You’ve got a dream, a goal, ambition and you’re ready to take the world by storm. Woo hoo!
But, wait, why are there so many darn potholes on the road to your desires?
Anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. So, how do you move past these roadblocks on the path to your bright future?
The first step is to recognize that a roadblock is not a dead end.
When a challenge arises, it’s important to stay connected to your “why” and not to give up. Why do you want this particular thing? As long as you keep this in the forefront of your mind you can recenter, refocus and recommit.
After all, a detour on the way to work wouldn’t keep you from getting to your end destination. So why would you let a detour on the path to your dream keep you from reaching your aspirations?
Today I’m going to share the 3 most common obstacles people encounter on the way to their dream and how to recognize these culprits and move past them.
This way, when you encounter an obstacle you can say, “Out of my way! I’m on course for my dream life!“
Viva la dream building!
Click here to learn how to “clear your road” of these obstacles!!!
Time to say sayonara to 2016 and let the New Year Begin!!!
Rather than setting resolutions, make a courageous commitment to living on the edge of your comfort zone. You sure would be in good company considering Dianne Feinstein and a bevy of other iconic females I saw interviewed said the key to a happy and fulfilling life involves taking risks and stepping out of your safety zone.
According to these empowered women, that’s when life becomes magical and you are truly living into your genius and greatness.
As inspiring as that sounds you may be saying to yourself, “That seems kinda scary. My life may be a bit boring but routine suits me because I know what to expect and I like being in control…” sound familiar?
In the spirit of this theme I am committed to speaking my truth – even if it’s a little risky -because I want to shake things up for people and nudge them in the direction of their bliss.
So here goes…living a routine life will suck your spirit dry! You’ll be parched, wilted, lifeless, dreamless with about as much energy as a sloth on a hot summer day. It’s time to follow your dreams and drink deeply from the well of the unknown. The excitement of the risk will make you feel vibrant and alive!
Now you might be thinking, “How does one do that?” Truth be told all it takes is an intention to make 2017 the year you live fully, a willingness to be open to new experiences, and a commitment to bring forth consistent courage.
This means reflecting, identifying and overcoming those things that keep you in your rut. Then coming up with new behaviors and structures that are in alignment with who you want to become; the you that embraces life and all its opportunities; the you that is determined to look back at your life with no regrets.
Here’s an exercise to get you started. Go ahead and grab 3 pieces of paper and a pen and begin writing:
- Page #1 – write down all the relationships you want to release and/or set the intention you only want to have joyful and happy relationships. Send love to those you are releasing and then burn the list in a safe place like your fireplace.
- Page #2 – write down all the physical stuff you don’t want to bring into 2017 – items that take up space and keep you attached to the past. Next take action to clear it out. That may mean pictures that remind you of relationships that went south, clothing that no longer fits or makes you feel good, paperwork and clutter! Move it out and move it forward sister!
- Page #3 – list the emotional things or habits/patterns you don’t want to bring into 2017 – this can be old limiting patterns that don’t serve you anymore or emotional habits like guilt, shame, blame, avoidance, anger, sadness. It might be obligations, or unhealthy habits. I’m releasing a pattern of working long hours – in the New Year I want to spend more time with the people I love AND make time for love! I’m committed to creating more balance in my life by slowing down and choosing my work projects carefully. What emotions or patterns are you going to release?
Doing this exercise will make you feel lighter, clear and more confident. As you feel more confident you’ll be more willing to take risks. Voila! You are now living on the edge of your comfort zone.
Have you ever been brought to your knees with totally unexpected news?
I’m talking gut wrenching, kicked in the stomach information that scrambles your brain. News that alters the course of your life in a split second.
I sure have. It can literally suck the life out of you. If you’ve been there, you know what I’m talking about, right?
Whether it’s your husband telling you he no longer loves you and wants out, or your doctor’s office calling with a dire diagnosis or suddenly suffering the loss of a loved one – you can feel lost and scared.
Besides courage and commitment there is another VERY IMPORTANT component to getting to the other side of your crisis. A powerful tool.
Watch this video now to discover this powerful tool.
In this video I am privileged to interview a woman I greatly admire – my good friend and colleague, Relationship Coach, Michelle Marchant Johnson. She shares with vulnerability and from the depths of her heart a life changing time in her life. Standing on the other side of where she wanted to be she discovered a powerful tool, THE key component, that took her to a higher ground and bridged the gap.
This tool will help you too – no matter what is going on in your life.
If you want this tool for yourself, watch this video now. This conversation is raw and beautiful – full of wisdom and practical tips on what you can do if you find yourself in less than lovely circumstances.
Make sure you watch it to the end – Michelle reveals a wonderful opportunity for you.
Are the holidays bringing you down? With basically 2 weeks left till we bring in the New Year, are you happy with where you are at for the year?
Or…have you spent 2016 wrestling in a rut and you don’t know how to get out? Maybe you were broadsided with a relationship ending that was totally unexpected and you feel sad. Stuck. Stalled.
Or…you didn’t get that promotion or lose that weight or write that book.
All those big hopes and dreams you once had for yourself seem like they’re on a distant horizon, miles away and no longer in sight.
Being stuck can really take a toll on you emotionally making it hard to be happy and to feel confident as a woman. You don’t know what to do to get unstuck, so you shrink up and silently suffer.
I just got off the phone with a woman who shared she is going through a divorce after 37 years of marriage and is devastated – she can barely make it through the day and the holidays just make it worse.
You may not be experiencing the same thing, but you may have your own disappointment with thoughts like, “This is NOT how I thought my life would turn out, not what I signed up for, not what I was expecting.”
If you’ve been feeling this way, or have ever felt boxed-in, it’s time to end the needless suffering and frustration. There’s a simple solution that will empower you and get you moving toward a bright future. It’s simple – not always easy but always effective…make a new choice and you will find yourself in a new reality.
Yes!! You have the power of choice! Choose to get unstuck, choose to stop feeling miserable, choose to be more disciplined.
I can totally relate…there was a time I was very unhappy with my circumstances – I had reached a real low. I remember saying, ENOUGH! I was fed up and knew if I kept doing the same old thing I would keep getting the same disappointing results. I made a promise to myself to change – thinking if not now, when? If I don’t do it now will I ever?
So I chose to engage in new behaviors and daily discipline. Was it easy? Honestly it was scary as heck and in the beginning I felt very wobbly – but after a week I got into a groove and within a month my life had changed so dramatically it seemed a miracle had graced me. Those new choices gave me a new wonderful reality.
The same is possible for you! Your new choices can be anything from changing your physical location to changing your attitude or perspective.
Whether single, divorcing or married, there are many circumstances or environments you may wish you weren’t in. The key is not to let your circumstances have you.
You always have two choices: Keep things status quo ( and miserable) or choose a new reality ( and empower yourself).
Creating a new reality starts by making new choices. There are always different options available in every situation and it is up to you to decide what you want for your life. Make it a habit to choose that which will empower you and make you most happy.
Our insightful forefather, Abraham Lincoln, says, “People are about as happy as they decide to be.” If you think about it, there is such wisdom in his statement. How you live your life is nothing more than a mind-set and the choices you make.
If you choose not to change your mind-set you’ll experience the following three things:
- Attract more of the same – living a Ground Hog’s day existence.
- Anxiety or annoyance – creating a negative vibe.
- Discomfort to those around you. Yes, your mood directly affects those around you.
You may think you have the best poker face in town but your vibes speak volumes. Not only can you not hide your inner thoughts, they are magnetically attracting an equivalent match and bringing you more of what you don’t want. And you don’t want that sister!
If you do not ditch this energy, you’ll wake up with it and start your day behind the eight ball and have another crappy day. On the other hand, if you choose to create a new reality you will empower yourself and your life.
Here’s an example:
One of my clients, Janine, did a brilliant job of changing her reality with her husband. She and her husband of 30-plus years were having a lot of marital problems. They had been living like roommates for several months and nowhere near as close as she desired. She had just enrolled in a course with me and decided to listen to one of the bonus calls with a sensuality expert who gave lots of tips on how to seduce your man without saying a word.
One night she decided to try out a suggested seductive pose along with other flirty techniques she learned. When she heard her husband drive up she got into a curvy, sexy pose but he barely noticed her. She didn’t take it personally because she remembered the expert saying men need a woman to look at them at least four times before they “get it.”
God love her, she did not give up! Nor did she allow her husband’s non-responsiveness to shut her down. Instead, she patiently continued to pose every chance she got and noticed something was starting to change inside of her — she started to feel good about herself and continued for her own pleasure.
Low and behold her husband suddenly locked eyes with her; they flirted and kissed and had the most passionate night she could remember in ages! She was giddy with excitement and shared that she felt sensuous, feminine and fabulous.
It’s no coincidence that he noticed and wanted her exactly when she got to this point — she was dwelling in the sweet spot of her magnificence without any external need of attention.
That’s the secret we learn: When we are in right relationship with ourselves and take responsibility to make choices that make us happy all good things flow to and from us.
It’s a valuable lesson for anyone wishing to get unstuck. Whenever you are in a situation that doesn’t make you happy, remind yourself that choices are always available to you. Make a conscious decision to choose that which will empower you and bring you the most joy.
Just a slight shift in your perspective can bring a 180-degree change in your reality. It may also open a door to learn something new about yourself and most certainly the realization that you have the power to create your reality.
The choice is always yours; stay stuck or create a new reality like the sparkling soul you are. Who will you choose to be?
Wow, are we really in the “nth” hour of 2016? Can you believe it??
You may have had a really tough year and are looking forward to saying sayyyy-onnnn-ara!!!. That’s probably true for many people. On the other hand, there is no doubt you’ve had some real gem moments that may need to be mined from the last year.
Whether you’ve had high times or low times, there is some great wisdom to be had in all of it… if you know how to look for it.
Something I like to do at the end of the year is a “real” reflection because if you are anything like me, there is a tendency to focus on what didn’t get done. Right? Mama mia that can take you right down the rabbit hole!
So today I’m sharing this year end tradition with you; it’s perfect to do right now before you get caught up in all the holiday glitz and blitz.
This tradition I started several years ago is not only easy and fun, it helps me see all the good things that happened; clear the chaos and clutter to GET the lesson, and sets me up for a spectacular and exciting New Year.
What I’m talking about involves 3 simple questions:
- What did I accomplish this year? Get your planner out and spend 15 minutes looking back to remind yourself of all your wins! This includes both emotional and physical accomplishments. Maybe you stood up to your mother and set a boundary, or made a choice to eat healthy foods that nourish and make you feel energized. Maybe you ran a 10K or realized what love really means or volunteered your time. Look at every little thing that moved you forward. Write it down with pride! I like to make this a fun poster that makes my heart smile by using colorful glitter glue and rhinestone stickers. Celebrate YOU!
- What am I leaving behind? Look at lessons learned and ways of being that you are going to ditch. Maybe you were overly responsible and now you are going to let go of blaming yourself when things go awry. Or perhaps you are a woman of independence and you are going to let go of doing everything yourself and ask, dare I say it, for help! It could be you had unhealthy eating habits and you are going to let go of indulging to fill a void and bring in some new empowering behaviors. Possibly you have a closet full of clothes yet you wear the same 5 outfits over and over again and know it’s time to heave-ho ( yes that includes that little black dress you wore with the one you thought was “the one” and your heart sinks every time you look at it- get it out!). You are becoming the leading lady of your life!!! Hallelujah to that sister!
- What would I love in 2017? Get yourself a calendar, some colorful pens and use your imagination to create a life of passion! Start by thinking of all the things that you would love to do and fill in your calendar for the whole year. Decide when and how many vacations you want to take; how many fun days a month will you give yourself? Are there retreats or training’s you’d like to attend for physical, spiritual or mind blowing expansion? Make sure to include a bucket list item or two or three LOL. Taking control of how you spend your time will create a much more balanced and happy life.
As Margaret Wheatley said, “Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.”
Answering the above 3 questions will make you feel lighter and as you feel lighter you’ll begin to feel more energized and open. As you feel more energized and open, you’ll step into the New Year with more confidence.
It’s time to make a change! Gather your gumption and give this a go! You’ll be glad you did!
I would love to hear about your reflections!
Leave a comment below and let me know:
1 thing you did this year that you are proud of…
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1 thing you are letting go of…
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1 fun thing you are adding to your 2017 calendar…
Do you ever feel like life is coming at you like a tsunami?
Is it hard for you to stay in your loving, feminine Self when you are in overdrive and feeling overwhelmed?
Especially at this holiday time when everyone is tugging at you and there is so much to do. It sure is exhausting isn’t it? And it doesn’t make you feel very “womanly”, right?
Honestly a lot of women struggle with this because most of us are taught how to make other people happy, how to sacrifice our needs…and made to feel selfish if we want a more pleasurable life… Click here to find out how to “Stay Sexy When Stressed”
The holidays are here and millions of women are dreading them… what about you?
Are you feeling all warm, toasty and aglow with the excitement of spending time with loved ones OR is there some stress and anxiety bubbling up with the thought of going through another holiday season alone or feeling alone and disconnected?
While this time of year has tons of joyous potential, it can dredge up less than sparkling feelings of depression, loneliness and isolation.
Which is why I was excited when Jen, one of our community sisters, unhappy in her relationship, wrote in for help. Her question caught my attention. She asked…
“How do I overcome the stress and anxiety of the holidays and experience more love?”
If you’re feeling anxious and lonely in anticipation of the holidays this Sherri Live episode is for you.
You’ll learn a simple 3-step formula to combat the holiday blues – which increasingly is becoming a real problem for lots of women of every age, socio economic standing and relationship status. For many, it’s a situation they feel a sense of shame or embarrassment over.
Can you relate to the anxiety, emptiness and sadness that can often accompany the holidays?
Because I know these feelings are very real for some of you at this time of year I’ve opened up my calendar to support you. You don’t have to do this alone!
Click here to chat and get the support you need.
Remember, no matter what your relationship status, no matter what is going on in your life, YOU DESERVE LOVE!
One thing I’ve noticed over the years is how important girlfriend bonding is for women. Studies show living a happy and empowered life that is rich and fulfilling can’t be done alone. It’s our connection to others that gives life it’s richness and adds meaning to our precious time on this planet.
Do you know what one of the most powerful things is about spending time with your friends? Aside from the support, connection and fun you have together, when we share and bond we release this really powerful happy hormone – Oxytocin. It flows thru the body and makes us feel fantastic. Isn’t that cool?
It’s a natural feel good cocktail for the soul. Ahhhhhhh.
Which is why it’s so important to stay in touch with your friends – hey, I know life gets crazy with family and work but your friends help you stay connected to that carefree life we had before all the major responsibilities became our priority.
When I reflect on my own life from the curve-balls of the death of my first boyfriend and crumbling of my marriage to new adventures and fun girlfriend getaways, my friends made it better.
They love you, laugh with you, and stand by your side when facing fears and upsets. They validate that you are not alone, crazy, or paranoid. They inspire, support and uplift you, providing the type of therapy that no money can buy because it’s all wrapped in loving care.
As a matter of fact, research now tells us friendships are even more critical to our health and well-being than family relationships. Just one more reason to revel in the joys of girl time!
We all want to be happy and to feel good so I’ve got a fun exercise that will put a smile on your face and will brighten not only your day but will uplift a friend as well.
Since this is the month of thanks giving – I thought it would be appropriate to share the Girlfriend Gratitude Challenge! Super fun way to increase the love in your heart 🙂
This Challenge is designed to help you celebrate the magic and wonder of female friendship. It will shift you out of any unpleasant emotion and fill up your heart with love in seconds!!
I’m all in – will you join me Sparkle sister?
The Girlfriend Gratitude Challenge:
1) Every day this month take a moment and give a silent prayer of thanks for each and every one of your friends.
2) Then, let them know what a difference they’ve made in your life by sending them a card, giving a call, or sending a heartfelt email or text.
Make their day as they’ve so often made yours, by letting them know how grateful you are for their love, laughter, and support.
When you take the time to celebrate and acknowledge your friends it will increase your love and happiness vibration, and theirs as well. If there is something in particular that you remember they’ve done for you, mention it specifically – that will be even more meaningful for both of you.
Let’s fill each other with love ladies and start the Challenge today!!!
Ever look in the mirror and wonder, where did that happy-go-lucky, fun-loving woman go – who have I become?
Or see other ladies with attentive and adoring partners fawning all over them and wonder what do they have that I don’t?
When you want a richly romantic, passionate, soulful connection and no one is showing up (whether you’re single or in a relationship) it can be really frustrating. Know what I mean?
The solution is actually simpler than you might imagine. The key to happily ever after can be found in these three secrets:
#1 – Confidence: men find women with confidence positively irresistible and sexy. Confidence says you genuinely love and respect yourself. You exude an energy that’s magnetic, magical and mesmerizing. You know who you are and what you want. You don’t expect others to create your happiness. You take responsibility for your joy and you know how to create your joy, independently of others. This takes the pressure off your significant other and lures them in to your wild and wondrous web of fabulosity.
A super tip and quick way to build confidence is to do something outside your comfort zone every day. Being brave and taking bold steps builds confidence pronto.
#2 Sparkle: the first place to start is getting back your sparkle. This means “BEING” in “LOVE”! Many people interpret “being in love” in an other oriented way – I’m in love with my husband/boyfriend, I’m in love with my job, I’m in love with my dog, you get the picture. In truth when you allow yourself to BE – just being who you are, in the present moment here and now – and you allow yourself to fill up with love, becoming love – you are now, “ being in love”. There is no focus or dependence on any one else being the catalyst for you enjoying this extraordinary bliss. When you are in this state you sparkle. You’re happy, you’re excited, you’re having fun and you’re giving an abundance of authentic love to everyone you see. This is a fabulous place to be! From here you not only nurture the partnerships you already have – you attract relationships, friends, and situations that are equally as loving.
#3 – Laughing: give yourself permission to unleash your playful feminine spirit because to live a life of pleasure you must first know pleasure! So get in touch with your inner child – what did you like to do when you were young? As we grow older we often get way too serious. There is no room for frivolity if you are structured and serious.
If you are having trouble recalling what brought you happiness as a child, take a few minutes to sit down and reminisce about what you loved to do if you had even 10 extra minutes as a kid. Did you dance, draw, read, sing, bake? Chances are whatever you liked doing then you will still enjoy today.
Another fabulous benefit from laughing is that it opens the mind and heart, oxygenates your cells and gives you a fantastic glow, not only making you feel light and young, you will look years younger too!
Making fun and pleasure a priority is definitely essential to your happily ever after, so embrace your passionate, playful side and you will free yourself to live, laugh and love fully self-expressed.
In addition, bringing play into your relationship adds fun adventure, lightens any mood and opens the heart creating a nice bonding experience.
Plus, it will get your man to open up and talk more. If you are frustrated by your man’s lack of chit-chat get him relaxed and playful – believe me, he’ll start yappin’ up a storm.
Reconnect with the real YOU – the you that glows with Divine Love – from this place you shine your Diamond Power. When you find your playful, confident, feminine spirit you can turn a lonely, dull life into full on fireworks!
In my experience as a coach, and talking with women everywhere, I’ve discovered that the majority of us have a common desire: to be in a deeply loving and connected relationship. You are not crazy and it’s not too much to ask.
We are all on this planet to love and be loved. The key is an open heart.
Chances are you’ve gone thru something at some point in your life that was disappointing, hurtful or painful and without even knowing it you’ve set up a rock solid security squad to circle and guard your heart. You are not alone, we all do it.
So, how do you bust thru the protection and open up again? There are actually several ways to do this but one of the quickest and most pleasurable is to have FUN!
Being in a playtime spirit, you are in your heart right away!!! I promise you that if you keep adding playtime to your daily life, you will open your heart to receiving in so many incredible ways!
When’s the last time you laughed with your girlfriends until you had tears rolling down your cheeks? Or your ribs hurt so much and you couldn’t catch your breath? When was the last time you sat and caught up with the women in your life that ignite your soul’s passion?
My secret weapon to achieving balance in my life?