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Ever wonder...

• where that playful, sparkling, sexy woman went?
• when your life got so routine?
• when you lost your Self?
• where the joy went?
• what happened to the PASSION?

Relax, you are not alone. In fact, you are one of the millions of women who ask themselves these questions everyday!

Has your love life disintegrated into resentment and loneliness that leaves you thinking, "Is this it?"

It's time to get honest...does your relationship suffer from any of these telltale signs of romantic rut?

If you recognize one or more of these common warning signs, your love life has probably become a snooze fest.

The good news is that you don't have to settle for a lack luster love life... you can easily turn it around in just 30 days.

It's time to rock your relationship with a new, fabulous, fun and seductive attitude. And when you do you will:

If you want to get the "Sparkle" back in your relationship and glide thru life as the charmed enchantress you were born to be, come PLAY WITH ME...

Discover How to Find & Own Your Playful, Sparkling, Sexy Self! Is a 4-week TelePlayshop starting October 30th - All you need is a telephone ­ you don't have to go anywhere.

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5 Mistakes That Could End Your Relationship

September 17th, 2014

5 Mistakes that Lead to DivorceAre you asking yourself, how did it get to this point? Especially since the day you got married it seemed like you had the world at your feet! Weren’t you so full of hope and excitement for the future? Seriously how often have you seen an engaged couple head to the alter with anything less than enthusiasm, bubbling with expectation of their happily ever after?

So, what happens when the honeymoon phase is over?

After having countless conversations and coaching many people who find themselves in less than desirable circumstances in their marriages and/or partnerships – wondering how they got there ( at one time myself included) – I discovered this is a pretty common scenario.

The divorce rate in America is 40-50% for first timers and even higher for those giving it another go. So many couples unknowingly make mistakes that lead to the dissolution of love.
Are you making a relationship mistake that will lead to divorce?

Read the full article here

What to do when you are STRESSED OUT

September 11th, 2014

imagesDo you ever feel like you just can’t catch a break? I’m not talking a day or two here or there – I mean weeks, months, maybe even years.

I get it – since April it seems like it’s been Mr. Toads Wild Ride – lots of health issues with my dad, rifts with my sisters, searching for a new home, de-cluttering and prepping for my move, my aunt passing, coming home from the funeral to find a beehive the size of a football field in the backyard, fever blisters up the ying-yang, the beautiful teacher I sponsored in Liberia dying a sad and untimely death at 33, business expansion – you name it, it’s happened LOL. But you know what? It’s really just life.

Sometimes it rains and sometimes it pours and sometimes it’s like a tsunami coming at you – very rarely is it just peaceful.

So how do you create that peace in the chaos? How do you follow your truth no matter what? Stay on track with your vision?

Not surprising, the best way I’ve found to balance it all out and get back to your center is to have FUN!!! Make plans to frolic, dance, bike, hike, travel, explore, laugh and have sexy rendez-vous’s, fun flirty escapades, and new adventures in your life. You will de-stress pronto!

Harvard did a study that showed 50% of people live in the past or future – dwelling on negative emotions/experiences or anxious and fearful about what’s to come. It was concluded that these wandering minds are unhappy minds.

Play researcher Stuart Brown, MD, says, “Play quiets our busy minds, putting a stop to our constant barrage of thoughts about the past and future.” To see how this works stop reading for a moment – put all your focus and concentration into one big happy smile. Pretty impossible to have a negative thought, right?

Dr. Mark Beeman at Northwestern University did another interesting study. He found that people are able to solve a puzzle quicker after watching a short comedy clip. Tension is released when having fun and this activates neuronal connections helping for greater mental creativity and flexibility. When your mind is open it empowers you to deal with stressful situations and problem solve successfully.

All the studies showed how much more harmonious your life becomes when you engage in a good time.

In addition here are 5 more benefits to having FUN:

  1. Fun ignites the diamond in you – making you sparkle
  2. Fun creates an energy field that is magnetic to positive experiences
  3. Fun connects you to LIFE and other people – getting you out of isolation and feeling alone.
  4. Fun allows you to expand into joy and happiness where you are your most attractive
  5. Fun feeds and cleans your soul giving you fresh perspective

Since there is overwhelming evidence that playfulness begets peace, why not wake up and declare with great intention,
“I intend to have fun today- no matter what!” This simple act will help you stay in a positive flow so that you can stay on track with your dreams and follow your truth.

What are you waiting for? Go out and have some fun so you can say sayonara to the inner cyclones and hello to sparkling juju joy!

Let me know if this made a difference for you – leave a comment below.

6 Steps to Get on Track with Your Truth

August 28th, 2014

attachmentHave you ever gotten off track with your truth?

Or ignored that calling in your heart that wants to come out to play?

Goodness knows I have at times in my life. It’s frustrating isn’t it?  One minute you’re clear as day and the next caught up in a mire of distractions that cleverly keep you from living on purpose and in joy. I like to call these detractors Radiance Robbers. From emails to grocery shopping to people pleasing to external validation, these sweet talking bandits hi-jack your happiness.

And over time you start to feel pretty miserable because if you allow distractions and sabotaging behaviors to run your life you aren’t in integrity with who you are. You aren’t committed to YOU and when you can’t commit to yourself chances are others won’t feel compelled to commit to you either.  Mama mia what a life we create when we abandon ourselves!

One of the ways I was living out of integrity was putting my soul calling to write a book on the back burner. I had a boatload of excuses as to why the timing was never right but just like a beach ball you struggle to keep under water, those inner tugs kept popping up… insistently.

Until one day I had the courage to say “YES” and immediately all the discomfort faded away and was replaced with an excitement that I was going to do what I was here to do. That changed the trajectory of my life for the better a million times over and it will do the same for YOU.

So how do you follow the truth in your heart no matter what?Whether it’s writing a book, running a marathon, changing jobs, getting married or getting divorced – if you want to be happy, living in integrity is not a choice. You know you are out of integrity with yourself when you feel like something’s “off” or missing or flat lined or worse.

Click here to read the full article and learn 6 steps to get you on track with your truth!

This is about YOU.

August 21st, 2014
Let me interrupt your thoughts for just a moment to tell you something really important.
Don’t worry. It’s not about me.

It’s about YOU.

I’m here to remind you to put yourself first.

You’re a conscious woman. You’ve gazed down the path to your dreams.

You KNOW, with that intuitive kind of knowing, that a powerful happiness and a deeper fulfillment is out there waiting for you.

So why do you feel stuck? Worn out? Tired of pushing and pulling and struggling?

there’s an easier way to live what your soul knows – right down to the soles of your feet.

It’s about letting go of the way we’ve been taught to value other’s happiness over our own.

It’s about allowing our power to rise up and receiving what we deserve. You CAN have the love, money, health, and energy you want and need to create a balanced and amazing life.

It’s about embracing who we are as women.

Introducing Living The Feminine Way:

Successful women know how to use spirituality. 

A Free 3 hour LiveStream Training on 9/4 with six transformational hosts! 

Prema Lee Gurreri.Summer McStravick.
Nan Akasha. Sherri Nickols.
Julie Serot. Camden Hoch. 

We’ll teach you how to use your spirituality for success
in the areas of life that matter most.

Health. Money. Purpose. Love.

The three-hour live stream is FREE. All you have to do is reserve your seat!

Embracing our feminine power doesn’t mean putting other women down to get ahead. We may be told that we have to compete to survive, but when we help each other find the unique happiness we deserve -

Together, we become an unstoppable forceRise up!

That’s why I’m so inspired to be working together with five other successful, feminine, and truly brilliant women who have used their own spirituality to define what success means to them - and have gone out and made it happen.

Come spend some time with us!

Get comfy on your couch – and join our virtual living room.

Summer will empower you through the practice of Flow Dreaming to create and manifest your most amazing life beyond most women’s imaginings.

Nan’s been through big stuff. (No really, the BIG stuff.) She’ll show you how to get through it (ALL of it!) and blissfully into wealth.

Prema knows that no matter what you’re going through - it’s good for something - and can help you understand the right timing for your soul’s choices, how to trust your intuition and truly live on purpose.

Get your sparkle on with Sherri! Increase your passion and joy. Connect to your sensuality. And, yes, even fall in love!

Julie is making our virtual living room MOVE. Manage your energy through your body – and close the gap between frustrations, overwhelm, and stress to live the life of your dreams.

And Camden is filling us all with RADIANCE. Express and live fully through your gifts. Embody radiance in every area of your life - yes, even in business.

We are all finding our way and learning where to go.

And when we really listen to our soul, our energy and true calling can only pull us FORWARD.

Sometimes all it takes to get moving again is a little reminder:

Put yourself first. (And of course, a roomful of new friends can’t hurt.)

Won’t you join us?

Do you struggle with this?

August 7th, 2014

woman-in-jar-e1393300960172Resistance to change is probably the #1 reason people are unhappy in their life.

If you want something in your life…say you want to get married or divorced or move or maybe you want to switch jobs but yet when the opportunity presents itself you shy away from it because you don’t want to take the first step to get you to your goal.

I get it, just like you, I’ve been there …and that first step can be a doozy!!

Let me share a personal experience that speaks to this scenario.

At the beginning of the year I declared I wanted to be of higher service, reach more people, step up and out. I felt solid, bold and totally committed to this vision and declaration. Definitely excited, feeling it to the core of my being.

Within 2 months I was approached with the opportunity to be an international teacher/leader in a country that really needed support and assistance.

There it was, my golden chance – completely in alignment with my New Year’s declaration…and yet I hesitated. Why? As much as my body was screaming and expanding with an emphatic YES, my mind was racing with all the reasons why it probably wasn’t a good idea…at this time. Maybe later.

I looked for outs all over the place, but every time I prayed I got one consistent simple response – GO.. PRONTO!

Even with God sending me messages as big as a universal billboard I had excuses – not enough time to prepare, so many projects on my plate, fear of speaking on a stage for the first time, fear of leading a group of transformational rock stars (did I have what it takes?) and then there was the financial piece…blah, blah, blah.

Sound familiar?

Fortunately I discussed it with my coach and we figured it all out. Was I still scared and resistant – you bet! But I mustered the courage to leap and I thank God every day for giving me the strength because that experience was without a doubt one of the most significant and meaningful things I have done in my life. It added a depth of love and happiness and understanding to my being that is inexplicable – and I would have missed out totally had I stayed in resistance.

The truth is your life changes when you add something into it and most of the time you don’t want to change. Even if you say you do, it’s more comfortable hanging out with what you know – even if it’s not what you want.

Unless you are highly aware, your resistance to the elements of change itself can prevent you from manifesting the things that will make you happy in your life – the things that will make you sparkle.

So, if you are ready to conquer your resistance and you want my help

Click here to talk with me

How Can Women Trust Themselves More?

July 31st, 2014

Confident with menBombarded with anxiety and self-doubt on topics of vulnerability, intimacy and sex, many women find it difficult to trust themselves.  This can be especially true in their relationships with men.

To feel empowered and experience confidence with men, women must first develop self-trust. It’s important to know your self and your deal-breakers.

In this video I join with other YourTango Experts Charles Orlando, Sheila Paxton and Barbara Schiffman as Melanie Gorman (Senior VP of Experts) asks us what advice we would give to women looking for love.

Want to learn more? Check out this video!

(VIDEO) Tips on how NOT to lose yourself in love

July 24th, 2014

It’s become an epidemic. Women losing themselves in relationship. Why?

Because relationships are demanding. Most women are taught to multi-task and filling the role of wife and/or mother, daughter, caregiver, sister, friend can be an all-consuming job.
Be honest, in satisfying the wants and needs of your loved ones, have you lost yourself?
Losing yourself is detrimental not only to your own fulfillment but can be toxic to your relationship as well because when you lose yourself, your partner will lose interest and respect. Mama mia!

Along those lines, I recently sent out a survey (many thanks to those of you who completed it!) and here is the #1 thing you all overwhelmingly said you wanted:

* A loving trusting relationship. Fantastic! But here’s the deal – in order to have a loving trusting relationship you need to FIRST have one with yourself!

Here’s the #1 challenge you shared:

*To find the right man…not surprising because you’ve got to BE the RIGHT woman to attract or recognize the right man.

What does that mean? Simply, that you love yourself, trust your decisions and choices and know yourself.

The truth is, staying connected to your gorgeous sparkle or “fun-ESS-ence” as my new SPARKLE 2 gals describe it, needs to become a daily habit.

Don’t lose yourself in love,  watch this video.

P.S. - I have a few spots left in our SPARKLE 2 program.  If you want my help finding your “fun-ESS-ence, and making your happiness this year a prioritybook time now to speak with me.

3 Self-Conceptions That Stop You in Your Tracks

July 10th, 2014

guilty_womanMany of you struggle, as I do from time to time, to make healthy choices so I decided to dedicate the article for this week’s article around the feelings that can get in your way when you’re trying too hard to put others first. Read, release and rejoice!!!

Do you find yourself constantly busy for everyone but yourself and then feeling consumed by guilt when you decide to set limits around your availability or what you’re willing to do for others in order to take some time for you? Do you label yourself as “selfish” when you want to do something for yourself or even by yourself? Do you ever feel ashamed because there are times you don’t want to do anything for anybody else?

These questions may feel a bit uncomfortable (maybe even silly), but really think about this for a moment. How often do you do something for or with others because it just doesn’t feel right to focus on yourself? If you really delve deeper, I bet you’ll uncover these exact beliefs and feelings (or something very close) at the root of your actions or inaction.

These three culprits are notorious for hi-jacking us from taking care of ourselves:

  • Guilt
  • Shame
  • Selfishness

These feelings can cause us to “dim” our inner light and keep us from being the sparkling diamonds we’re meant to be. Yet, our beautiful, brilliant, multi-faceted radiance cannot shine if we don’t take some time to polish and buff. Just like a diamond, we need self-care in order to really glitter and glow.

Let’s take a brief look at each one:

Guilt – if you are like most women, you might feel guilty for taking time to replenish your own reservoir of life-giving energy. If, however, you intend to continue giving your time and attention to loved ones, the only way you can do this is to be kind and loving to yourself first. As odd as it may seem, the most loving thing you can do for the people you care about is to first take care of you.
So right now, right here, write down at least 1-3 things you can do to nurture you – and then do one of them!

Selfishness – sometimes others take advantage of your desire to serve. They can call at all hours of the day and night and expect you to be available at a moment’s notice, especially when they’re experiencing a crisis. When you get courageous enough, you may set boundaries around your availability. As soon as you do, an alarming voice might resound in your head, screaming at you about how selfish you are being. That distorted belief of what it means to be selfish kicks in and challenges you to wonder how you could ever think you were so special to deserve to put yourself first. Along with beliefs of selfishness come thoughts of how horrible you are.
To overcome this ask yourself what your pay-off is for buying into the belief that you are selfish. Then set a healthy boundary and stand strong.

Shame – felt right after selfishness is the third self-deprecating feeling. You feel ashamed for thinking you were so special or significant as to put yourself above another. The dance of blame and shame begins as another way to hold you back and keep you from taking care of yourself adequately.

Why Touch is Vital to a Happy Relationship

July 3rd, 2014

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Simple Touch Techniques Can Create Fireworks! 

Touching is a powerful and sacred action.  It opens the gateway to intimacy, creating presence and connection.

Don’t get me wrong; women love to hear the words, “I love you”, but touching launches relationships into intimacy by directly accessing the emotional self.  Words are processed in the thinking part of the brain, while touch is processed by the emotional centers.

Endorphines, released by touching your lover or your own beautiful body, flow through the body creating a sense of caring and pleasure while calming daily stress.

Moreover, touch is paramount to love.  It engages the senses God gave us for our emotional and physical well-being and pleasure, and is a powerful way to express what we cannot say. Yet still, we are a touch-starved society.

Read the full article here to discover 7 ways you can incorporate more touching into your life.

7 Tips to Embrace Your Sensual, Sparkling Self!

June 26th, 2014

adorable-happy-summer-woman-skipping-18123505As life attempts to overwhelm us with obstacles great and small, it can feel like the world is coming down around us. Can you fill yourself up with your most loving, sensual, playful self when life is raining down havoc and mayhem? It’s ok, you can admit it, not many women do. Rather than learning to embrace all life has to offer, good or bad, with our fully awakened sensual, powerful, feminine selves, most of us are taught how to make other people happy, how to make money, how to sacrifice our needs and made to feel selfish if we want a more pleasurable life.

In truth you don’t have to change who you are to have what you want. These 7 tips can help you awaken your inner powerfully feminine, sparkling, sensual self. When you make a commitment to show up fully in this charismatic essence you will experience a much more love-filled, happy life!

1) Let go – this can be terrifying for sure but keeping the package all nice and neat and looking good is exhausting! Keeping everything together is also about being in control and that’s engaging your masculine. It’s very hard to be in your sensual feminine essence when you are fighting to keep your masculine present. Granted there is real authentic fear about letting go but understand that being in control is really an illusion. Be willing to see it another way. Feel the fear, listen in, and work through it rather than let it paralyze you. In other words surrender…God/Source/The Divine will be there to catch you and always get you through!

2) Flirt – flirt for the sheer pleasure of it, not to be coy or seductive but simply to have fun with all the elements of life. Feel the wind on your cheeks, coo at a baby, swish your favorite drink or morsel around letting your taste buds enliven, open up to situations you normally are closed off to, stand at the edge of the surf with your arms extended to the heavens, smile or say hello to a stranger and feel how expansive you become!

3) Fun – connect with your other personas and let your inner vixen out! There are so many leading ladies waiting backstage to come out and play and bedazzle and yet we let the same ole’ gal take center stage day in and day out. Mix it up! Recast your movie! Take up belly dancing, pole dancing or whatever would make you just a wee bit uncomfortable and do it for YOU. Then bring her into the boudoir and create a fun romantic adventure. Your partner will be saying, “Wow who was that last night? Let’s invite her back!”

4) Moxie – become the leading lady of your life – no more settling for understudy. One of my clients, Jane, was tired of the “room mate” relationship her marriage had become and decided to step into what she wanted. While taking one of my playshops she tried out a few of the sensual poses she had learned. She didn’t let it bother her that she wasn’t getting the attention she wanted initially – instead she continued for her own pleasure and it was then that her husband locked eyes with her and they had the most passionate night in years. No coincidence that when she was confidently dwelling in the sweet spot of her magnificence she became irresistible!

5) Touch – becoming intimate with you is paramount to creating intimacy with others. Appreciating your body in a non-sexual, very sacred manner will help you get to know you and your sensual self.
So get started by experiencing your senses. Take some “me” time in a private environment (like your bedroom), light a candle, put on some music and lay down completely naked. Close your eyes and slowly touch every inch of your lovely body with deep care and love. As you run your hands over your legs, belly, breasts and arms notice the feel of your skin, the inner sensations, and the pleasure your body feels in being touched so lovingly. Remember this is not about sexuality it’s about loving, accepting and appreciating YOU.

6) Dance – again a private affair! You can do this one of two ways – either stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself or close your eyes and let the energy of the music come up through you, having its way with you. Do you trust yourself? Do you feel safe letting go of control? Give yourself permission to let go and let this energy fill you with sensual bliss within. Notice how you feel full and your edges start to disappear. A combination of the two is optimal, seeing the look in your eyes after you’ve allowed this energy to flow within is powerful.

7) Passion – the most attractive woman is the woman who loves life and feels desirable. Men see this in your eyes ladies – that you “have it”. When you make yourself the priority and then the man you gain his interest and respect. As soon as you value the man more you lose your appeal because you are not honoring and respecting yourself first. So discover what you are passionate about and make a bliss list of at least five things. Make sure at least three of the things are not dependent on others for your “feel good” and then do one of these things daily to fill you up with passion.

These tips are not a singular quick fix – they are a practice, a way of life. Make the commitment to make this way of living a lifestyle and you will find yourself feeling full up with your feminine, sensual self – engaging everyone in your wake.