently. When you bless somebody, what you’re doing is sending them love, which has the power to dissipate anger energy and allow you to approach the other person with compassion. You don’t need to do this out loud, focus your mind on the blessing and send that loving energy in the other person’s direction.
Remember to ask yourself, “What would love do?” and know that by accepting your friends, partners, and family members exactly as they are, you’re not only freeing yourself from unnecessary stress, but you’re also offering them the opportunity to be authentic and vulnerable with you, which can only benefit your relationship over the long term.
xo,
Sherri
by Sherri | Jul 21, 2018
Alright, ladies, it’s time to learn how to free yourself from mind and body fatigue!!. If you are like most women you’re on overdrive, expecting yourself to get more done in a day than you used to do in a week a decade ago. Our lives have become so busy!!! Between the career, the kids, the aging parents, family and friends we are often dropping into bed exhausted physically and mentally every night.
Would you like to change that?
Click on this interview to learn simple, quick things you can do to go from fatigued to energized AND improve your memory and mental health. Viva la freedom!
This week, I want you to focus on how to put these tips into practice to become your most vibrant, vivacious, vital Self!
Sparkling love,
Sherri
by Sherri | Jul 14, 2018
Alright, ladies, you’ve already declared to have more fun, speak your mind and take better care of yourself in July. . For this week, I want you to focus on reframing those beliefs that limit expansion and keep you from becoming your most divine, free and sparkling self.
Open Up a Corner of Your Mind
When Napoleon Hill was researching his seminal work, The Laws of Success, which would later become Think and Grow Rich, he had the opportunity to talk with Andrew Carnegie. Carnegie told Hill that he wanted him to look in the mirror every day and tell himself that he would surpass Carnegie in wealth.
To Hill that was preposterous. Carnegie was the wealthiest man in the world! But he did it. For weeks, Hill looked into the mirror and repeated the mantra that Carnegie had given him. Hill said that at first, he could barely look at himself. But by the third week, there was a little corner of his mind that started believing it was possible.
Reimagine What’s Possible for Yourself
One of my clients believed there was a glass ceiling in her industry she could not break through. She wanted to make more money and have a flexible schedule so that she could spend more time with her daughters but she had become convinced that her boss would never say yes to either.
We worked on her vision first, what it would look like and feel like to live that life. Next we discovered the beliefs that didn’t support her vision – beliefs that had been with her most of her life giving her false perceptions about what was possible for her. After reframing those new beliefs her action step was to talk with her boss…and when she did it was a home run! She ended up with higher pay than anyone in her industry, and the flexible work schedule she’d wanted!
How to Begin Reframing Your Beliefs
If you’re ready to free yourself from the beliefs that have been holding you back from achieving your heart’s desire, these tips can help.
- Create a vision. Your mind thinks in pictures, so you need to see your dreams vividly to believe they’re possible.
- Look at the fears or thoughts in conflict with that vision. Identify them, name them and then reframe them with new empowering thoughts. One way to do this is with mirror work. Just like Napoleon Hill, look in the mirror every day and speak your new beliefs out loud.
- Have the courage to act. At some point, you will need to take action and do something you may have never done before. Even though my client created new beliefs, she was still nervous and anxious about talking to her boss, but she faced that fear and did it anyway.
Remember, no matter what the outcome, you win. If it works out, fantastic! If it doesn’t, hold the belief that this is what it looks like on the way to achieving your dreams. This belief will move you forward energetically and support you on the road to building your best, most sparkling life!
If you don’t think you can believe it for yourself, let me believe it for you. I have been doing this work for ten years and have seen some incredible transformations. Whenever you’re ready to unleash your inner sparkle, I’ll be cheering you on!
xo
Sherri
by Sherri | Jul 7, 2018
If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, then you know I often talk about the importance of setting boundaries with other people. But it’s equally as important to set boundaries with yourself. Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Sherri, this whole month is about declaring my independence! Why are you talking about boundaries?” While boundaries might sound rigid, creating them is an essential first step towards setting yourself free!
Setting Boundaries Around Your Thoughts
One summer morning, I went out early, and I saw a woman walking her dog. It was a big dog, but you could tell he was still a puppy, and he was going nuts! First, there was a bird he wanted to chase, then it was a squirrel, then a gardener revved up his lawnmower, and the dog tried to dart across the street. Every time he tried to run off, his owner tugged on his collar, sometimes gently, sometimes with a little more force.
I looked at that dog, and thought, “This is how we are with our thoughts.” They take our attention here, there and everywhere. They zap our energy, hold us captive and keep us from becoming our glorious, sparkling selves. We have to rein them in just as that woman did with her dog.
Click here to discover 3 boundaries crucial to your freedom.
xo
Sherri
by Sherri | Jun 30, 2018
With July 4th right around the corner, now is the perfect time to focus on manifesting a sense of freedom in your daily life. This month’s posts will be all about helping you shake free of the thoughts, beliefs, and actions that have been holding you back from achieving your dreams, so you can declare your independence, step into your diamond power and have a sparkling good time this summer and throughout the year!
Declare to Have More Fun
One of the most common complaints I hear from women is that they don’t have fun anymore. I was talking to a client who’s attending my upcoming retreat, and I mentioned to her that we’d be doing some belly dancing to connect and liberate our feminine essence (any form of dancing is a quick, easy way to get out of our heads and into our bodies and have fun!). She commented she wasn’t much for dancing and while she didn’t say much more than that, I was pretty sure I knew why.
So many of us have a fear of looking foolish or being judged by other people. Many women don’t allow themselves the freedom to express through body movement because of these fears. Truly nothing stops the flow of fun quicker than the fear of being judged – you stiffen, contract and box yourself in – almost like putting on a straight jacket. It’s almost impossible to have fun when you feel so constrained! On the other hand, as soon as you release the fear of looking silly, you’re able to let loose and have a great time. Make the declaration that you are letting go of caring what others think and you are free to have fun!
Declare to Speak Your Truth
In my coaching practice, I meet a lot of women who are afraid to say what’s important to them because they don’t think they’ll be heard or taken seriously. But when we hold our thoughts and suppress what we want to say day in and day out, we start to feel very heavy. Speaking your truth allows you to live in integrity with yourself and honor your own needs as much as everyone else’s. It brings a lightness to your spirit, a sense of expansion and empowerment.
One of my clients recently began to speak freely with her boyfriend about things she’d never felt comfortable bringing up before. She’d always been careful to think about what was in his best interests, and now she’s addressing what’s in her best interests as well. He was a little surprised at first and didn’t know how to react to this change in her behavior, but she feels incredibly empowered and free.
When you start speaking your truth, you may find that others don’t respond well at first, because they are used to you being and acting in a certain way. Know that by speaking up and setting new boundaries not only are you growing, but you are actually providing them with the opportunity to grow too, even if it doesn’t look like it initially. Believe me, it’s a win/win!
Declare to Nourish Your Mind, Body, and Well-Being
You may decide that this is the month you’re going to release those last five pounds you’ve been holding onto or finally get back into your favorite old jeans that have been hanging in your closet for two years. If so, fantastic! AND you can also make July the month you start meditating/praying, moving your body more or getting more sleep. This declaration is about being more caring to yourself and your body, worrying less about everyone else and focusing on what makes you feel like your most gorgeous, sparkling self.
Declare to Create Balance in Your Life
Just because the kids are out of school doesn’t mean that you have to be at their beck and call every second of the day. Set some boundaries and declare your freedom from the commitments you don’t want to make. Start saying “no” instead of “yes,” and don’t feel guilty about it! Your life doesn’t have to revolve around your kids’ and other people’s demands.
Which of these declarations speak to you? Do you have one of your own for July? Leave a comment below and tell me how you’re going to revel in your freedom this summer!
xo
Sherri
