Have you ever had a sudden insight that made things crystal clear?
The kind that inspires such knowing there’s no room for confusion, doubt or skepticism?
Loooove when that happens, don’t you? It’s like a cosmic kiss!
So a few days ago, I was thrown such a kiss! I had woken up feeling kinda funky and decided to take a walk in the park to shift my energy and mindset. And even though I was having my usual morning chat with God, rather than letting Spirit flow through me, I was mentally trying to force and control my shift with no luck.
Have you ever done that?
Frustrated I asked, “Ok God, help me see what I need to see, know what I need to know and feel what I need to feel” and literally within seconds I was given a great gift – a wonderful insight.
Last week we talked about the choice between staying connected to God’s peace within or indulging in the chaotic distractions of our outer world. I invited you to join me in a one-week challenge to become aware of your options and make a decision that serves your highest state of Being so you can maintain more joy in your life. How did you do?
I have to be honest and completely transparent about the last week for me – it was pretty up and down. My sister-in-law is in the hospital and I got completely riled up at the incompetency of the doctor who was treating her. Fortunately she was transferred to a different facility with higher quality care where she was diagnosed accurately and is receiving the meds she requires.
But until that happened it was a roller coaster of anger, fear and prayers. Boy did amnesia set in several times around staying in God’s peace!! Geeeez Louise!
I found myself getting extremely angry and emotional, blaming and judging the doctor. All stemming from my huge fear that his misdiagnosis and blunders might lead to losing my sister-in-law whom I love deeply – she’s been a big part of my life since I was 16.
Have you ever been in a situation like this? Where you feel helpless and you know your emotions are not contributing to a positive outcome but you are gripped by fear?
What do you do to turn a situation like this around?
Fortunately I caught myself and realized my fears and complaining about her poor care were not helping her get well or being a support to my brother. And the truth is, the doctors incompetency was not to be ignored, and it was reported; however, THE KEY was not to indulge in the situation – not to continue to put my attention on what was going wrong.
With those realizations I was able to turn my energy around to prayers of gratitude, seeing God’s healing, loving light flood her body bringing optimum health to every cell.
What I learned:
We all suffer from fear, from guilt, from challenges, from bad stuff happening – it’s part of being human. The thing is, those emotions are all low level and will attract more of the same so we have to ask ourselves, “Do I want more of this?” and if the answer is no, we make a choice IN THAT MOMENT to use our beautiful minds to turn the titanic around with a higher vibratory thought, a life generating thought.
This is our opportunity to build upon last week’s principle of “The One”, “The All” understanding as above, so below.
This week we look at the principle of Vibration. Everything vibrates. Our emotions are a good indicator of where we are vibrating. Fear, irritation and anger are all low vibrations. With our conscious awareness we can influence our emotions and increase our vibration creating different results. Now that’s pretty cool and empowering, isn’t it?
Since science has proven that what we attract is based on our vibration – it’s helpful to be aware of our thoughts and emotions – are they supporting a high vibration or a low vibration? If we want to attract better things into our life like more love, greater health, more success and prosperity and FUN times all we have to do is turn our attention vertically and open wide to God’s Infinite Love and wisdom.
When I was in Egypt I pressed my body and face against a hieroglyph on a wall in the Temple of Isis where they used to do high ceremonies.
I asked for a message.
What I instantly heard was so simple, so powerful, “Be grateful to God for EVERYTHING and all will work out well.”
Of course...GRATITUDE – one of the highest vibrations!!! Sometimes things are so simple we don’t see it especially if we have a pattern of struggle and lack. But the good news is, it really is that simple.
Try it now – name one thing you are grateful for and notice what shifts in your mind and body. Are you feeling more peaceful? If you aren’t moving towards a peaceful place continue a mantra of what you are grateful for until you feel calm within.
Now you have a very easy plan. When challenge, fear and guilt start to creep into your mind, make choices that support not only your highest good but everyone around you too. Look up, speak gratitude and fill up with the vibration of God’s Love. Wow what you will attract!! Sparkle Sister, life is about to get a whole lot easier! Yayyyyy!!!
I just returned from an epic pilgrimage in Egypt – it fulfilled and exceeded a bucket list dream I’ve had since I was 7! So excited to share the wisdom gained from this powerful experience over the next weeks and months with you.
One insight I’d love to start off with occurred on the last day of the journey. It had been arranged for our group of 65 to have private access to The King’s Chamber in the Great Pyramid. So in the wee hours just before dawn, flashlights guiding our way, we climbed the narrow passageway to the sacred space. After 20 minutes we arrived – the room was large with high ceilings and felt more spacious than I imagined it would be.
We cozied up sitting against the walls and laying on the floor in anticipation of what was next. Our pilgrimage leader, Mary Morrissey, instructed us to turn off all flashlights and then in the pitch darkness of the apex of the pyramid (so surreal!) led us into a silent 30-minute meditation to connect with God.
As I became one with the vertical stream of God’s loving light. The message was powerful –
I want you to pretend that we’re hanging out together at our favorite coffee shop. We’ve got our latte’s in front of us and I’m sitting across the table from you when and I look up and say, “Girl, you are overdue for some pampering ‘me’ time!”
I stand up, take your hand and proclaim that today is all about you. We’re going to create a space for you to refuel, recharge and treat yourself like the amazing woman you are!
We go to our favorite bath and body store. You buy some bath oils, a luxurious new robe and maybe those little things they put between your toes when you get a pedicure. Yes! We’re going all out for your much-needed self-love at home SPA DAY!
How is this sounding so far? Pretty good, right?
But now, let’s imagine that I’m not there with you, encouraging you to take care of yourself. How likely do you think you are to actually do it? I’m thinking the answer to that question is, “Not very likely.” Let’s change that!
Self-Love fuels the soul.
It really is that simple. When we make ourselves a priority, we can more easily make others feel important as well.
If you have difficulty putting yourself first, here are some Self-Love Day suggestions that will fill you up and make you sparkle.
- Write yourself a love letter! Describe everything that you love and find amazing about yourself. Tell yourself how proud you are of all that you’ve accomplished. Make it fun by using your favorite pen and some pretty paper. If any negative speak comes into your head, physically flick it away from your body and keep writing!
- Make a homemade sugar body scrub. Mix together honey and raw sugar and rub this on your body while in the shower. As you brush away all the dead skin, imagine that you’re also brushing away all the negativity that has been clinging to you, making it difficult to feel lovable and open. Doing this will make you feel fresh, polished and pretty.
- Have an “I Love You” bath or shower. Get a white soap like Dove and work it into a lather all over your body. You should be able to ‘write’ on your body and see it. Write “I love you” on your arm, and say out loud “I love you, arm, you help me hold the hand of my partner,” or “you helped me cradle my children.” Praise that body part for all it allows you to do. Do the same to your breasts, belly, your legs, even your bottom! When you’re done praising every body part, lovingly wash off the soap. You will feel so much love for your body.
- Give your hair a loving treatment! Wet your hair and rub several tablespoons of Coconut oil into your hair and scalp. Then wrap it in an old towel and let it sit for a few hours. While you’re waiting, get back into that juicy book you never finished or watch a movie. Wash your hair as you normally would. It will feel silky and nourished!
- Give yourself a mani or pedi or both! You can buy DIY kits at most drugstores. Paint your nails a bright SELF LOVE pink and every time you look at your handiwork, you will feel that love!
Try to make time for one of these Self-Love Days at least once a month. It doesn’t take much effort to create one and there are no rules. Do anything that resonates with you and makes you feel good.
The words we speak to ourselves are very powerful!
Dr. Masaru Emoto’s studies show that the way we speak to ourselves carries its own energetic weight. In one of his experiments, there were two glasses of water drawn from an identical water source. On each glass were written words. One glass had positive messages and the other, negative. The water was left to sit for a while and later viewed under a microscope.
What they discovered is astounding!!
The molecules of water in the glass with positive words looked like snowflakes. They reflected like beautiful prisms. The water molecules in the glass with negative words were shockingly black and yellow. They looked horrible.
So on your Self-Love Day make sure that you’re using only words of love.
Let’s share our Self-Love days! What do you have planned to let yourself know how much you care?
Valentines greetings from Egypt – while I’m on a spiritual pilgrimage to deepen my own personal journey of expansion, growth and self love you were on my mind.
Tomorrow, as you know, is the most exalted love day of the month.
How are you doing?
If you are already in a wonderful relationship I’m wishing you a beautiful celebration:)) But if you’re not and you find yourself longing to be in a deeply loving and connected partnership you are in great company. In my experience as a coach, I’ve learned that the majority of women share this common desire.
We are all on this planet to love and be loved.
And we’ve all been there on Valentine’s Day. The one day of the year that makes being alone feel even harder. Every shop window is full of hearts and red roses. Restaurants are advertising their special Valentine’s Day menus. If you were in a relationship last year and this year you’re not, the day can become a difficult reminder of what’s missing from your life.
But it doesn’t have to be this way!
Let’s face it: most long-term couples find themselves in a romantic rut at one point or another. Between your kids’ busy schedules, your demanding jobs, and that never-ending and totally unsexy daily task list, it’s hard enough just to sit down and have a conversation, let alone make time for romance.
For some women, the problem is bigger than a lack of fun in the bedroom. They wish for a deeper sense of emotional intimacy and connection with their husbands. They think back to the early days of their courtship, to their lost sense of play and spontaneity and wonder if it’s possible to ever get that back.
I’ve got good news for you. It is absolutely possible to rekindle your sense of passion for each other!
All it takes is a willingness to try something new and spice things up! Are you game? Why not try a Romance-Capade? So what’s that you might ask? It’s a themed rendezvous meant to bring connection, fun and intimacy into your relationship.
You can follow any of the 15 presented in my book OR let your imagination go wild and create your own. With a little prep work and a spirit of fun, you’ll have a great time planning your sexy escapade.
One of my clients decided to do the Moroccan themed Romance-Capade for her husband’s birthday. Believe me when I tell you that she’d never imagined herself belly-dancing after 40 years of marriage!
She ended up having so much fun buying props and planning the evening. He loved it and she felt invigorated and empowered by the whole experience.
Here’s the deal: that guy you fell in love with, the one who gave you butterflies simply by looking in your direction, he’s still in there! And he wants to come out and play just as much as you do!
Like my client, mix things up with a little moxy and create a romantic evening that brings you and your partner back to those heady days of dating. Make his favorite dinner and eat it by candlelight. Create a playlist of songs from that time in your life and you’ll be sure to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Here are some idea’s to get you started….
Fill your bathroom with candles and draw a luxurious bath for the two of you. Or bring the balmy, romantic nights of Hawaii to your home with a sexy hula show.
Feeling extra adventurous? Book yourself a room at a nearby hotel. Have your husband meet you at the bar and send him a drink with a note attached that reads, “I saw you on the subway this morning and I have to have you…meet me in room #…in ten minutes.”
With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, empower yourself by doing something different. If you want a little creative step-by-step help you can grab a copy of my book Sexy and Sparkling After 40. In the second section, Passport to Passion, you’ll discover more than a dozen exciting Romance-Capades, themed adventures created for women who want to spice up their love lives and deepen intimacy with their partners.
I first presented Romance-Capades in product form at a romance party years ago. As the women crowded around the table, I could tell that, while intrigued, they were also a bit unsure about how to put these teasing trysts into action. Some of them were downright scared!
You might be feeling a bit insecure or unsure too – that is normal, know that you’re not alone.
But know this, your guy isn’t looking at what you consider to be imperfections. He’s admiring and appreciating you for being adventurous and playful. And he’s feeling hot and bothered knowing that there’s a big time “win” for him at the end of this sexy story.
But, if you think you might be so nervous you won’t be able to go through with it, try one of these tips:
- Ask one of your girlfriends to be on standby for a last-minute supportive phone call or text message.
- Give yourself a heartfelt pep talk.
- Get some exercise.
- Reminisce by going through photo albums and remembering all the happy times.
- Do a meditation/visualization just before he arrives.
- When all else fails breathe and open up to your feminine nature. Getting started is the hardest part. Once you’ve jumped in, you’ll be thrilled to see how much fun you can have creating the experience.
This Valentine’s Day, put your favorite Romance-Capade into action. Don’t wait for your man to make dinner reservations. Take the lead and you will feel enlivened, vibrant and empowered!
As we head into the month of love there is a promise, a hope a thought… this year is gonna be different. I’ve spoken to so many of you in the Sparkle Community who’ve said, “This is my year for love – I desire and deserve it!”
Yes you do, you ABSOLUTELY deserve to experience great love and the time has never been better than today – so draw an invisible line, step over it and claim it victoriously!
Whether you’re single or in a committed relationship it’s time to take bold action moving you towards your dream. If you are single I always say there’s a lid for every pot and if you have a lid you may want to improve the fit. Regardless make a decision for your dream.
Hmmmm…are you beginning to notice any anxiety rising up? Twitching. Starting to sweat. Are you hearing yourself blurt out, “Not so fast!. As much as I want that, it’s a little bit scary. I don’t know if I can trust again…I’m not sure I’m ready to open my heart again…but dang I really want it!
Does that sound familiar?
If that speaks to you in any way, and you’re ready to let your desires run roughshod over your fears then listen up! (And by the way, I’ve been there, too – I know what it’s like to have painful doubts that keep you from the amazing life you know in your heart can be yours).
That’s why I’m writing to you today. Because all those doubts are about to disappear… forever. Click the video below to learn how….
It’s my easy-to-implement “3 STEPS to make it safe to love again” video. I created it especially for you, because I’ve been where you are.
And I know that deep down you are longing to experience a love like no other.
By the time we’re done, you will have a key tool to succeed.
To set you free and help you feel safe to love again.
And steer you in the direction of the love you’ve missed out on all your life.
Now is your time! Leave behind the doubt, fear and paralysis that’s kept you hiding. A romantic adventurous and fulfilling love life is waiting for you!
What are you committed to?
Not many people would say they are committed to a life that sabotages them yet their desires and dreams always seem to be just out of reach.
What about YOU?
Because the truth is, everyone is committed to something. When you think about your goals for the year in relationship to your daily life – would you say you are taking actions consistently that are moving you towards your vision? If you are that’s awesome!! If, however, your pattern is taking a step forward and then right when you think you are making progress something pops up and before you know it you are off track and feel like you’ve taken a step backward – maybe feeling frustrated and disappointed with yourself – you are not alone. Can you relate?
Because I know EXACTLY how you feel, and what steps help me to successfully and consistently move forward, I created a video to share them with you.
CLICK the video below to discover 3 easy steps to manifest your dreams and strengthen your commitments!
“How To Make A Positive Commitment” to you!
To your sparkling dreams coming true!
Did you know just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s resolutions?
Shocking, isn’t it?
That’s why I am dedicating this month to YOUR success! With the right steps and tools you can do it!! YES!!
Why are the right tools important? Because the research of Scranton University says despite our good intentions only a tiny fraction of us keep our resolutions.
I believe it – before learning how to set goals successfully I was in that 92% where goals fell by the wayside within the first month.
What about you? How are you doing with your New Year’s goals? Are you easily staying on track or are you finding distractions derailing you?
If you find yourself in the latter you’re not alone and you’ll love today’s tool to help you stay connected to your desire. (If you missed week 1 and 2’s steps you can go here to learn more)
Last week we talked about setting yourself up for success in 2018 with a 5-step process. I gave you the first step, clarity of your dream, and the components to craft a great vision. Have you done that yet? (If you want to learn all 5 NOW go here!)
Let’s assume you have. Ok then! You’ve got a dream, a goal, ambition and you’re ready to take the world by storm. Woo hoo!
But, wait, why are there so many darn potholes on the road to your desires?
Anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. So, how do you move past these roadblocks on the path to your bright future?
The first step is to recognize that a roadblock is not a dead end.
When a challenge arises, it’s important to stay connected to your “why” and not to give up. Why do you want this particular thing? As long as you keep this in the forefront of your mind you can recenter, refocus and recommit.
After all, a detour on the way to work wouldn’t keep you from getting to your end destination. So why would you let a detour on the path to your dream keep you from reaching your aspirations?
Today I’m going to share the 3 most common obstacles people encounter on the way to their dream and how to recognize these culprits and move past them.
This way, when you encounter an obstacle you can say, “Out of my way! I’m on course for my dream life!“
Viva la dream building!
The 3 Biggest Obstacles to Achieving Your Dream & 3 Solutions
Obstacle #1 – Fear
Fear, doubt, and worry are like leeches to your dream. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and there’s a part of you that doesn’t. The part of you that doesn’t is fearful of change. It will tell you all the reasons why you can’t reach your goal like, “you’re too old, you don’t know enough, you don’t have the money, you don’t have what it takes, you failed before what makes you think you can succeed this time?” Its job is to protect you in a safe little cocoon and therefore it will resist any form of growth and expansion in your life.
Solution #1 – Neutralize your fear
When you feel fear and anxiety creeping up, you’ll need to step out of that thought pattern. Take a deep breath and begin to focus on the “why” of your dream. Why is it that this dream important to you? When your “why” is big enough, the how will appear.
Ask yourself, what’s one step you can take from where you are right now, with what you have, to move towards your goal?
Your dream/vision will unfold one step at a time. Even the longest journey begins with just one step. What one step can you take now?
Obstacle #2 – Distraction
Distractions can keep you stuck in a rut. Have you ever set time aside for a project but before you sit down you look around and there’s the laundry or there’s a pile of mail you haven’t gone thru? Then you notice there’s that drawer you wanted to clean out, or you get a call from a friend and instead of letting it go to voice mail you pick up and spend an hour chitchatting with her, or you check your email and texts or get on Facebook?
These distractions can keep you on a permanent detour from getting to your dream!
Solution #2 – Stay focused & Set boundaries
Achieving your dream is going to require focus and effort. Set aside time regularly to work toward your aspirations. Treat this time as a VIP priority. Make sure you turn off all distractions. Put your phone on silent and close your email application.
Think of distractions as your archenemy in the field of your dreams.
Remember the importance of achieving your goal as you create your vision. If any distractions start to pop up, remember what they are and that you can make a choice of how to deal with them.
Obstacle #3 – Your habitual patterns keep you stuck
Most people want a life that’s warm, fuzzy and filled with fulfillment. Yet we go through life blaming our circumstances for the life we have rather than taking ownership and leading ourselves to a more empowered life. The truth is we all have circumstances, the trick is not to let the circumstances have us. Whether we are stuck in the past, seeing nothing at all ahead, or envisioning a dazzling future– all are equal in producing our reality. If we are dissatisfied yet do nothing to change, we will continue to live a mediocre life at best.
Solution #3 – Get in the driver’s seat and take control
Take responsibility for creating the life you want. You are the leading lady of your own life. Do the work to “know” what you want and “choose” those things. You have the power to create a life you love. It’s always a choice. You can move out of victim mentality, out of feeling stuck, and out of being irresponsible for life’s outcomes. You can choose to move into responsibility, possibilities, personal power and limitless opportunities.
It’s time to get in the driver’s seat and take control of your destination. You must identify and harness the power, control and responsibility for your thoughts and actions so you can be empowered to create a life you love.
Here’s to staying on track on the path to your dream. You CAN do it! I believe in you. Happy visioning!