Spring is a fabulous time of year to take stock. And I’m not just talking about what’s in your closet – I’m talking about what’s in your heart, mind and soul!
If you’ve been struggling to make your dreams a reality, despite putting in the time and effort necessary to achieve them there may be something—a belief, an assumption or a way of viewing the world—that is holding you back from living a life that sparkles with happiness and joy.
Your Beliefs Are as Committed as You Are
You know how it feels to be committed to something, right? You are ALL in, and that’s great! If what you’re committed to is something that serves your best interests.
But what if you’re unconsciously committing to a belief that’s blocking you in some way? For example, you may have an underlying belief that you’re not good enough, that you are undeserving or unworthy of love or happiness, that other people are smarter, prettier, more capable than you are and not even realize it!
And guess what? Those limiting beliefs inspire behaviors that don’t support the results you desire. That can create a feeling of being stuck and frustrated not knowing how to move forward. Perhaps you’ve experienced repeated failure, betrayal, or abandonment. Know this: it’s not your fault. You are trapped in a vicious cycle perpetuated by bad programming.
The Only Way Out is Through
A few years ago, I started working with a woman named Jane. Jane came to me after finalizing her second divorce. She had a lovely life, she was vivacious, and enjoyed spending time with her kids, but she’d never experienced true, deep love with a man. That was her dream.
Two things happened: first, Jane committed to discovering which limiting beliefs were blocking her. During one of our sessions she realized she had never felt acknowledged by her father. Additionally, she had been molested as a little girl. Jane was struggling against immense feelings of unworthiness and shame when it came to men.
Once we identified her limiting beliefs and reframed them, we installed new beliefs that would support Jane. Within a few short months, she met a man who treats her like a queen. I’m happy to report that they are still together today and enjoy a healthy, thriving passionate relationship with beautiful communication. This is possible for you too!
How Do You Break the Vicious Cycle of Limiting Beliefs?
The key to getting out of this cycle is to identify the specific beliefs that are wreaking havoc on your life and then reframe them so that they become healthy, nourishing, supportive beliefs.
You might be asking, “How do you do that?”
Here are a few tips to help you get started.
- Pay attention to your thoughts as they emerge. Ask yourself, “Is this a thought that is taking me towards my vision or away from it? If it’s one that’s derailing you, choose a more empowering thought to get you back on track.
- Commit to generative, nurturing thoughts: Know this, whatever you focus on, you will create more of the same. So, next time you hear a negative thought in your head, pause and invite in a positive one. Ask yourself what you would love instead. If you are not sure what you would love, simply take the toxic thought and turn it around. For example if you tell yourself everything is difficult, hard and challenging, start telling yourself that everything is easy, that you are highly competent and capable!
- Take action: Movement moves molecules! So if you’re someone who usually takes a backseat, be the first to voice your opinion. If you tend to delay in committing to something that will help you reach your goals, next time an opportunity presents itself, say an immediate “yes!”
- Make a declaration: Right here, right now I want you to commit to behavior that serves your highest interests. If that scares the heck out of you, then you know you’re headed in the right direction! Remember whatever you resist persists – so break your patterns and take the leap!
By following the above four tips you will build new supportive patterns and become the woman who is in harmony with her vision – closing the gap and manifesting her desires!! Whooohooo! What are you waiting for, start NOW!
P.S. If you are DONE with those patterns that don’t serve you and desire to go deeper to rewire your brain with more supportive beliefs, I invite you to check out my 2018 Soul Sparkle Retreat, July 19th-22nd – at the beautiful Italian-esque Westlake Village Inn.
There is only ONE spot left!! If you feel a longing to be part of this life changing, transformative, exclusive retreat let’s chat – click here to book a time with me.