Top Tip to Break Out of Your Rut

One of the reasons I love this season is because there is no shortage of opportunities to get out and have some fun. However, so many of us are stuck in the same old routine, hitting the same beaches, staying at the same hotels, and attending the same annual holiday BBQs. There’s nothing wrong with tradition – if that tradition brings you joy – but why not make this the “Summer of New Sparkling Adventures” by trying something you’ve never done before?!

Break Out of Your Summer Rut

I have a client who came to one of my workshops last summer. At the age of 50 that trip marked the first time she’d ever gotten onto a plane by herself! She’d come from a big family, married young, had kids and had never thought of going away without them. She confided that while she’d always wanted to do something for herself, she felt selfish even considering it.

A lot of women think it’s selfish to do something they want to do. They think, “I shouldn’t spend the money,” or they worry about what their families will think if they take off alone.

The truth is this…Click here to discover an easy way to break out of your rut.

xo

Sherri

PS Soul Sparkle Retreat is SOLD OUT! If you missed this one and know you want this experience send us your info and we’ll put your name on the top of the list to contact for next year’s retreat!!

Open Yourself Up to Positive Criticism

This month, we’re celebrating summer with a series of posts aimed at getting you ready to reveal your gorgeous selves to the whole wide world. I’m not just talking about how to feel good in a bikini—although for some of us, getting there is a major win! I’m talking about developing the confidence to reveal your true diamond essence so that you can live a life that sparkles with love and joy.

I know all of you out there want to live that life, and you’re certainly all deserving of it but you may not know how to get there. Here’s the thing, getting there starts with having an awareness of what’s blocking you. Most of my clients come to me because something in their life went askew and they need help figuring that out and getting a plan for how to move forward. Don’t feel bad if you haven’t figured it out on your own – to quote Les Brown, “It’s hard to see the picture when you are the one in the frame.”

Often, we’re stymied by a belief that isn’t true, a fear we’ve picked up in childhood or a protective mechanism that’s no longer serving us.

The trouble with these very common issues is that they’re often lurking just beneath our conscious awareness, driving us to behave in ways that can negatively affect our relationships and keep us from moving forward. Here’s the good news: overcoming these obstacles is simple when you are open and willing to give up the lone ranger syndrome and ask for a little help.

When Criticism Is a Good Thing

Most of us want to be the most sparkling, fabulous version of ourselves we can be – and that can be challenging without a caring support system to give you some honest feedback. And while the idea of exposing yourself to other people’s perceptions of you might be daunting, there are ways you can go about it that will keep things safe, constructive and loving.

  • The first step is to check in with yourself. Make sure you are coming to this process from a place of curiosity and a genuine desire to learn about yourself. Remember, you’re mining for diamonds, removing the sludge that’s accumulated over a lifetime so that you can shine more brightly and be the person you truly are!
  • Next, you want to make sure that you choose the right people. Pick three people in your life who you know love you and want what’s best for you.
  • Make it clear that your intention is to grow as a person and improve your relationship. Ask them to give you feedback in a way that is constructive. Tell them you’re interested in hearing how they perceive you and that you want to know if you’re doing anything that feels manipulative, controlling or less than lovely.
  • Give them time. It’s important to recognize that people might be afraid to tell you what they think so let them know that they don’t have to answer right away. However, put a time frame on the request and don’t allow it to extend beyond a week.
  • Don’t take it personally but do take it seriously. Understand that whatever is reflected back to you, isn’t meant as an insult and remind yourself that you asked for the feedback. I remember right after my divorce asking a good friend of mine how I showed up in life – man it was painful to hear but in my gut I knew he was right. His honest share proved to be a powerful catalyst for my growth and transformation. On the flip side keep in mind that everyone has had their own experiences in life which give them their unique perspectives – what they share may NOT feel like a truth and that’s ok. No need to get defensive – keep reminding yourself you requested the feedback – let it flow.
  • Make them a partner in this conversation. Ask them how you might improve or show up for them in a meaningful way to evolve the relationship or who you are in life.

No matter what you hear, even if you don’t think it’s true, be grateful to them for the feedback and be compassionate to yourself. This exercise is very challenging, but it has the potential to take you and your relationships to a glorious new level. When you do give this a try, leave a comment below and let me know how it went!

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to be free of the thoughts that haunt you and hurt you, Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great benefit for youIt’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:)

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck NOW!

How to Open Up for More Fulfilling Relationships

Summer is here, which means it’s time to come out of hibernation and stand in the dazzling light of day! In my last post, Self-Love Tips for an Incredible Summer [Insert Link will do once complete], we learned some great tools to deepen acceptance around our bodies so that we can stand in our sparkling brilliance all season long. But for many of us, our bodies aren’t all that we’ve been hiding.

So many women are struggling to connect with the people in their lives, or they want to take their closest relationships deeper but don’t know where to begin. Great relationships are all about connection. The key to connection is allowing others to feel us. This means speaking straight from your heart, being vulnerable and allowing yourself to be truly known.

For competent women who are used to being in charge and in control, opening up like this can be very scary. We get so attached to the potential outcome and worry that by expressing our fears, needs, desires, and yes, even our love to another person, they will judge us, abandon us, stop loving us or think we are weak.

So, what do we do?

We attempt to control the outcome – we control what we say and how we say it, we do our best to be perfect, often hiding what we really want to say. In our attempt to orchestrate the best outcome – we not only monitor what we say, we often try to control others in the process. That rarely turns out the way we want because we are speaking from our heads instead of our hearts. When we do that, the other person can’t FEEL us and when someone can’t feel you they generally tune out or turn off! The exact opposite of what we are looking to create; deeply bonded relationships.

Click here to find out what a client did to feel safe being vulnerable.

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to open your heart and be free to share your love in a way that creates meaningful relationships Soul Sparkle Retreat would be life changing for you. It’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:).

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to heal and open your heart book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of living with FULL SPARKLE NOW!

Self-Love Tips for an Incredible Summer

Summer is just around the corner, ladies, and I think you know what that means: longer days, more time outside, and significantly less clothing! This month, in celebration of the season that has us baring more of our bodies and heading outdoors, we’re going to focus on helping you to reveal — and revel in — your true sparkling essence!

To get started, I want to look at this idea of revelation in its most literal form. When temperatures begin to climb, we’re forced to reveal parts of ourselves that we’ve been covering up all winter. The thought of putting on a bathing suit in public can make even the most confident woman feel vulnerable, and send her off in search of the latest fad diet. As a matter of fact did you know that 91% of women hate their bodies?

I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way! It is possible for you to believe, deep down, that you’re gorgeous just the way you are.

Words Have Power

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’re familiar with the work of Dr. Masaru Emoto. In one of Emoto’s experiments, he placed two glasses of water drawn from an identical source next to each other. On one glass, he wrote positive messages and on the other, negative.

Later, Emoto viewed the water from both glasses under a microscope. What he discovered was astounding: the water crystals in the glass with the positive words looked like beautiful snowflakes, whereas the crystals in the glass with negative words were disfigured and murky.

The words we use to describe ourselves can have a dramatic impact on how we feel, physically and mentally. That’s why it’s so important that we begin to speak to ourselves using loving, nurturing and supportive language.

If you have trouble with specific parts of your body, you can start by looking in the mirror and asking yourself, “What has this part of my body helped me with?” Your stomach may have helped you to bear children. Maybe your hips make you feel sexy when you dance. Sturdy legs help you run and jump. Merely recognizing how amazing your body is can take you a step closer to loving it.

How One of My Clients Deepened Her Self Love

If you want to go a little deeper, take washable markers and write loving words on the parts of your body that you have a hard time accepting. One of my clients, who used to call her stomach her “spare tire,” reported amazing results after doing this for only a few short weeks. Every day, before getting into the shower, she drew hearts and rainbows and wrote “I love you,” onto her stomach. Then, as she let the water rain down on her, she’d imagine the words and images soaking deep into her body and soul.

Through this practice, she was able to shift her mindset entirely. Her negative perspective began to shrink, and she admitted that she was no longer worried about her stomach, in fact, she had grown to love it.

From the time we’re little girls, our culture tells us we have to look a specific way to be deserving of love and acceptance, but that’s not true! It’s our attitude about ourselves that tells other people how to love us. Watch this video for a very inspiring story about a woman who is embracing her body image:

When we are truly accepting of ourselves, we can sparkle the brightest. I want you to go into these summer months ready to shine like the gorgeous diamond that you are!

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like to be free of the thoughts that haunt you and hurt you, Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great benefit for you. It’s not just the week-end, it’s what happens afterwards that changes your life completely:)

Simply click here to sign up to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – this is your moment, it will be another year till the next retreat. Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck NOW!

Overcome Distractions with These Helpful Tips

This month, we’re celebrating spring with a series of posts aimed at helping you clear space, get healthy and achieve your heart’s desire. I know every one of you reading this is capable of great things! I also know – from years of coaching – that every woman encounters distractions on the path to success. It’s inevitable.

Do you want to know the secret to what separates the clients who succeed and the ones who have a much harder time achieving positive results?

It’s actually quite simple. The successful ones get back on track quickly by refocusing on their original goals. This is crucial! Whatever our intention we must support it with our attention because whatever we put our attention on grows. Mama mia!! You can see why we want to be very aware of our thoughts and actions – making sure that they support our intention. Otherwise it can be a slippery slope of disappointment and frustration.

So if you find yourself struggling to make the changes you’d looooove to make in your health, relationships or career, know you are not alone. Many of us unwittingly allow some common distractions to get in our way.

And while numerous factors can cause us to lose focus, I’ve identified three major dream destroyers that seem to pop up for everyone at some point or another.

Take a look – which of these is robbing you of your focus?

Self-Doubt

We all have negative thoughts that crop up from time to time. However, if you’ve found yourself stuck in a rut that you can’t climb out of, it could be that you’ve let self-doubt take over. When this happens, you start seeing your obstacles and struggles as the reasons you’ll never be successful as opposed to what they are: opportunities for growth.

Remember, we become successful by taking action in spite of our circumstances. The reality is we all have circumstances, but we don’t want our circumstances to have us!

If you believe that self-doubt is limiting your potential, work on releasing yourself from the fear, guilt, shame and frustration you feel about what hasn’t worked or the mistakes you’ve made in the past. Remind yourself that struggle is an invitation for personal evolution.

Ask yourself – what is there to learn here? What is it I need to see to step out of this cycle? What new behavior or way of thinking can I adopt in order to change my results? And then take action on the answers you receive.

Comparison and Competition

Do you compare yourself to other women or people you see as more successful than you? Congratulations! You’re human! Comparison can be an essential part of your decision-making process – we learn a lot from studying how other people have achieved success in their lives.

But when you use comparison to reinforce unrealistic or negative beliefs about yourself, it can be extremely unhealthy. Mark Twain said that “comparison is the death of joy,” and the science agrees. Research has found that comparing can breed feelings of envy, low self-confidence, and depression.

So, the next time you find yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your self-worth, celebrate their success and compassionately redirect your energy and attention on your own personal goals. Make a decision to take one action that will move you towards your goal.

In addition, know that no one’s success is any better than anyone else’s. We each are moving forward in our unique way, doing the best we can, with what we have and where we are at. We can be fixated on what we think success looks like, but in reality there are so many types of success that we brush off as not being significant or worthy of our acknowledgement.

So take a moment to reflect every night on something you did or thought that supported you being a person of increase. That might look like going to the gym or visiting an elderly neighbor or the decision to have a different thought that supported you in the moment. Yes a decision to think a higher quality thought is a success and actually a HUGE success because that one decision to think an empowered thought is affecting the trajectory of your future . This one shift has the ability to creates a positive snowball effect and that’s a BIG success! So stay aware lovely!

Loss of Excitement, Joy, and Passion

We all want to live a life that is meaningful and fulfilling, but high enthusiasm can be challenging to maintain over long periods of time. It’s not uncommon to lose your joy and excitement while on the journey towards your best life.

When this happens, it’s important to remind yourself why this dream was so important to you in the first place. Focusing on the “why” can help you accomplish almost anything because it connects you with what really matters to you and that builds a burning desire which brings back your passion! Woohoooo beauty – life feels thrilling again!

So, what is your WHY? Take a moment to get clear if you aren’t already. We so easily get amnesia when life doesn’t go the way we want or when we get triggered so set yourself up for success with this easy structure of support: write your WHY on post-it’s and put them everywhere to jog your memory and get you back on track with your focused passion!

So, there you have it! The three biggest dream distractors, and some tips to help you keep your focus where it belongs: on creating your most fabulous, fun and love-filled life.

Here’s to staying on the path to your dream. You CAN do it. And if you need a little push, set up some support!

xo

Sherri

PS. If you would like the freedom to move towards what you desire without the stealth committee dive bombing your mind with self-doubt, comparison and blah thoughts the Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great next step for you.

Simply click here to schedule a time to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – only 1 spot left! Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck!

Is Clutter Stealing Your Sparkle?

Ever look around your home and think, YIKES? Piles of junk mail, old clothes and other items from your past strewn everywhere as well as cluttered closets! Ugh! Why, you wonder, is it so difficult to throw stuff out and keep things organized? Never fear, my dear, because spring is here! This season is all about throwing open the windows, clearing the past and making space for new energy, people, and opportunities.

Research shows the health of your environment is a reflection of your overall health and well-being. A 2010 study from the University of California found that mothers who described their living environments as cluttered suffered from higher cortisol levels, greater feelings of depression and lower marital satisfaction than those women who described their homes as “restorative” and relaxed.

So, if you’ve been finding it difficult to feel balanced or be able to drop down and focus on your dreams and aspirations, de-cluttering might be the first step to getting back on track.

Click here to learn easy de-cluttering tips.

4 Ways to Break Your Bad Habits

Spring is a fabulous time of year to take stock. And I’m not just talking about what’s in your closet – I’m talking about what’s in your heart, mind and soul!

If you’ve been struggling to make your dreams a reality, despite putting in the time and effort necessary to achieve them there may be something—a belief, an assumption or a way of viewing the world—that is holding you back from living a life that sparkles with happiness and joy.

 

Your Beliefs Are as Committed as You Are

You know how it feels to be committed to something, right? You are ALL in, and that’s great! If what you’re committed to is something that serves your best interests.

But what if you’re unconsciously committing to a belief that’s blocking you in some way? For example, you may have an underlying belief that you’re not good enough, that you are undeserving or unworthy of love or happiness, that other people are smarter, prettier, more capable than you are and not even realize it!

And guess what? Those limiting beliefs inspire behaviors that don’t support the results you desire. That can create a feeling of being stuck and frustrated not knowing how to move forward. Perhaps you’ve experienced repeated failure, betrayal, or abandonment. Know this: it’s not your fault. You are trapped in a vicious cycle perpetuated by bad programming.

The Only Way Out is Through

A few years ago, I started working with a woman named Jane. Jane came to me after finalizing her second divorce. She had a lovely life, she was vivacious, and enjoyed spending time with her kids, but she’d never experienced true, deep love with a man. That was her dream.

Two things happened: first, Jane committed to discovering which limiting beliefs were blocking her. During one of our sessions she realized she had never felt acknowledged by her father. Additionally, she had been molested as a little girl. Jane was struggling against immense feelings of unworthiness and shame when it came to men.

Once we identified her limiting beliefs and reframed them, we installed new beliefs that would support Jane. Within a few short months, she met a man who treats her like a queen. I’m happy to report that they are still together today and enjoy a healthy, thriving passionate relationship with beautiful communication. This is possible for you too!

How Do You Break the Vicious Cycle of Limiting Beliefs?

The key to getting out of this cycle is to identify the specific beliefs that are wreaking havoc on your life and then reframe them so that they become healthy, nourishing, supportive beliefs.

You might be asking, “How do you do that?”

Here are a few tips to help you get started.

  • Pay attention to your thoughts as they emerge. Ask yourself, “Is this a thought that is taking me towards my vision or away from it? If it’s one that’s derailing you, choose a more empowering thought to get you back on track.
  • Commit to generative, nurturing thoughts: Know this, whatever you focus on, you will create more of the same. So, next time you hear a negative thought in your head, pause and invite in a positive one. Ask yourself what you would love instead. If you are not sure what you would love, simply take the toxic thought and turn it around. For example if you tell yourself everything is difficult, hard and challenging, start telling yourself that everything is easy, that you are highly competent and capable!
  • Take action: Movement moves molecules! So if you’re someone who usually takes a backseat, be the first to voice your opinion. If you tend to delay in committing to something that will help you reach your goals, next time an opportunity presents itself, say an immediate “yes!”
  • Make a declaration: Right here, right now I want you to commit to behavior that serves your highest interests. If that scares the heck out of you, then you know you’re headed in the right direction! Remember whatever you resist persists – so break your patterns and take the leap!

By following the above four tips you will build new supportive patterns and become the woman who is in harmony with her vision – closing the gap and manifesting her desires!! Whooohooo! What are you waiting for, start NOW!

xo

P.S. If you are DONE with those patterns that don’t serve you and desire to go deeper to rewire your brain with more supportive beliefs, I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

There is only ONE spot left!! If you feel a longing to be part of this life changing, transformative, exclusive retreat let’s chat – click here to book a time with me.

3 Tips to Stop Triggered Behavior

Alright, ladies, May is here! We’re going to celebrate the unofficial start of summer with a series of posts aimed at sparkling vibrancy! We’re going to be clearing space, literally and figuratively, to make way for bigger and better things. I want to kick off the month by talking about one of the most common stumbling blocks to your radiance and well-being: reactive behavior.

Do you find yourself dialing a friend to vent at every twist and turn of your awful breakup, dreadful friend drama or frustrating work expectations? OK gals, I can remember going through my divorce and having diarrhea of the mouth about every foul thing my husband did – and you know what? It didn’t make me feel any better, as a matter of fact, I always felt worse. If this is sounding familiar?

I promise you; you’re not alone. Yes, I know only too well how feelings of resentment, disappointment, and depression can drive you crazy. Sitting with those feelings is hard but trust me when I tell you that complaining about how others are mistreating you will only keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.

So, what’s a gal to do? CLICK HERE for three great techniques to help you rise above your unconscious reactive behavior.

How to let go of your painful past

Are you still haunted by your EX or maybe a partners affair? Here is the answer you have been looking for.

Spring inspires new beginnings, fresh starts and cleaning out the clutter ( that includes all those toxic no good thoughts!)….so how about letting go of past relationship problems that have been stealing your vibrancy and joy? Over the years, I have watched clients, friends and even strangers so paral\yzed by past painful memories they weren’t able to let LOVE in.…so I have a question for you?

Have you given the care of your heart to someone who is either no longer with you or doesn’t deserve that precious gift? Or maybe you are having trouble opening your heart again to a partner who violated your trust. Are you blaming yourself or him for the loss of love in your life?

If you answered yes, you are not alone. Many women are in the same boat. I too mistakenly placed responsibility for my happiness squarely on the shoulders of someone else in the past but thankfully I learned the tools to let go of the past and reclaim my heart – knowing I am in control of how I choose to feel!

Why is it important to make peace with past or troubled relationships? Simple. Now that the bond is broken,your ability to regroup and rebuild your self esteem will go much faster if you appreciate the good and the bad that your relationship brought to your life. Yes, even the BAD. That will allow you the freedom to start enjoying your life again.

If your Ex or partner behaved badly, or broke your heart you may not want to let go of the “he did me wrong” song and hey I know it hurts to be deceived and rejected but it hurts more to hang onto it. I bet you anything that you got so involved with him and his life that you have taken all the focus off your wonderful self. You are beautiful and amazing and deserve a love-filled life!It is time for YOU!

Here is a short Self Love quiz to check it out:

  • When is the last time you congratulated yourself for something you did or do you always see what you didn’t get done?
  • Do you notice when you are tired and stop to nurture yourself or are you driven to manic activity with no rest?
  • Are you an over achiever pushing yourself constantly and never feeling good enough?
  • Do you compare yourself to others and see yourself as less than they are?
  • Are you stuck blaming him for your low self-esteem?In other words, do you respect, love and totally accept yourself?

If you don’t treat yourself well, no one else will either. You teach others how to love and respect you by how you love and respect yourself.You will find clues in life patterns that started in childhood.

How did your parents treat each other – were they respectful? If judging and blaming was the norm, chances are you suffered from emotional and verbal abuse, not because your parents meant to harm you but because they were blind to how their actions were impacting you.

If the only time you got positive attention was when you accomplished something, you can bet you confused those accolades for LOVE.

Women who battle performance addiction and are insatiable people pleasers are my favorite clients! Once you know how to unleash your god-given spark…what you were put here to express, there is no holding you back!

Even though as a child, you didn’t have the ability to sort out fact from fiction and believed everything your parents and authority figures told you, once you find your sparkle, your truth, you will finally see that their beliefs were based on THEIR experiences and had nothing to do with you at all.

The truth is, they meant no harm—they were just repeating the patterns they grew up with. The big difference is that you are reading articles like this. You WANT to change your patterns. You WANT to find LOVE and SELF RESPECT.

What you must get is that your current view of yourself is not who you are. The reality is you were born perfect. A shimmering diamond of light vibrates at the core of your being. This is your true identity – your Diamond Power.

This unique essence, your truth, is so incredibly SPECIAL and VALUABLE that when you start to claim it, you feel the Real Love you were born to experience. And that is the ultimate freedom.

Here is a short exercise to help you take steps right now to find that Inner Sparkle that will set you free to find the Love you deserve:

  • Sit in a comfortable chair and take in several deep breaths.
  • Allow your body to relax and sink into the chair. Imagine a beam of pure, sparkling Divine white light coming down from the heavens and shining on you like a spotlight on a dark stage.
  • See the darkness around you and feel the warmth and comfort of this pure light.
  • Now let the light enter in to the top of your head illuminating you from within.
  • Imagine this light dropping to the core of your Being, see your heart light up just like a Tiffany diamond showcased under the brightest of lights.

Like a lotus flower of light, notice how the facets of this gem open into new waves of sparkling electricity with every breath. Repeat this simple phrase 7 times. “I am open to the magnificence that is me.” Each time you connect to this energy, you will feel a deeper connection. Once you turn your attention inward and seek your Divine Diamond Spark, the past will be the farthest thing from your mind and heart 🙂

P.S. If you really long to make new friends and meet other like-minded women who, just like you, are dedicated to becoming their best most sparkling Self, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. I have 2 spots left, If you want to be one of them, email me today at Sherri@unleashyoursparkle.com.

The Importance of Friends

Spring is a fantastic time to reconnect with your girlfriend! And I’m not talking about putting together a brunch where all you do is sit around complaining about the men in your life (or lack of) or indulging in gossip.

I’m talking about some serious, soul sister quality time where you drop down into your heart and engage in ways that inspire the release of that fabulous feel-good chemical oxytocin.

Sometimes referred to as “the love hormone,” oxytocin is released after sex, after childbirth and, when we spend time with our closest friends. It’s not surprising then that research points to longer, healthier lives for women with large social circles, while those who isolate themselves experience higher levels of stress hormones (which result in reduced well-being).

To make matters worse, isolation is a vicious cycle. If you’re already feeling lonely and depressed, you’re less likely to go out and engage with other people, which makes it that much harder to make new friends and widen your social circle.

Why Do We Lose Touch with Our Friends?
Sometimes it’s a matter of scheduling or geography. Sometimes we’re afraid of being rejected. You might think, “Oh, my friend has so much going on, I’ll just wait for her to contact me.” Then, when she doesn’t (because she’s not a mind-reader) you feel even more rejected, creating the exact scenario you were trying to avoid.

If you’re married, it’s possible that you’ve made your husband the center of your universe. But even in the closest of marriages, your husband will never fill the same space that your girlfriends do. Men are fixers. They won’t just sit there and chat with you about what’s happening.

Your girlfriends are going through the same challenges that you are—divorce, health issues, aging parents, problems with your kids, weight gain, hormones, all of it. So, prioritize your girlfriend time!

I have one group of friends that’s made it a point to get together on each of our birthdays for the last 40 years! If that’s too much of a commitment for your friend group, then plan one annual get together. It doesn’t have to be some huge trip so long as you make a point of creating something special together.

How to Reconnect If You’ve Let Those Friendships Fall Away
If you haven’t spoken to one of your friends in a while, a simple text to let her know that you miss her and would love to connect is a great way to open up the line of communication.

We often avoid reaching out because we think we’re going to need a marathon phone call to fill each other in on everything that’s been happening but that’s really not true. Five minutes is better than nothing, trust me. Let your friend know up front you only have a few minutes but wanted to connect and you’ll be amazed how uplifted, warm and yummy you’ll both feel with that short chat.

Ways to Build Your Social Circle
If you’re someone who has a hard time making friends or if you’ve lost touch with old friends and are trying to rebuild your social circle, here are some easy ways to get started:

Join a women’s business networking group
Find a women’s group at your church
Take a class at your local community center
Sign up for a weekend yoga retreat or workshop
If deeply connected friendship is important to you then make the commitment today to either reach out to one of your soul sisters OR spread your wings and do something different to meet a new friend.

Life is meant to be shared and enjoyed so don’t delay, connect NOW!!!

P.S. If you really long to make new friends and meet other like-minded women who, just like you, are dedicated to becoming their best most sparkling Self, then I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.

This exclusive retreat is limited to just 10 women. I have 2 spots left, If you want to be one of them, email me today at Sherri@unleashyoursparkle.com.

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