Have a Passionate Love Affair with Summer

sherri articleWhen you think about summertime, does a big smile creep across your face? Summer is a season that evokes happy memories for many of us: the days are longer, the weather is inviting and it feels like opportunities for new adventures wait around every corner!

You don’t have to jet away on a luxury vacation to feel re-inspired and reinvigorated this season. Even if you have career or family obligations that keep you at home, you still have a chance to put the sparkle back into your step during the hottest months of the year.

Start by asking yourself these two questions… What can I do that will bring freshness to my life? What would I love?

Sometimes we forget how simple it can be to do things that we love. Bring some of your favorite aspects of summer to life by identifying what they are and planning to do them. A backyard BBQ, a special cake that your mother used to make every summer, a picnic at the park…

Imagine for a moment the first step you could take today to do something that really lights your fire.

Close your eyes and envision yourself taking this first step.

Maybe it’s as easy as opening up the paper to see what events are happening locally this weekend, or putting on some music that inspires you to jump up and get your groove on. Maybe you do something spontaneous like heading out of town for the week-end with no destination in mind other than “adventure”!

Spark your imagination by looking on Pinterest for playful ideas and create a summer bucket list of fun things to do.  That’s what one of my savvy Sparkle clients recently did and now she has an abundance of exciting things for her family to do all summer long.

If you don’t spend a lot of time with your friends, make this part of your summer routine to get the energy moving. Many studies have shown that oxytocin, the “feel good” hormone, is released when girlfriends get together and engage in lots of connecting and bonding.

Whatever you feel will make your summer sparkle, do it as soon as you can, and do it with people who make your heart sing!

4 Steps to reconnect if you are lonely in love

Lonely in LoveAre you sitting home with your partner, night after night, feeling lonelier than if you actually lived on your own? Do you long for the past when you and your honey were so connected you couldn’t wait to be with each other and share every detail of your day? Are you puzzled trying to remember how and when the disconnection began?

Sometimes love gets lonely. Even in the best relationship, you can occasionally feel alone and isolated. That sense of separateness can feel like a canyon dividing you’re relationship.

At some point, discussions about mutual interests, goals and dreams, stop entirely and conversations become purely transactional (e.g., “We need milk,” or “Did you remember to pay the water bill?”), or focused exclusively on the children.

We can also fall into daily routines that create both physical and emotional distance. For example, one person watches television in the den while the other is in the office on the computer. In short, we lose the love and the affection but we stay in the relationship creating the feeling of being lonely in love.

So, what is the real reason we become disconnected and lonely?

Click here to read the full blog article and learn why we sometimes become disconnected in love and 4 steps that will pave the way to a happier more connected partnership.

 

Is your heart open to happiness? To love?

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I just had the most exhilarating experience – an early morning bike ride from the summit of Maui’s Haleakala volcano with a group of vacationing adventure seekers (that’s me and my soul sister Saskia with our fearless biking leader in the pic above.) As we winded down the road for 26 miles I felt fantastically alive with the wind on my skin, the beauty of the island, and the thrill of the ride shared with new friends. I am feeling so lit up and happy!

This trip was a huge reminder of what happens when you stay open and listen to your heart. It inspires newness, brings passion back into your life filling you with happiness. Wow, so simple, right? Sometimes we forget how easy it is to become happy. We forget we are always creating our lives with our behavior, thoughts, ideas.

How to open your heart to happiness and love

I recently watched a documentary on Happiness and how to achieve that in your life. What they said is that the key to happiness lay in the following formula or 5 must haves:

  1. Playfulness
  2. Gratitude
  3. Family
  4. Acts of Kindness
  5. Connection (to others)

Funny enough, these same 5 must haves for happiness are the same 5 must haves for opening yourself up for a love connection.

Let’s go into a bit more detail on each and see how these all tie into growing your chances for happiness and a love connection.

Playfulness: What does that even mean? Well, ask yourself, do you know how to have fun? To play and let your ‘hair down’? To be a bit silly? Being playful equates to not taking yourself too seriously, and to enjoying having fun, and to stop worrying about how you might look or what others think of you! Just enjoy the moment and let yourself go! Not only will this bring you more joy, men love women who know how to have fun!

Gratitude: When you can look at your life and say, wow, I am grateful to have air to breathe, a roof over my head, a job that puts food in the fridge, wonderful friends who I adore, my health…and the list goes on… then your focus shifts from the negative of what you don’t have in your life to the positive of what you DO HAVE. It’s life changing! Your appreciation increases your vibration, increasing your ability to attract even more good things your way, not to mention a fabulous new outlook on life. When you live with gratitude in your heart, you will feel calmer, happier, more at peace and more open to what God/The Divine/Universe wants to grace you with.

When you live a life always wanting more, thinking what you have right now is not enough, wishing you had something different, your vibration is aligned with scarcity and neediness and it repels happiness. Definitely not a crowd-pleasing attitude! Men, and most people for that matter, do not want to be around someone who is always whining, complaining, never happy, never satisfied. Change your energetic vibration using gratitude and get ready for the flood of happiness in your life!

Family: I use the word family loosely – this could be your biological family, or the people in your life that are closest to you, that you hold dear to your heart like family. I have several girlfriends who are my soul sisters and I consider them family. They fill my heart with joy and love and I adore them. Stay connected with your family – if you are geographically close, make a point to see them as often as you can manage. Family dynamics aside, (and we all have that brother or sister we would rather not spend time with) share your love with your family and you will receive love back.

Family is very important in your formula for happiness and openness for a love connection in your life. Having connections to your loved ones keeps your heart open with the flow of giving and receiving. An attractive and alluring vibe to be flaunting!

Acts of Kindness: Last month my best friend drove 2 hours, on HER Mother’s day, and spent a few days helping me pack up for my big move. When she offered I was like What?! Seriously? It’s your Mother’s day! I was so touched I cried. All the overwhelm I had been feeling left – her support and act of kindness changed my entire outlook on the enormous task at hand. I felt so appreciative and incredibly happy!

That feeling inspired me to acts of kindness – a welcoming card and bouquet of flowers left in the kitchen for the new homeowners, leaving an anonymous bunch of flowers on a random doorstep in the neighborhood (I’m big on flowers LOL). And I will continue to do things because it feels so good!

Acts of kindness can be to strangers, or it can be to your friends, anyone really. Calling your girlfriend up who you know is having a tough time and telling her that you’re dropping by with her favorite cupcakes is an act of kindness. Helping others when they least expect it is an act of kindness, and the best part? The amazing feeling you get when you do this multiplies, it compounds and grows! It’s just another way to change your overall energetic vibration in this world, and increases your overall happiness and attractiveness to others.

Connections: If you never get out, if you only ever go to work, and stay home, your ability to make connections to others is severely limited. Simply adding in something new to your life, like going to a cooking class or to the beach or biking down a volcano like I did today opens up your ability to connect with others. That’s step one – getting out there. The second step is actually making connections. It’s not enough to be out there and not speak or talk to others. You gotta make the effort to meet new people. I always talk to people, total strangers! By talking to people, and genuinely wanting to connect, I’ve met some incredible people who have become friends, love interest and even met some women who’ve turned into clients! It’s incredible what making simple connections can do. You never know who you will meet and who knows who.

Connections are key, to making new friends, new business for yourself as well as finding love. Always stay open to making new connections!

If you practice the 5 simple steps to happiness above, you will 100% change how you are showing up in this world, you will open yourself up to so much more beauty and happiness and yes, LOVE.

Practice these 5 steps as often as you can, I have them on stickies on my bedroom mirror, to remind me to keep myself open to happiness and love of all kinds, and let me tell you dear heart, it’s so worth it.

How are you opening your life to happiness, love and a fuller connection with yourself? Do you have a plan for success?

Next week I’ll be back from vacation and I am so ready to help more women find that BIG happiness and love in their lives. I’m going to open up 5 spots in my calendar next week for a FIND HAPPINESS SPARKLE SESSION, it’s my gift to you and I will help you with your roadmap to finding happiness NOW.

I invite you to get a spot now, as I’m only going to open this to 5 women ready to find happiness!  Get yours now!

How to open yourself up to great opportunities

3-23-2015 8-06-14 AMWho wants a summer filled with fun, love and great opportunities? I know I do!

As I write this I’m packing my bags, and about to leave for a vacation I’ve been SO looking forward to! I’m off to Hawaii for 6 days of research and rest with one of my favorite friends and I can’t wait!

I’m so excited to have a new adventure, share memories with my gal pal, discover beautiful sites and experiences for my upcoming retreat, and meet interesting new people.

I plan on having the most fun ever, but here’s the thing, having fun and being open to exciting opportunities is all in your head!

Let me tell you why.

The mind believes what we tell it, if you repeat over and over, that your life is challenging, you think you’re fat/ugly/too old/too whatever to have fun, find love, get great opportunities, the brain believes it!

It’s all a state of mind!

Right now you might be feeling less than excited about your day, it’s more about fulfilling responsibilities than a life. Of maybe you are in a chronic state of worry about what you don’t want to happen, or you are feeling lonely or sad. If you allow your mind to dwell and wallow in those places all the time you will stay STUCK exactly there.

Find out how to get UNSTUCK now

The secret to staying in your sparkling essence…for good!

may 21 articleOld habits die-hard.

So how do you get your sparkling essence – that Leading Lady you’ve been lassoing – to stick to you like glue and enjoy doing it?

Here’s what you need to know.

We talked about creating your vision for your Leading Lady a few weeks ago {catch up on that article here} and then we talked about manifesting your Leading Lady into your life [this one was fun, read it here} so today is all about keeping your Leading Lady from running off into the wings and putting you right back where you started!

Love on your Leading Lady like the Sparkling Star she is!

If you were dying to meet one of the A list Hollywood stars like Helen Mirren, or Charlize Theron, or maybe Meryl Streep, and you managed to by some stretch of the imagination, get them to hang out with you, you wouldn’t then ignore them, or treat them rudely or worse, not show up right?!

You’d be crazy!!!

But that’s exactly what you are doing if you have gone to the trouble of making an effort to transform yourself into your Leading Lady and then neglect her, ignore her, and go back to your old habits that made you unhappy in the first place.

You gotta show your LL the LOVE baby! You gotta show her what it means to be the diamond star in your life! Treat the new you like the A list superstar that you are and she will want to stick around!

Here’s the thing, going from waiting in the wings of your own life to Leading Lady isn’t hard, but it can be a tough road to getting clarity on what you need to do. It doesn’t have to be like that.

When I created and manifested my Leading Lady status, I had the love and support of my friends… AND I had my coach, who was like a voice in my ear every time I was about to fall back and out of the spotlight. Support is key, actually is downright necessary.

And that made me think about you, I want to give you all the tools to succeed, so here’s what I’m doing.

This week and for part of next week, I’m opening up 7 spots on my calendar for what I’m calling “Become the Leading Lady: Reawaken your Sparkle & make it last”.

These are 20-minute strategy calls, one on one, and there is no charge, Holy Moly! Grab one now. 

It’s the kick-start you need, or the butt kicking if you fell behind, to getting the sparkle back in your life and making it stick!

Check out what one of my clients Sarah-Jane says about how potent our time together is ….

“I had wanted to post here last week to say how amazing I am finding the coaching calls. Truth be known, I was ready to pack my bags and leave my marriage the week leading up to my first coaching call (I even had visually decorated all the rooms in my new home – that I still had to find!). Sherri immediately identified the underlying issue and we worked on it using the PSYCH-K posture. Things improved immediately and then when I hit another block last week and was literally on my knees and in such emotional pain, again she was able to identify the core issue and teach me another amazing technique to resolve it.

What that woman can achieve in just 15 minutes is phenomenal!

Not only has she helped me heal my relationship with my husband, but she has helped me heal my relationship with me too – THAT being the biggest barrier to any other relationship I would or could ever have with another person.

Thank you from the bottom of my self-loving heart!”

“Thank you for all the work you have done with me Sherri – it has been a huge catalyst for change and growth. My relationship is stronger than ever and things are so much more effortless….” ~ Sarah-Jane Scotland

Take this gift I’m offering, and lets set you up to be on track for some Leading Lady status…PRONTO!

I can’t wait to help you be the sparkling star you are! Get your free call with me here 

It’s totally ok to share this opportunity with a friend that you know needs this loving push, share this link with them and let’s get them on their Leading Lady stardom track! 

 

6 Steps to Make your Leading Lady Debut

6 Steps to Make your Leading Lady DebutWhoa! I received some amazing feedback from last weeks article called “Are You Leading Lady Material” (if you missed it, read it here before reading on)

The timing of this series on being your Leading Lady is key; we just celebrated Mothers Day in North America, a day where we celebrate mothers and the integral role they play in our lives.

Clients tell me that after they have kids they lose their sense of self, and after the kids grow up, they find it hard to find them selves again.

Ever seen an ‘Empty Nester’ go a bit hog wild? They join every class, do every activity and become a social butterfly. Or they become a house hermit, and getting them to come out for coffee is like pulling teeth? Big extremes but the same problem – women who have lost touch with their Leading Lady status.

So last week we wrote out the characteristics of our Leading Lady, and we created a vision board of everything she embodies. We visited that board twice a day because images and repetition are what rewire our brain and change our energetic vibration.

This week we are going to ground that Leading Lady with a system I call:

6 Principles for Becoming the Sparkling Leading Lady of Your Life

Click here to learn the 6 easy steps

Are You Leading Lady Material?

Who do you want to become?

In the movie version of your life, are you the Leading Lady you always thought you would be? Are you living the life you want? Or are you stuck in the wings, afraid to step out and into the spotlight and own your divine power in this world?

God, the divine, a higher power…whatever you believe in, intended you to live an empowered existence, and to experience life in the highest and happiest way possible.

If you are sitting reading this thinking… YES! I am so NOT living my life to the fullest, or owning my Leading Lady life, then stay with me, because making the change from hiding in the wings to standing in your personal sparkling spotlight is easier than you think honeychild!

What does it take to be a Leading Lady?

Well look no further than Hollywood “A” list stars for examples. What do they have in common? They exude confidence and self-assurance, its clear that they love and respect themselves and those around them. There’s this magnetic energy that surrounds them and draws you in, that’s why their movies and red carpet events get so much attention!

Here’s how to start the journey to becoming your own sparkly Leading Lady.

First, write down the characteristics of your ultimate leading lady.

~ How does she think?
~ How does she dress?
~ How does she talk?
~ How does she react to situations
~ How does she show up in life?

Then Do This:

  • Find a picture of a role model that represents your Leading Lady ideals (can be an actress, or politician, an activist , a friend or anyone that embodies your list of characteristics listed above) and post that in a very conspicuous place. Remember that you want to see this multiple times a day so don’t put it on the back of your closet door unless that’s somewhere you go often!
  • Write the characteristics of your Leading Lady on paper and post it on your fridge or wall in your bedroom next to the pictures of you role model.
  • Visit this Leading Lady vision board OFTEN, a minimum of twice a day and stick to it!

To become your Leading Lady you need to take her characteristics and create images with them. Our brain associates with pictures more readily than words, so here’s where you can be creative and build an image with yourself in it firmly anchored in those traits OR find photo’s that represent them.

You can create your own Leading Lady vision board if you want! Once you create the images connect with them, FEEL them, engage the senses. Do this consistently twice a day and watch your new sparkling self-image spring to life.

By holding the image and characteristics of the Leading Lady you want to be in your mind several times a day, you are introducing what I call ‘The Magic of a Good Attitude’ into your life. If your Leading Lady characteristics say that your role model has great posture and her house is tidy and she spends at least a few hours a week taking care of herself so she can take care of others, then you will feel compelled to sit up straighter, do those dishes and book that mani pedi next week!

Write down the characteristics of the woman you want to become, connect with it, own it and you will soon see your outer world changing in ways that confirm you have become her! It sounds simple but its really just about creating a different self-image and attitude.

I talk about being your Leading Lady in my book Sexy and Sparkling After 40, in a chapter I call ‘Adjust your Attitude’ that is super helpful for this. You can get your copy here 

5 Self-Love Tips to Fuel the Soul

I love meSelf Love Fuels the soul.

It’s that simple, it’s that perfect.

So today, I’m going to pretend it’s you and me, sitting in our favorite hangout having our favorite beverage together. I’m looking at you from across the table and I say…

“Girl you are overdue for some hardcore, down to the marrow self love. Let’s clear a day for you THIS WEEK so you can refuel, recharge and treat yourself like the amazing woman you are!! “

Then, we’d go to our favorite store and you’d buy some bath oils, a new cushy robe maybe and those thingies you put between your toes when you get a pedicure. Yup we would go all out for your needed self love at home SPA DAY.

Doesn’t that sound great?

Reality is, that unless I am right there next to you, encouraging you to take a morning off from everyone and spend it on yourself, you might not do it.

But let’s change that!

By making yourself a priority, you can more easily make others important as well.

Here’s some Self Love Day suggestions that will fill you up and make you sparkle! (make time for a self love day at least once a month!)

Click here to learn 5 fun and simple tips to love on yourself a little more:))

15 Minutes to Clarity

article-2061094-0EC403A500000578-694_468x463I LOVE spring, and for so many reasons! One of them is that spring makes everything new again. A new beginning, a renewal, a rejuvenation, and an amazing time to take a deep dive into the ocean of YOU and see what you find.

Spring also reminds of my childhood and I was thinking about that this weekend. When I was a kid, my mother would do a huge Spring Cleaning. She’d open all the windows, wash the drapes, and do a total top to bottom clean and de-cluttering of the house. There was something about getting rid of all the clutter accumulated over the winter that felt so freeing, and the house felt so much bigger, brighter and open.

The same applies to your life and your ability to think clearly.

I have clients who tell me that they cannot think straight because of the clutter in their lives – both mental and physical. When you are surrounded by clutter, it robs you of your creativity. Think about that – I know if I have a ton of things on my mind like I have lately with the sale of my father’s home, I find it hard to generate new ideas, or be in my creative power.

It drives me nuts! But I have the solution – so keep reading baby!

I’m now in the process of packing everything up because the sale of the house went through. Have you done this? Going through the contents and packing takes a ton of time and effort. I feel like I’m surrounded by clutter and its making me craaaaazy!! HELP!!!

So while I was sorting through a plethora of things, I found a box full of papers from when I was in grade school all the way through my first year of college. I didn’t want to toss anything without first going through it, but after I looked at everything and deciding there was nothing there to keep, it felt SO GOOD to toss the box and LET IT GO!!!

Energetically, when we keep things from the past, it keeps us in the past. That’s not always bad –Memories of a great trip, or your kids, or your wedding. I’m specifically talking about keeping things that don’t serve us, or that have bad associations with them. (Like that picture of your ex you are holding onto?! Ahem!).

In addition, one of my mentors mentioned that we are capable of holding 7 things in our brain -so if you look around your home and see piles of stuff everywhere your mind is full up with stagnant clutter and has no space for creative new thoughts. Also, if you are looking for new things to come into your life, you will have to clear away the old to make space/room for them.

We hold onto ALL THIS STUFF because going through it and tossing it out takes a chunk of time and it can feel seriously overwhelming. You look at the piles of stuff and you know its going to take you the whole weekend to get through, so you leave it, you walk away and guess what – the PILE OF STUFF GETS BIGGER!

Sister, I hear you, but I also have the solution. So keep reading, this is good.

This is what I tell my clients, and trust me, I say it with love but I also say it very firmly.

I want you to get out a timer (I use the timer app on my phone) and set it to 15 minutes. Then devote those 15 minutes to de-cluttering your physical space. It’s a baby step but TRUST ME, it works.

15 minutes a day adds up to almost 2 hours a week, but because its spread out its not overwhelming like if I said spend 2 hours tonight on it.

See what I mean?

Now stay committed to the 15 minutes a day and it will get easier and easier to de-clutter – you might actually enjoy it!!! If you do this every day for a week you will feel good because your building your self-trust and your confidence, and sister, it makes you FEEL GOOD!

Here are two suggestions for de-cluttering:

1) Take some time to walk around your home. Open the history page on your computer or your TiVo recording schedule. Look at the pictures on your walls, shelves, the DVD’s in your collection. Get rid of anything that does not give you a positive memory or that you no longer need.

2) Is there anything in your home that is a potential corrupting influence? Is there anything in your personal life that is a corrupting influence (clutter can be relationships that don’t serve you too:)) If so pray about those things and ask God/Universe/Source for guidance in how to deal with them and then take action!

When you clear away the clutter you are seriously changing the energy in that space, (mental or physical, it doesn’t matter!) you are re-energizing yourself and the space and you will really feel more open and expansive to new ideas, and self purpose. Viva la de-cluttering!!!

Laugh Until You Pee, Just a Little

How much did you LOVE creating playtime in your life?? If you missed last weeks post about it – read it here and get moving on creating fun and excitement in your life!

If you did add more playtime, did you notice how it changed you energetically? How you were more filled up and ready to add more love and light into your life? Wasn’t that amazing?!!

In my experience as a coach, and talking with women everywhere, I’ve discovered that the majority of us want a deeply loving and connected relationship. in order to have that, you have to have an open heart. And being in a playtime spirit, you are in your heart right away!!! I promise you that if you keep adding playtime to your daily life, you will open your heart to receiving in so many incredible ways!

When’s the last time you laughed with your girlfriends until you peed just a little? Or your ribs hurt so much and you couldn’t catch your breath? When was the last time you sat and caught up with the girls in your life that ignite your soul’s passion?

It’s ok to have a meltdown sometimes.Men love to fix things, it’s in their DNA. When we tell them our problems, bless their hearts, they want to fix them for us, when sometimes we just want to vent, because venting out our issues allows the dust to clear so we can see what to do next.

The worst is when you’ve had a BAD DAY, and you just need to unload, decompress, yell and in frustration at the ceiling until the tension is gone and spent. With your girlfriends you have license to ‘lose it’ sometimes; have the meltdown and feel safe when you do. Do this in front of your man, and you might just get the blank stare – They don’t know what to do!!!

Your girlfriends get it. They know you just gotta let it out, shake it out, scream it out even, and when you’re done, and you’ve all eaten two of the best cupcakes in the known world with the most expensive bottle of wine you could find, they know its time to hatch your plans to put your life back in order. Girlfriends bring balance to your life.

My secret weapon to achieving balance in my life? Girlfriend Getaways!!

I love girlfriend getaways. A few days out of town, having fun with friends is incredibly rejuvenating. Even if it’s only for a day or two, that can be just enough to change your perspective, bring you joy and peace and build the bonds of your friendships.

Getting out of town gives you a fresh perspective, energizes you, and opens you up for creative thoughts. Doing certain things with your girlfriends causes the brain to release a special hormone that brings you bliss!

Click here to discover this “feel good” hormone and the activities that cause it’s release

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