“THE YOUNG BOY said to his grandfather, ‘I have two wolves barking inside of me. The first wolf is filled with anger, hatred, bitterness, and mostly revenge. The second wolf inside of me is filled with love, kindness compassion and mostly forgiveness. Which wolf do you think will win?’

The grandfather responded, ‘Whichever one you feed.’”
~Wayne Dyer

Wow what truth!

Take a minute and ask yourself, “which wolf do I feed?”

And then take it a step further and reflect on which wolf feasts when you are going through a rough time. Do you bring in the second wolf of self-love or do you stuff the wolf of self-bashing?

How do you treat yourself? Be honest. It has everything to do with your happiness.

If you are constantly beating yourself up with judgment, criticism and guilt you aren’t going to have the mental or physical strength to presence as the woman you want to be.

On the other hand, if you support yourself with gentle, kind nurturing thoughts it’s going to be much easier to feel joyful and show up as the empowered leading lady of your life.

The Greek philosopher Epictetus said: “First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.”

So who do you want to be?

It’s important to have a clear vision and knowing of who you want to be and equally important to take actions that support your desire.

First create a clear picture of who that woman is –design her from the inside out. A great way to do this is to sit with a journal and write down character traits and qualities that inspire you or that you admire and wish to adopt.

Next thumb through magazines – what style of dressing attracts you and expresses your personality and feminine essence?

If you find one picture that says it all rip it out and put it where you’ll see it daily (when I was divorcing I found a picture of Manola Blahnik shoes that symbolized everything I wanted to become and put it on my bulletin board at work – LOL – but hey, just looking at it lifted my spirits!)

You may also find several pictures that speak to you and create a collage. The idea is to become clear about who you want to become and stay focused on this.

Next you want to notice what stops you from becoming this unforgettable woman. What thoughts run through your mind, what fears paralyze you and keep you stuck?

What lies are you telling yourself about what’s possible for you. What negative voices are telling you, “ha, who are you kidding, you’ll never pull that off, you’re too old, not good enough, not special enough …blah, blah, blah – feeding that annoying attack wolf again.

Whoooah, let’s pause, take a breath and turn this wolf around!

How, you might ask, do you do that?

Click here to learn my successful 3-step process to develop more self-love.

Are you, like so many women over 40, having trouble accepting your age?

Do you find yourself looking in the mirror and thinking YIKES!! Maybe saying to yourself, “OMG, where did that new wrinkle come from? And…whoooah look at those puffy dark circles (note to self – stop at Sephora immediately for ‘bag’ control )…eeeesh nose hairs, what is happening to me???

Many of my clients have confided they are having a tough time accepting that they are getting older. They feel like they’ve lost their sparkly sex appeal and are downright depressed about the reflection staring back at them.

What about you?

Would you like to feel better about aging? Accept the inevitable with grace and ease? Be able to connect with that part of you that’s confident and ignore the inner critic, that big fat judge that won’t budge?

Do you want to feel beautiful in WHO you are? Confident and comfortable in your skin.

So how do you get there?

In this video, I share two powerful questions that I give my clients when they need to get clear about their inner diamond value.

You will also learn how to ignore your evil twin (the one who sits on a soap box in your mind and fills you with bad juju thoughts) and instead tune into your inner angel – the one who will help you fall back in love with yourself.

Watch this video to feel fabulous and sexy no matter what your age!

If you are struggling with feeling good and want a formula to get your mojo back click here to schedule a chat and I’ll give you all I’ve got in 30 minutes.

Do you start getting anxious at the beginning of February? Knowing this is THE most celebrated month of love….and yes, Valentines Day is just around the corner?

Take a moment to think about this. If you aren’t experiencing the love you desire are you silently slinking inward, wondering what’s wrong with you and unwittingly closing off your heart creating a barricade against love? The truth is many of us put up barriers around our hearts – we just don’t realize it right away.

You don’t have to be single to dread Valentines Day – its just as stressful, if not more so, if your heart is shut down, or you feel alone in your relationship.

Why is this important?

In the weeks leading up to Valentines Day, we are bombarded with images both on TV and social media, with a very consumer driven view of what love is, or should be.

A client of mine shared with me that she used to be disappointed if her man didn’t make a big deal about Valentine’s Day! She’d get really upset if there were no roses, no dinner, or special gift that made her feel adored. Really? Was this love?

Here’s why this is relevant:

We all want to experience deeply connected love. Being in a healthy, loving relationship is a rewarding and fulfilling life experience! But sometimes, without even realizing it, women can close off their heart and block out love.

Thinking everyone else’s needs are more important than our own we disconnect from ourselves. This is a way we stop loving ourselves. When we stop loving ourselves we begin to close off parts of our heart to others too.

How does this happen?

Click here to find out how we close off our hearts and learn 5 tips to open to love 

I’ve been thinking about you and want to give you a free Sparkle consult…Yay!

I just cleared my schedule to make sure we have a chance to chat…

I’ve been getting a lot of questions from ladies about the upcoming SPARKLE group coaching program and you may also be wondering if this is the right course for you – or if some other course or coaching might be a better fit…

Because truthfully this program isn’t for everyone…

It’s a great fit if you’re really looking to get unstuck quickly and become the most happy, love-filled version of yourself by summer.

If this sounds like YOU:

Claim your free consult right now by clicking here or by going directly to my online scheduler:

http://www.vcita.com/v/b7907c97/online_scheduling#/schedule

***If you don’t see a time that accommodates your busy life, please send an email to Sherri@UnleashYourSparkle.com with “Love to chat Sherri!” in the subject line and 3-4 time options (include your time zone) between Monday the 2^nd and Friday the 6^th and we will get you scheduled)

Even though I’ve cleared my schedule next week there are still a very limited amount and they will go fast…

To give you an idea what’s possible for you, here are some successes happening right now in the current SPARKLE group:

“I have been doing the Psych-K exercise regularly since Sherri introduced it to me in the program: “I am enough just as I am for myself and for others.” Intellectually, I have known this for some time but the exercise has helped me to allow this belief into my Heart and my Body. Feeling and knowing that I am enough helps me to walk through the world with more confidence and to be more compassionate with myself and with others.” ~ R.F., Vermont

“…I have recommitted to myself. My new belief is, “I am worthy of a loving and respectful relationship”. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing my sparkle back!” ~ S.J., UK

“ In the visualization exercise I was able to feel the love within myself and don’t need to depend on other people for approval or love. I was able to feel that I don’t need to be the most important person to someone else. I now know I am important because I was created by GODS hands…thank you SHERRI…” ~ D.F. Netherlands

If you are clear you want to have more confidence, sparkle and self-love in your life grab your appointment with me now before they’re all gone:

Book your free private consult right here 

I can’t wait to chat with you!

Smiling hugs,

Ready, aim, fire! You’ve claimed your courage ready to make 2015 YOUR YEAR and fly to the moon!

The thirst for a life you love is so strong you can taste it. Ahhh… to have the freedom to be bold, beautiful and bodacious – to finally lift the veil and be seen – to easily express the many facets of your femininity.

Yes, yes and hell YES!

Until your best friend questions what you’re doing, your honey isn’t thrilled with the new you and things start getting hard – the curve balls have arrived.

Anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. So, how do you stay the course and overcome the challenges that pepper the path to your dreams?

The first step is to recognize that a challenge is not a dead end. Indeed it’s a growth opportunity – a chance to become more mentally strong, develop your self-worth, own your value.

When a challenge arises, it’s important to keep a positive mindset and not to give up. After all, a detour on the way to work wouldn’t keep you from getting to your end destination. So why would you let a detour on the path to your dream keep you from reaching your aspirations?

Today I’m going to share the 3 most common obstacles people encounter on the way to their dream and how to recognize these culprits and lasso them.

Viva la dream building!

Click here to read the 3 biggest obstacles to achieving your dream and 3 solutions.

As 2015 gets underway there’s a gnawing theme taking shape within me– EXPANSION. Giving more, growing more, living more into my souls desires and purpose.

How about you?

What do you want to create, bring in, live into?

Wherever you are with your plans for the New Year, I want to shake things up for you. Just as I realized in order to expand I’ll have to live on the edge of my comfort zone, so will you if you want to live your best life.

Scary? You bet.

But wow – garnering your gumption to step outside the box can also be exhilarating and create the confidence you crave to be the leading lady of your life.

You see, living your BEST year involves a commitment to a way of being. It’s realizing that life is full of choices and that we are each empowered to make choices that bring us the most joy, the most growth and the most fulfillment.

For me that means overcoming the fear of being judged, being seen. Not caring what others think, staying true to my inner guidance even when it’s in conflict with those I love.

What does it mean for you?

Last year I learned a powerful lesson from listening to a group of iconic women. They shared their secrets to a happy and fulfilling life. What do you think they said?

If you guessed taking risks and stepping out of your safety zone you are right on the money.

According to these inspiring women, that’s when life becomes magical and you are truly living into your genius and greatness.

As motivating as that sounds you may be saying to yourself, “That seems rather terrifying, I’m getting anxious just thinking about it. My life may be a bit boring and routine but that’s not so bad – at least I know what to expect and I like being in control…”

Does this sound familiar?

In the spirit of this theme I am committed to speaking my truth – even if it’s a little risky -because I want to shake things up for people and nudge them in the direction of their bliss.

So here goes…living a routine life will suck your spirit dry! You’ll be parched, wilted, lifeless, dreamless with about as much energy as a sloth on a hot summer day. It’s time to follow your dreams and drink deeply from the well of the unknown. The excitement of the risk will make you feel vibrant and alive!

Now you might be thinking, “How does one do that?”

Fortunately all it takes is an intention to make 2015 the year you live fully, a willingness to be open to new experiences, and a commitment to bring forth consistent courage.

This means reflecting, identifying and overcoming those things that keep you in your rut. Then coming up with new behaviors and structures that are in alignment with who you want to become; the you that embraces life and all it’s opportunities; the you that is determined to live your best life one choice at a time.

To get you started I want to share an exercise I adopted from self-love author, Christine Arylo. If you’ve been in the SPARKLE community more than a year you might remember these 3 tips I suggested you take action on at the beginning of 2014. They are so powerful and energizing I suggest you do them now for 2015 and then rinse and repeat every January of your life.

You’ll need three pieces of paper and a pen – go ahead and get that now.

1 ) On one page write down all the physical stuff you don’t want to bring into 2015 – items that take up space and keep you attached to the past. Next take action to clear it out. Get rid of old clothes or trinkets that remind you of unhappy times or unhealthy people. Bag it up and throw it out. Or even better, donate it to a charity. Clearing out the physical stuff that keeps you attached to negative memories will free you from both the physical and emotional baggage. Move it out and move forward sister!

2 ) On the second page write down all the relationships you want to release and/or set the intention you only want to have joyful and happy relationships. I had to release a relationship that was toxic as well as release the expectation that the relationship could change. If you are releasing unhealthy connections, send love to those you are releasing and then let go. To physically symbolize this release, you can burn the list in a safe place like your fireplace.

3 ) On the third page list the emotional things you don’t want to bring into 2015 – this can be old limiting patterns that don’t serve you anymore like guilt, shame, blame, avoidance, anger, sadness. It might be obligations, or unhealthy habits. I’m giving up the fear of being judged – letting others determine my worth. That creates a contracted state (hiding, self-doubt, second guessing, self-criticism, scarcity, not enough) and does not align with my 2015 theme of expansion. I’m choosing to master my mind and empower myself with healthy thoughts and behaviors.

Doing this exercise will make you feel lighter and as you feel lighter you’ll begin to feel more energized and open. As you feel more energized and open, you’ll begin to feel more confident and as you feel more confident you’ll be more willing to take risks.

Voila! You are now living on the edge of your comfort zone totally empowered to have your best year ever!

For anyone struggling to realize your dreams, you’re going to love this opportunity to take you to the next level of really LIVING your dreams.

If you want you can stop reading and check out the opportunity right now:

DreamBuilder LIVE event

I remember stepping into 2014 with a mission – stop living life like it’s a dress rehearsal and start living out loud. A burning desire to be of higher service became the focus of my year – mind you I had no idea what that looked like or how to make it happen – so I prayed and trusted I would be guided.

Sure enough I was led to attend a life-changing event that taught me how to live “as if” my vision was already happening (nothing like ” The Secret” – remember that movie? I watched it 60 times and never saw a single result. DreamBuilder LIVE is the real thing). I’ll never forget the tears that streamed down my face during an exercise where I literally felt myself living my dream – to say it was powerful would be an understatement.

I left the event with an incredible peace – still not knowing HOW it was going to happen but having that inner knowing that it WOULD happen.

After the event, to be honest, I got busy and kinda forgot about it until a few months later when a tremendous opportunity landed in my lap. An invitation to go to Africa to be of service – to speak to a group of 400 teachers on issues of women’s empowerment and leadership in Liberia and deliver water systems to 3 villages.  I was thrilled and immediately remembered “the event” I had attended that allowed me to have the dream – my friend and mentor Mary Morrissey’s DreamBuilder LIVE.

This provided me with a HUGE lesson – permit yourself to dream, really FEEL it to be true, TRUST if it’s meant to happen the opportunity will present and then… LET IT GO.

DreamBuilder LIVE is a life transforming experience. You won’t see things the same way afterwards. You will truly have new eyes. The results you’ll create will take your life to awhole new level just like it did mine. I want that for you

If you haven’t heard of Mary Morrissey, here are just a few of her credentials: best-selling author of 3 books, had her own PBS special, created 2 multi-million dollar businesses, spoke 3 times at the United Nations, held week-long meetings with His Holiness The Dalai Lama, the list goes on and on… you know I only steer you to the cream of the crop – and that would be Mary – you will LOVE HER!

The normal public ticket rate for Mary’s DreamBuilder LIVE is $1495 but she is allowing me to offer it to you for $329 – it’s an exclusive Friends & Family rate for the people I care about. (Yes, you!) I LOVE IT when I get to bring you the very best stuff like this!

But that amazing rate is NOT FIXED. It will keep going UP as we get closer to the event (in January) or until tickets sell out. So grab your spot now:

DreamBuilder LIVE event

Let me just say that this is THE international manifest-your-dreams event of the year, and it ALWAYS sells out.

You’ll create a vision for your life, network with heart-centered professionals from all over the world, and make quantum leaps in your business and personal wealth building strategies!

DreamBuilder LIVE has huge momentum now, with people flying in year after year from all over the world to be there (50+ countries!).

Listen to what attendees have had to say about this amazing event by watching the video on the registration page

All I can say is: You definitely want to be in that room where dreams are born. This is an event that truly transforms lives. But the tickets sell out super fast every time, and the Friends & Family rate will keep increasing as the event approaches, so don’t miss out!

Here’s that link to the private “friends and family” website. This is a very high-class event, and you can go for the cost of materials. My advice is: Jump on it!

DreamBuilder LIVE event

I can’t wait to hear about your experience

Happy Sparkling New Year Dahhhhling!

Today is a very special day – it’s a day to dream, to blossom, to expand, to recommit to living as the off the charts happy, fun-loving, successful (whatever that means to you) person you were born to be.

If you are like most people you’re setting goals and resolutions for 2015. Seeing it as a chance to start fresh – to do things differently than last year, change those habits that kept you from living the life you REALLY want.

The truth is, as most of you know either from personal experience or observing loved ones, very few people actually realize their resolutions. The initial excitement wears off, “triggers” get the best of you, nasty radiance robbers get super clingy and those sabotaging habits win out.

BUT…here’s something you may not know – there are ways change happens and ways change doesn’t.

After hearing renowned author and psychologist, Dr. Henry Cloud, speak at my church about how to create success with resolutions, I wanted to share his research with you so you can make sure you get the change you desire this year.

Let 2015 be the year you learn how to make change happen!

Click here to read the full article and learn how to make this new year truly different and make the change you’ve been promising yourself.

Sometimes you hear something and it’s shocking – really floors you.

That’s how I felt when I discovered 3 out of 4 women experience chronic stress. And now with all the holiday extra’s thrown in, it could be even higher.

Mama mia how to keep your sparkle with all that radiance robbing going on?!

So be honest, how are YOU holding up? Do you have a plan in place to combat the seasons stress bandits?

As a woman you know all too well how stress can affect your energy leaving you feeling tired and out of sorts. It’s easy to lose sight of your divine radiance when you’re juggling the day-to-day demands of life. Even the most evolved woman will occasionally feel out of touch with her strengths.

Can I be honest with you? I’m right there with you – the last few weeks have been rough both professionally and personally with my dad back in the hospital.

So I did something that brought peace AND joy back into my heart and I’d like to share it with you in hopes that it will help you get happy too.

It’s something so easy and simple. Sometimes we forget how easy it is to get out of the rabbit hole to feel “whole” again.

A few of my friends and I went to my church’s Christmas musical program a few days ago and just sitting in such a sacred space, listening to beautiful Christmas carols completely took away my stress and anxiety and brought me to a place of peace and serenity.

Sometimes we forget how easy it is to get out of the rabbit hole to feel “whole” again.

Music, sound vibration has the ability to shake out the discord.

Did you know the vibration of sound has many effects on both the conscious and the unconscious levels allowing powerful shifts to occur? The influence of sound can energize, uplift, and rejuvenate the feminine spirit.

Sound is an unseen awesome energy – think of the opera singer that hits a high note and breaks glass. Although you cannot physically see the energy of the music you know it’s forceful because the glass breaks. Pretty amazing, right?

Here are a few other wondrous benefits of music:

• Helps you to be wholly aligned with your feminine essence
• Increases confidence as a woman
• Attunes you to the inherent joy of life
• Fully connects you to your own sensuality and beauty
• Releases anxiety and surrender the need to control
• Taps into intuition allowing wiser decisions and greater clarity
• Feel sexier, healthier, lighter, stronger, and deliciously feminine

The healing vibrations of music will help you to get rid of unhealthy, negative energy so that you can easily access your natural feminine power, balance your spirit, bring peace, and connect to your sensual, radiant, divine essence – .empowering you to shine your brightest this season.

In other words you can BREATHE again and get back to your feminine sparkling mojo! Hallelujah!!!

Whether you attend a musical program at your place of worship, go to a concert, tune into your favorite radio station, put on Pandora or find some rockin carolers to listen to – take the time to treat yourself to a musical bath. You will feel your stress melt away and your vibrancy come back to life. AND as you begin to shimmer and shine again your kids, friends and family will get the ripple effect making the holidays merrier than ever.

Make the decision right now to listen to something you love – what will that be? Choose it and take action on it today!

One important thing I’ve learned about living a life of happiness that’s full of richness is that it requires one very special ingredient – FUN!

No matter what is going on in your life if you are able to laugh and play you can endure anything! When you are having fun the heavy veils lift, the sky’s open and fairy dust comes pouring down to brighten your heart and give you a fresh perspective.

This time of year is perfect to add some fun into your life – there are so many festive things to do for the holidays.

Are you in?

I know you have a lot on your plate this month but before you say you don’t have time consider the cost of pushing yourself to exhaustion:

Woudn’t it be great to give your mind and body a break? To love yourself enough to say, “Hey, I deserve to enjoy my life and I know if I’m happy that’s going to flow out to my kids, partner, friends, co-workers and make everyone’s life happier!”

And that’s the key – it’s our connection to self and others that gives life it’s richness and adds meaning to our precious time on earth.

There is a ton you can do on your own or with friends and family this month.  Click here to read the full article.  I have some annual traditions I’ll share with you plus other idea’s you can engage in to bring a sparkle to your soul.