Fox News recently shared the findings of a survey conducted to determine what factors in a relationship are most often responsible for bedroom boredom. Want to have a peek at the results?

Any number of factors can contribute to a couple getting a little bored with their bedroom activities: stress, life changes, busy schedules and more. And even with an arsenal of sensual tips to try out, many couples still find themselves unenthused when it comes to making an effort in the bedroom.

Keep reading to discover why couples get bored and also to learn the surprising key to better s-e-x.

The scientifically sexy website Good In Bed polled over 3,000 individuals in committed relationships and came up with some interesting findings. When asked about a number of life changes that contribute to bedroom boredom, the following percentages of participants felt that these mileposts negatively affected their libidos:

• 38.5% Getting older
• 15.6% Moving in together
• 13.8% Marriage
• 32.2% Having children
• Interestingly, 8% felt that getting pregnant affected their bedroom boredom

No doubt big life changes like having children or moving in together affect your relationship, and certainly the amount of intimate time you’re able to spend with your partner. However, I am a bit dismayed to spot getting older on this list. I think growing old with your partner can actually be really fun!

If you feel like you are in a romantic rut and things have gotten pretty stale, why not bring a fresh twist into your relationship to mix it up?
Here’s an amazingly simple and fun key to better sex… laughter!

Many studies have shown that when we laugh, joke, and act silly, there is a mutual desire to let go, be happy, and love with an underlying benefit of feeling like you belong. So if you are looking to deepen your relationship and improve your sex life, start laughing.

Laughter is very sexy—particularly in the bedroom. Is your sex life full of silly fun? If not, you are missing out on one of the easiest ways to bring you and your partner closer together. Laughing shows you are willing to release inhibitions, let down your guard, and let go of unhealthy tensions. In addition, when you laugh you become present—living in the moment—inviting connection and creating the space for deeper intimacy.

Interestingly, laughter and sex produce similar physical reactions—both increasing body temperature and leaving you feeling warm, wonderful, and totally relaxed. So why not bring some silliness into the bedroom to bond in new and powerful ways?

Here are 5 ideas to get the giggling going:

1. Try a new position that rivals Cirque du Soleil.
2. Try body painting, and find your partner’s ticklish spots!
3. Play naked Twister with some naughty new rules.
4. Roll some dirty dice (one with body parts and the other with actions—easily found online).
5. Use your limitless imagination!

Unfortunately, many people try to avoid funny situations fearing they might look foolish or be laughed at or rejected. The truth is, when you hold yourself in check, wanting to look perfect, afraid of what your partner will say or do, you put up an invisible wall that creates separation—the opposite of what you and your relationship should desire to attain. When you are worried about what the other person thinks, you have this swirl of anxious thoughts that keeps you closed off. Why not open up to having some fun and trying new things? It will allow your significant other to see another side of you as well as bring fresh sparks to your sex life.

Have you ever noticed how much energy and enthusiasm children have? One of the reasons for this is because they laugh a lot. They don’t spend much time worrying or thinking negative thoughts, which exhaust us and weigh us down. When your energy is light and happy your partner will be much more drawn to you, creating a positive environment for emotional and sexual intimacy.

Laughter also creates connection; one of the top things people complain is missing from their relationship. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson of the University of North Carolina found that positive emotion expands our visual attention and socialness, improving our ability to connect with others. It also helps to relax the mind—so laughing and playing is a great way for couples to get “unstuck” and dissolve tension.

Being playful helps you connect with the happy part of your innermost self. When you are in this space, you start communicating from your heart instead of your head, pulling your partner in because he or she can feel you, thus creating connection and deeper intimacy.

Many studies have shown that when we laugh, joke, and act silly, there is a mutual desire to let go, be happy, and love with an underlying benefit of feeling like you belong. So if you are looking to deepen your relationship and improve your sex life, start laughing. Forget your fears, step outside your comfort zone, and let your silly side shine through. As you become more open and inviting, your sex life will soar!

Did you know that happy women appear sexier to men? Smiling makes you more approachable and sends a positive signal that acts like a magnetic force for attracting other happy people.

Perhaps even more exciting, the happier you are, the more confident you are. When we’re cheerful we feel confident in ourselves and our abilities. Happiness is not a sporadically occurring phenomenon; it is the result of our responses – the more regularly we experience happiness as a response, the more confident we become in our ability to succeed and be happy.

This confidence is the most natural confidence that a woman can possess and one that is noticed by others. Once you are happy and confident that you can continue to make yourself happy, your comfort zone begins to expand — people will love that about you.

The biggest secret that happy women know is that happiness needs to be taken on proactively. You can’t just wait for fun to happen. You must become responsible for creating your own playful, passionate, fulfilling life.

Being playful and having fun will also keep your stress at bay.

Have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed out it’s nearly impossible to feel authentically happy? Stress is toxic and will steal your joy.

The human body doesn’t discriminate between a BIG stress or a little one. Regardless of the significance, stress affects the body in predictable ways. A typical stress reaction, which most of us experience dozens of times each day, begins with a cascade of 1,400 biochemical events in your body. If these reactions are left unchecked we age prematurely, our cognitive function is impaired, our energy is drained, and we are robbed of our sparkling joyous spirit.

It’s time to take the reins to reduce stress and enjoy happiness! One of the best ways to access your joy and eliminate stress is to schedule fun time on your calendar. Scheduling joyful experiences is just as vital as fitting in other important events.

Taking a proactive approach ensures that you’ll be having more fun more often. When you’re having fun, feeling happy, and accessing your passion; your life will unfold in the most marvelous ways. You’ll experience vital health, become sexier, more confident and experience less stress.

I can’t think of any better reason to make playtime a top priority!

If you’re ready for more fun, I’ve got some exciting news for you. I’m hosting an extraordinary free video virtual event with leading experts that will teach you how to clear through blocks and discover authentic happiness in every aspect of your life.

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Starting April 16th over twenty of the world’s leading Love, Health, Intimacy, and Empowerment experts are coming together through this video virtual event to teach you the proven techniques -that they’ve used themselves- to experience a rewarding life of passion, love, and fun.

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Choose A Playful & Passionate Life!

We all experience fear doubt and worry at some point. If you’ve ever had that stomach churning, heart racing feeling associated with fear you know it’s positively dreadful.

You may be surprised to hear that extinguishing your fears can be a lot of fun.

Fear extinction is the process of reducing fear by creating non-fearful memory associations. For example, if you have a fear of approaching men and have had a bad experience in the past, it’s normal that you’ll become more nervous the next time around. However, if you’re able to get back on the horse and create a new experience you will form new (and more pleasant) memories associated with flirtation.

This alternate set of pleasant memories will compete with the original fearful memories and soon you’ll become more confident and courageous than you ever imagined. Go you!

Did you know PLAYFULNESS is one of the best tools you can use to breakthrough fear?

Click here to read the full article and learn how to breath through fear and live a playful, passionate, and joyous life.

How would you like to transform your less than luscious love life into a juicy and delicious love affair? The key to a love life full of romance, passion and soul-to-soul connection is YOU. Whether you are single or coupled up – the key to happily ever after can be found in these three secrets:

#1 – Sparkle: the first place to start is getting back your sparkle. This means “BEING” in “LOVE”! Many people interpret “being in love” in an other oriented way – I’m in love with my husband/boyfriend, I’m in love with my job, I’m in love with my dog, you get the picture. In truth when you allow yourself to BE – just being who you are, in the present moment here and now – and you allow yourself to fill up with love, becoming love – you are now, “ being in love”. There is no focus or dependence on any one else being the catalyst for you enjoying this extraordinary bliss. When you are in this state you sparkle. You’re happy, you’re excited, you’re having fun and you’re giving an abundance of authentic love to everyone you see. This is a fabulous place to be! From here you not only nurture the partnerships you already have – you attract relationships, friends, and situations that are equally as loving.

#2 - Confidence: men find women with confidence positively irresistible and sexy. Confidence says you genuinely love and respect yourself. You exude an energy that’s magnetic, magical and mesmerizing. You know who you are and what you want. You don’t expect others to create your happiness. You take responsibility for your joy and you know how to create your joy, independently of others. This takes the pressure off your significant other and lures them in to your wild and wondrous web of fabulosity.

#3 – Laughing: give yourself permission to unleash your playful feminine spirit because to live a life of pleasure you must first know pleasure! So get in touch with your inner child – what did you like to do when you were young? As we grow older we often get way too serious. There is no room for frivolity if you are structured and serious. If you are having trouble recalling what brought you happiness as a child, take a few minutes to sit down and reminisce about what you loved to do if you had even 10 extra minutes as a kid. Did you dance, draw, read, sing, bake? Chances are whatever you liked doing then you will still enjoy today.

Another fabulous benefit from laughing is that it opens the mind and heart, oxygenates your cells and gives you a fantastic glow, not only making you feel light and young, you will look years younger too!

Making fun and pleasure a priority is definitely essential to your happily ever after, so embrace your passionate, playful side and you will free yourself to live, laugh and love fully self-expressed.

In addition, bringing play into your relationship adds fun adventure, lightens any mood and opens the heart creating a nice bonding experience. Plus, it will get your man to open up and talk more. If you are frustrated by your man’s lack of chit-chat get him relaxed and playful – believe me, he’ll start yappin’ up a storm.

Reconnect with the real YOU – the you that glows with Divine Love – from this place you take back your power. So go find your playful, confident, feminine spirit and you’ll turn your lonely, dull and disappointing life/relationships into fireworks!

Have you ever been in a situation where you really wanted to create a connection with a guy and felt frustrated because you didn’t know how, or what you were doing wasn’t working and you could feel distance flooding in? Connecting can seem really hard and mysterious but the good news is, like most things in life, when you are in the “know” it’s all so easy.

Follow these 4 tips and you will create the connections you crave.

#1 – Drop down into your heart – let people feel you and then they’ll connect with you. Coming from your head often causes others to tune out, creating just the opposite of what you want, separation. Think back to when you were in school – did you ever have a professor that just droned on and on and although you were sitting front and center your mind was miles away daydreaming or doodling to escape the boring, disconnected monologue?

Another thing to consider – if you are in a relationship and you want your guy to do something but you don’t finesse it from the heart he can feel like a servant. And that has the potential to quickly turn into an unpleasant power struggle. Yet, if you come from your heart, explaining why you want his help, and how that would make your life more joyful, you pull him in – letting him feel like he is part of the solution. Total win-win.

#2 Playfulness – playing leads to a more open and joyful state of being – the big benefits here are that it leads to more happiness – and who doesn’t want to be around someone who is happy? It also keeps you fully present – according to a Harvard study adults spend only about 50% of their time in the present moment. Research showed half the time adult minds are wandering – either to the past or the future, which keeps us separate and isolated. In order to connect we have to be present. In addition, when you are light and playful your message is much more likely to be heard and taken in.

#3 – Relatedness – you may say you want to connect but are you actively taking steps to do so? Are you waiting for him to approach, communicate, give to you or are you reaching out? One of my mentors used to say, “as you do one thing you do everything.” So consider this and notice where else you “hold back”? Do you avoid interacting with others – walking into stores or social settings with your shoulders slumped and eyes looking downward or averted? Do you spend time talking to your guy at the end of the day or do you watch TV, read a book or hop on the internet? We feel alone and lonely when we don’t connect – we are meant to be there for each other.

#4 – Eyes – when you look directly into someone’s eyes it creates an immediate connection. Think about it – when you talk to someone are you busy gathering up things or multi-tasking? This will make the other person feel unimportant, disconnected and they’ll soon tune out. Have you ever been talking with someone at a social gathering whose eyes were like satellite dishes, scanning the room? Pretty rude, right? Didn’t it make you feel about as important as a gnat? So bring on the bonding by consciously looking straight into his eyes, letting him feel you fully.

Voila! Now that you’ve got 4 great ways to connect go out there and make it happen!!

Have you laughed today? I don’t mean a small snicker, or texting LOL to a friend. I mean a real, joyful, throw your head back kind of laugh!

Studies show men are more attracted to women who laugh in their presence.
So the question arises, are your social activities helping or hurting your love life? Do you spend your free time in ways that increase your joy and merriment?
Whether you are single or in a relationship: if you want a luscious love life, you’ll need to make sure your social life is in sync with the life you want to create!

Be honest. Are you spending your free time holed up in your own home or focused on completing your to-do list? If you are, yet deeply desire a loving relationship, you’ll need to make some serious changes.

Engaging in activities that leave you feeling unfulfilled, bored or disconnected will pull your energy down, making you less attractive and creating the opposite affect of what you want.

So make a conscious choice to reclaim your playful spirit. Be open, adventurous and daring! When you start having fun you will activate your inner sparkle and this in-love-with-life attitude will make you irresistible to the opposite sex.

Click here to read the full article and learn more about how joyous laughter can increase your chances for wondrous love.

Want to be sexy, confident and alluring?

Women clamor at the chance to be their most beautiful and appealing self. It’s why fragrance and cosmetics are billion dollar industries. We all want to be sexy!

However, upping your attraction factor really has very little to do with your outer appearance.

If you want to unlock your hidden power of allure and magnetism, you must first understand desire.

What causes desire and attraction? Can even an average looking woman turn heads with an innate magnetism that draws attention and admiration?

You better believe it!

Look at the starlets in Hollywood and you’ll see evidence of several top celebrities who are quite average looking. Yet, they manage to get voted into lists of the most beautiful people on the planet.

How is that?

They understand the logic of desire and how to magnetize attention and admiration.

If you’re ready to uncork your feminine love potion, read on to discover the logic of desire.

Real appeal comes first and foremost from your way of being. Who you are is more attractive than how you dress or the makeup you apply.

The most attractive women on earth are ultra feminine. They exude charisma and grace effortlessly with their feminine charms. Being flirtatious, fun, and friendly come naturally to women who are in tune with their feminine energy.

Both men and women are drawn to the pulling power of a confident, authentic, feminine woman.

So, if you want to increase your appeal, you need only turn up your innate feminine radiance and get ready to turn heads.

Need a little help with this?

If you feel a bit overwhelmed, do what I did and find yourself a flirty role model.

When I was married I was always caught up in masculine energy. I wanted my other half to take care of something, anything – but if I had to wait longer than a nanosecond it was too late, I was at the helm. Well this proved pretty disastrous in my relationship and when things crumbled I had to cop to the fact I’d been living in my masculine energy way more than my feminine.

After a friend pointed out I needed a refresher course in the fine art of being a woman, I realized I had to make major changes that were uncomfortable for me. Breathing life into my feminine nature became my sole focus. Even though flirting and dressing in a more girly style were good first steps, I knew that this was more than a surface job.

I had to dig deep and create a new mindset if I was going to pull this off.

Years of conditioning and choice making based in fear and doubt had left me in a vicious tug of war between “I can do this” and “This is too hard.” Even though I had seen evidence that my feminine nature had a power and magic all of its own, I still reverted to my old masculine style of rigid control most of the time.

Thankfully, an idea floated up during one of my never miss meditations. Maybe I could find someone to model my behavior after. Certain I knew someone who was living out the sensual feminine life style that I craved, I searched my rolodex for help.

Two names jumped right out to me. I arranged to be at an event both of my sensuous friends were attending and I took notes. I watched their gestures; their stance, their faces and most importantly, I watched how men acted around them.

These women had an ease and comfort with themselves that I couldn’t relate to. They exuded sexiness. Their flirtiness was so natural and engaging that when they came into the room, all of the men looked their way and the single men flocked to them.

With their support and counsel, I stepped gingerly into the ring. I was scared, nervous and wanted to throw up, but I was determined. If these ladies could do it, by golly, I could do it too. Although I stumbled a bit along the way, eventually I found a sense of confidence and became comfortable allowing my sensual self to awaken.

I even discovered that if I assigned my masculine side the job of organizing and expediting the birth of my feminine side, I could create an inner congruence that truly transformed my relationship with myself.

If you don’t have a flirty role model, you might pick someone in pop culture who you admire. Oprah and Ellen DeGeneres are fabulous flirts. You can learn a lot watching them interview their guests. I’m not suggesting you are not enough on your own or that you have to be something other than yourself; no, it is just that without a well-developed feminine side, you are really only half of yourself.

The exciting news is it’s possible! All you have to do is create a plan and take actionable steps to get you there. Now there is one caveat, this is not about comparing yourself—it will just make you feel less than. One trick I do to keep my role models from intimidating me, or rather my shy little girl feminine self, is to picture them with sopping wet hair and no makeup.

Being inspired by others is God’s gift to you—His way of giving you an example to learn from so that you will know how to manifest the same in your life.

Exercise:

1. Frame a picture a celebrity, public figure, relative, or friend you admire and place it in clear view so that you are reminded of the traits you want to embody.
2. Write down what makes them so sensual, both their attitude, their behavior and their language.
3. Take time every day to look at the photo of your Feminine Flirty Role Model and say out loud, “I honor your traits of ______________ , and know I can own them too!”
4. Sit in a chair, close your eyes and breathe into this affirmation. Pull the persona into your core with each breath. What it would be like to possess these qualities for yourself.
5. Thank God that your subconscious mind is working night and day instilling the new demeanor you desire.

We all want to be happy and to feel good so I’ve got a fun exercise that will put a smile on your face and will brighten not only your day but will uplift a friend as well.

Are you intrigued?

It’s an exercise in gratitude and celebration!

Living a happy and empowered life that is rich and fulfilling can’t be done alone. It’s our connection to others that gives life it’s richness and adds meaning to our precious time on earth.

Today’s exercise is designed to help us celebrate the magic and wonder of female friendship. It will put gratitude in your heart, which is a vital element to happiness.

Click here to read the full blog article and learn how important it is to show thanks to those who love and support us just because, our gal pals!