(Video) Is this habit stealing your happiness?

Are you a fence sitter?

Even if you know what you want, do you sit and wait until conditions are perfect to take action towards a life you would love?

That might look like:

a. waiting for your kids to graduate before doing anything for yourself
b. waiting till you think you have enough money saved to feel comfortable investing in yourself and your dreams
c. waiting till you have more time
d. waiting till you lose weight
e. waiting till you get out of overwhelm
f. waiting till you feel ready, or,or, or!!!

Can you relate?

Dearheart, this life you are living is not a dress rehearsal! We don’t get another go round. Starting today you can choose to make your life absolutely unforgettable. You can do this!

I know it can feel scary to dance outside your comfort zone, but that new samba is the magic key to your growth and happiness.

Watch this video to learn the three steps my clients take to fly off that fence and LIVE a bigger life!

 

Give Yourself the Gift of Joy in 3 Steps

article aug 20Have you ever looked at another woman and thought, “Things seem to be going so well for her; why isn’t MY life moving forward in the same way?”We’ve all felt a little envious at times when things aren’t going so great for us and others are seemingly soaring.

As women, we work for years to cultivate our careers – and many of us keep our radar up on those around us – noticing who has skyrocketed, who has stayed flat and who has disappeared. A sad truth is that many of us find ourselves comparing and basing our identify (aka “value”) on where we fit in and how our accomplishments stack up against others and their material success.

On a different path but along the same line, some women have spent their lives caring for loved ones and built a wonderful home life but just like the career gals, they are compelled to compare. Secretly doing some inner questioning around their parenting skills… are they doing as good a job as the other moms?Unfortunately this leaves them either feeling “proud and superior ” or ” insecure and inferior”.

To this point, I recently got into a conversation with a woman who told me she had invited a long time friend over with her kids for lunch and was thrown off her center because her own kids were having melt downs. She shared that her friend took over and with total ease and grace put together a fabulous lunch for them.

Because she was not firmly in her foundation she let the stealth committee of her mind hi-jack her confidence and began to feel very inadequate preventing her from seeing this gesture from her friend as a gift.
The challenge is we expect so much of ourselves..we expect ourselves to be perfect. That’s a lot, a lot, of pressure baby!

The truth is there will always be someone who is better at something than we are and conversely we will be better at something than someone else.

The key to your joy is recognizing this and accepting yourself for who you are instead of constantly comparing to get your value.

Teddy Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It is too true. The moment we begin to compare ourselves to others, we rob ourselves of any potential joy. 

Instead of giving in to the temptation to compare yourself with another person, put these three ideas into action to compassionately give yourself the gift of joy…

1. Try something new. To truly feel good about yourself focus on keeping passion alive in your life, you want to be doing new things on a regular basis. It doesn’t always take a lot of money, but it will make you become a more interesting person and give you life again. Not only will you feel excited and vibrant, you’ll have interesting things to contribute to conversations.

2. Relinquish control. Ever notice yourself trying to control a situation, even if it’s a small thing? Experiment with “letting go.” Let your partner choose the restaurant or pick the movie, and trust that the other person can make the right choice. You’ll be surprised at how freeing this simple act is!

3. Give yourself a smile. When you catch yourself comparing your life to other people’s lives, just look in the mirror, take a deep breath, give yourself a smile and a wink and say, “Hi beautiful! You are amazing just the way you are, so there’s no need to compare!”

If you want a hands-on and individualized strategy to give yourself more joy, click HERE to set up a time to chat with me

5 Ways to Find Your Freedom and Leave “STUCK” in the Dust

stuckHave you ever thought that your life looked perfect on paper, but in real life you just feel… stuck?

Maybe you hold a great job that took years to cultivate, or you’re married to a kind and generous man but the relationship has gotten stagnant and you’re not sure why.

You might think, “Boy, this all looks great. So why do I feel so dull?”

Often, we work so hard to get to the destination that we completely forget to nurture the special spark of creativity and play that we started with.

Baby, you are definitely worthy of a life filled with glimmering zest!

Here are 5 things you can do today to free yourself from the feeling of “stuck.” I promise that you’ll feel the sparkle begin to stir within after you try even one of them!

Click here to discover 5 ways to get unstuck.

You can be Successful in Love AND Money – Here’s Why

Aug 7 newsletter article picThere’s an old saying that goes, “Lucky in love, unlucky in money. Lucky in money, unlucky in love.”

Ay yi yi! Don’t believe that hooey for a second!

You can have both a deeply connected, loving relationship and continue to see the success you enjoy in your career. You don’t have to choose between the two – that’s a complete myth.

Why? Because it all comes down to your beliefs.

What you choose to believe about yourself and your life will always be reflected in your outer experience. This means that you may have to do some work around your belief systems (for instance, if you’re reading this and thinking, “I don’t buy it – life just happens – I don’t have anything to do with the things that happen to me” then you know there might be some self-reflection in the cards).

The truth is life happens THROUGH us not TO us.

So yes, there is work to be done, honeychild, but the rewards at the other end bring a new passionate magic to your life. Hallelujah!!!

Many career women forget to hold a vision for themselves detailing what their life would look like if it included a wonderful, expansive and sizzling partnership in addition to a successful work life.

Going from day to day with that vision can change everything: it is a blissful reminder to step into our feminine energy after a long day at the office. After all, two men in a heterosexual marriage won’t work! A lot of successful women try to be the alpha male in the partnership, and unconsciously push men away.

So, how can you continue to enjoy the success you have at work while at the same time experience a deeply passionate and fulfilling relationship with a significant other?

Ask yourself these five questions:

1. Do I have a vision for my success in love AND money?

2. Do I believe in my vision, truly feel that it is possible?

3. Can I feel the difference between my masculine and feminine energies?

4. Am I actively choosing to flip into my feminine when I’m interacting with my partner or potential partners?

5. Am I actively choosing self-love by caring for myself and honoring my needs?

Staying present and conscious in the moment – making choices that honor both your career AND love life is the magic bullet that will give you both:))

Have a Passionate Love Affair with Summer

sherri articleWhen you think about summertime, does a big smile creep across your face? Summer is a season that evokes happy memories for many of us: the days are longer, the weather is inviting and it feels like opportunities for new adventures wait around every corner!

You don’t have to jet away on a luxury vacation to feel re-inspired and reinvigorated this season. Even if you have career or family obligations that keep you at home, you still have a chance to put the sparkle back into your step during the hottest months of the year.

Start by asking yourself these two questions… What can I do that will bring freshness to my life? What would I love?

Sometimes we forget how simple it can be to do things that we love. Bring some of your favorite aspects of summer to life by identifying what they are and planning to do them. A backyard BBQ, a special cake that your mother used to make every summer, a picnic at the park…

Imagine for a moment the first step you could take today to do something that really lights your fire.

Close your eyes and envision yourself taking this first step.

Maybe it’s as easy as opening up the paper to see what events are happening locally this weekend, or putting on some music that inspires you to jump up and get your groove on. Maybe you do something spontaneous like heading out of town for the week-end with no destination in mind other than “adventure”!

Spark your imagination by looking on Pinterest for playful ideas and create a summer bucket list of fun things to do.  That’s what one of my savvy Sparkle clients recently did and now she has an abundance of exciting things for her family to do all summer long.

If you don’t spend a lot of time with your friends, make this part of your summer routine to get the energy moving. Many studies have shown that oxytocin, the “feel good” hormone, is released when girlfriends get together and engage in lots of connecting and bonding.

Whatever you feel will make your summer sparkle, do it as soon as you can, and do it with people who make your heart sing!

4 Steps to reconnect if you are lonely in love

Lonely in LoveAre you sitting home with your partner, night after night, feeling lonelier than if you actually lived on your own? Do you long for the past when you and your honey were so connected you couldn’t wait to be with each other and share every detail of your day? Are you puzzled trying to remember how and when the disconnection began?

Sometimes love gets lonely. Even in the best relationship, you can occasionally feel alone and isolated. That sense of separateness can feel like a canyon dividing you’re relationship.

At some point, discussions about mutual interests, goals and dreams, stop entirely and conversations become purely transactional (e.g., “We need milk,” or “Did you remember to pay the water bill?”), or focused exclusively on the children.

We can also fall into daily routines that create both physical and emotional distance. For example, one person watches television in the den while the other is in the office on the computer. In short, we lose the love and the affection but we stay in the relationship creating the feeling of being lonely in love.

So, what is the real reason we become disconnected and lonely?

Click here to read the full blog article and learn why we sometimes become disconnected in love and 4 steps that will pave the way to a happier more connected partnership.

 

Is your heart open to happiness? To love?

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I just had the most exhilarating experience – an early morning bike ride from the summit of Maui’s Haleakala volcano with a group of vacationing adventure seekers (that’s me and my soul sister Saskia with our fearless biking leader in the pic above.) As we winded down the road for 26 miles I felt fantastically alive with the wind on my skin, the beauty of the island, and the thrill of the ride shared with new friends. I am feeling so lit up and happy!

This trip was a huge reminder of what happens when you stay open and listen to your heart. It inspires newness, brings passion back into your life filling you with happiness. Wow, so simple, right? Sometimes we forget how easy it is to become happy. We forget we are always creating our lives with our behavior, thoughts, ideas.

How to open your heart to happiness and love

I recently watched a documentary on Happiness and how to achieve that in your life. What they said is that the key to happiness lay in the following formula or 5 must haves:

  1. Playfulness
  2. Gratitude
  3. Family
  4. Acts of Kindness
  5. Connection (to others)

Funny enough, these same 5 must haves for happiness are the same 5 must haves for opening yourself up for a love connection.

Let’s go into a bit more detail on each and see how these all tie into growing your chances for happiness and a love connection.

Playfulness: What does that even mean? Well, ask yourself, do you know how to have fun? To play and let your ‘hair down’? To be a bit silly? Being playful equates to not taking yourself too seriously, and to enjoying having fun, and to stop worrying about how you might look or what others think of you! Just enjoy the moment and let yourself go! Not only will this bring you more joy, men love women who know how to have fun!

Gratitude: When you can look at your life and say, wow, I am grateful to have air to breathe, a roof over my head, a job that puts food in the fridge, wonderful friends who I adore, my health…and the list goes on… then your focus shifts from the negative of what you don’t have in your life to the positive of what you DO HAVE. It’s life changing! Your appreciation increases your vibration, increasing your ability to attract even more good things your way, not to mention a fabulous new outlook on life. When you live with gratitude in your heart, you will feel calmer, happier, more at peace and more open to what God/The Divine/Universe wants to grace you with.

When you live a life always wanting more, thinking what you have right now is not enough, wishing you had something different, your vibration is aligned with scarcity and neediness and it repels happiness. Definitely not a crowd-pleasing attitude! Men, and most people for that matter, do not want to be around someone who is always whining, complaining, never happy, never satisfied. Change your energetic vibration using gratitude and get ready for the flood of happiness in your life!

Family: I use the word family loosely – this could be your biological family, or the people in your life that are closest to you, that you hold dear to your heart like family. I have several girlfriends who are my soul sisters and I consider them family. They fill my heart with joy and love and I adore them. Stay connected with your family – if you are geographically close, make a point to see them as often as you can manage. Family dynamics aside, (and we all have that brother or sister we would rather not spend time with) share your love with your family and you will receive love back.

Family is very important in your formula for happiness and openness for a love connection in your life. Having connections to your loved ones keeps your heart open with the flow of giving and receiving. An attractive and alluring vibe to be flaunting!

Acts of Kindness: Last month my best friend drove 2 hours, on HER Mother’s day, and spent a few days helping me pack up for my big move. When she offered I was like What?! Seriously? It’s your Mother’s day! I was so touched I cried. All the overwhelm I had been feeling left – her support and act of kindness changed my entire outlook on the enormous task at hand. I felt so appreciative and incredibly happy!

That feeling inspired me to acts of kindness – a welcoming card and bouquet of flowers left in the kitchen for the new homeowners, leaving an anonymous bunch of flowers on a random doorstep in the neighborhood (I’m big on flowers LOL). And I will continue to do things because it feels so good!

Acts of kindness can be to strangers, or it can be to your friends, anyone really. Calling your girlfriend up who you know is having a tough time and telling her that you’re dropping by with her favorite cupcakes is an act of kindness. Helping others when they least expect it is an act of kindness, and the best part? The amazing feeling you get when you do this multiplies, it compounds and grows! It’s just another way to change your overall energetic vibration in this world, and increases your overall happiness and attractiveness to others.

Connections: If you never get out, if you only ever go to work, and stay home, your ability to make connections to others is severely limited. Simply adding in something new to your life, like going to a cooking class or to the beach or biking down a volcano like I did today opens up your ability to connect with others. That’s step one – getting out there. The second step is actually making connections. It’s not enough to be out there and not speak or talk to others. You gotta make the effort to meet new people. I always talk to people, total strangers! By talking to people, and genuinely wanting to connect, I’ve met some incredible people who have become friends, love interest and even met some women who’ve turned into clients! It’s incredible what making simple connections can do. You never know who you will meet and who knows who.

Connections are key, to making new friends, new business for yourself as well as finding love. Always stay open to making new connections!

If you practice the 5 simple steps to happiness above, you will 100% change how you are showing up in this world, you will open yourself up to so much more beauty and happiness and yes, LOVE.

Practice these 5 steps as often as you can, I have them on stickies on my bedroom mirror, to remind me to keep myself open to happiness and love of all kinds, and let me tell you dear heart, it’s so worth it.

How are you opening your life to happiness, love and a fuller connection with yourself? Do you have a plan for success?

Next week I’ll be back from vacation and I am so ready to help more women find that BIG happiness and love in their lives. I’m going to open up 5 spots in my calendar next week for a FIND HAPPINESS SPARKLE SESSION, it’s my gift to you and I will help you with your roadmap to finding happiness NOW.

I invite you to get a spot now, as I’m only going to open this to 5 women ready to find happiness!  Get yours now!

How to open yourself up to great opportunities

3-23-2015 8-06-14 AMWho wants a summer filled with fun, love and great opportunities? I know I do!

As I write this I’m packing my bags, and about to leave for a vacation I’ve been SO looking forward to! I’m off to Hawaii for 6 days of research and rest with one of my favorite friends and I can’t wait!

I’m so excited to have a new adventure, share memories with my gal pal, discover beautiful sites and experiences for my upcoming retreat, and meet interesting new people.

I plan on having the most fun ever, but here’s the thing, having fun and being open to exciting opportunities is all in your head!

Let me tell you why.

The mind believes what we tell it, if you repeat over and over, that your life is challenging, you think you’re fat/ugly/too old/too whatever to have fun, find love, get great opportunities, the brain believes it!

It’s all a state of mind!

Right now you might be feeling less than excited about your day, it’s more about fulfilling responsibilities than a life. Of maybe you are in a chronic state of worry about what you don’t want to happen, or you are feeling lonely or sad. If you allow your mind to dwell and wallow in those places all the time you will stay STUCK exactly there.

Find out how to get UNSTUCK now

The secret to staying in your sparkling essence…for good!

may 21 articleOld habits die-hard.

So how do you get your sparkling essence – that Leading Lady you’ve been lassoing – to stick to you like glue and enjoy doing it?

Here’s what you need to know.

We talked about creating your vision for your Leading Lady a few weeks ago {catch up on that article here} and then we talked about manifesting your Leading Lady into your life [this one was fun, read it here} so today is all about keeping your Leading Lady from running off into the wings and putting you right back where you started!

Love on your Leading Lady like the Sparkling Star she is!

If you were dying to meet one of the A list Hollywood stars like Helen Mirren, or Charlize Theron, or maybe Meryl Streep, and you managed to by some stretch of the imagination, get them to hang out with you, you wouldn’t then ignore them, or treat them rudely or worse, not show up right?!

You’d be crazy!!!

But that’s exactly what you are doing if you have gone to the trouble of making an effort to transform yourself into your Leading Lady and then neglect her, ignore her, and go back to your old habits that made you unhappy in the first place.

You gotta show your LL the LOVE baby! You gotta show her what it means to be the diamond star in your life! Treat the new you like the A list superstar that you are and she will want to stick around!

Here’s the thing, going from waiting in the wings of your own life to Leading Lady isn’t hard, but it can be a tough road to getting clarity on what you need to do. It doesn’t have to be like that.

When I created and manifested my Leading Lady status, I had the love and support of my friends… AND I had my coach, who was like a voice in my ear every time I was about to fall back and out of the spotlight. Support is key, actually is downright necessary.

And that made me think about you, I want to give you all the tools to succeed, so here’s what I’m doing.

This week and for part of next week, I’m opening up 7 spots on my calendar for what I’m calling “Become the Leading Lady: Reawaken your Sparkle & make it last”.

These are 20-minute strategy calls, one on one, and there is no charge, Holy Moly! Grab one now. 

It’s the kick-start you need, or the butt kicking if you fell behind, to getting the sparkle back in your life and making it stick!

Check out what one of my clients Sarah-Jane says about how potent our time together is ….

“I had wanted to post here last week to say how amazing I am finding the coaching calls. Truth be known, I was ready to pack my bags and leave my marriage the week leading up to my first coaching call (I even had visually decorated all the rooms in my new home – that I still had to find!). Sherri immediately identified the underlying issue and we worked on it using the PSYCH-K posture. Things improved immediately and then when I hit another block last week and was literally on my knees and in such emotional pain, again she was able to identify the core issue and teach me another amazing technique to resolve it.

What that woman can achieve in just 15 minutes is phenomenal!

Not only has she helped me heal my relationship with my husband, but she has helped me heal my relationship with me too – THAT being the biggest barrier to any other relationship I would or could ever have with another person.

Thank you from the bottom of my self-loving heart!”

“Thank you for all the work you have done with me Sherri – it has been a huge catalyst for change and growth. My relationship is stronger than ever and things are so much more effortless….” ~ Sarah-Jane Scotland

Take this gift I’m offering, and lets set you up to be on track for some Leading Lady status…PRONTO!

I can’t wait to help you be the sparkling star you are! Get your free call with me here 

It’s totally ok to share this opportunity with a friend that you know needs this loving push, share this link with them and let’s get them on their Leading Lady stardom track! 

 

6 Steps to Make your Leading Lady Debut

6 Steps to Make your Leading Lady DebutWhoa! I received some amazing feedback from last weeks article called “Are You Leading Lady Material” (if you missed it, read it here before reading on)

The timing of this series on being your Leading Lady is key; we just celebrated Mothers Day in North America, a day where we celebrate mothers and the integral role they play in our lives.

Clients tell me that after they have kids they lose their sense of self, and after the kids grow up, they find it hard to find them selves again.

Ever seen an ‘Empty Nester’ go a bit hog wild? They join every class, do every activity and become a social butterfly. Or they become a house hermit, and getting them to come out for coffee is like pulling teeth? Big extremes but the same problem – women who have lost touch with their Leading Lady status.

So last week we wrote out the characteristics of our Leading Lady, and we created a vision board of everything she embodies. We visited that board twice a day because images and repetition are what rewire our brain and change our energetic vibration.

This week we are going to ground that Leading Lady with a system I call:

6 Principles for Becoming the Sparkling Leading Lady of Your Life

Click here to learn the 6 easy steps

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Girls Just Wanna Have Fun Fridays are the best, One of the Friday’s I was having an absolutely horrible day and I was not sure what the best option was. I knew we had the call with Sherri however I did not want to deal with it because of my attitude. Well we all know when we have excuses not to play it means we need to, so I called in and all I can say is thank you Sherri after a few minutes of letting the day go and playing with you on the call I ended my day empowered and loving life again. Sometimes we need the extra boost and thank you Sherri for offering a platform where we can have fun!

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