Just 8% of People Achieve Their New Year’s Resolutions. Here’s How They Do It

Did you know just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s resolutions?

Shocking, isn’t it?

That’s why I am dedicating this month to YOUR success! With the right steps and tools you can do it!! YES!!

Why are the right tools important? Because the research of Scranton University says despite our good intentions only a tiny fraction of us keep our resolutions.

I believe it – before learning how to set goals successfully I was in that 92% where goals fell by the wayside within the first month.

What about you? How are you doing with your New Year’s goals? Are you easily staying on track or are you finding distractions derailing you?

If you find yourself in the latter you’re not alone and you’ll love today’s tool to help you stay connected to your desire. (If you missed week 1 and 2’s steps you can go here to learn more)

Click here to learn how to stay anchored and on track with your goal

Top 3 Things That Block Your Dreams

Last week we talked about setting yourself up for success in 2018 with a 5-step process. I gave you the first step, clarity of your dream, and the components to craft a great vision. Have you done that yet? (If you want to learn all 5 NOW go here!)

Let’s assume you have. Ok then! You’ve got a dream, a goal, ambition and you’re ready to take the world by storm. Woo hoo!

But, wait, why are there so many darn potholes on the road to your desires?

Anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. So, how do you move past these roadblocks on the path to your bright future?

The first step is to recognize that a roadblock is not a dead end.

When a challenge arises, it’s important to stay connected to your “why” and not to give up. Why do you want this particular thing? As long as you keep this in the forefront of your mind you can recenter, refocus and recommit.

After all, a detour on the way to work wouldn’t keep you from getting to your end destination. So why would you let a detour on the path to your dream keep you from reaching your aspirations?

Today I’m going to share the 3 most common obstacles people encounter on the way to their dream and how to recognize these culprits and move past them.

This way, when you encounter an obstacle you can say, “Out of my way! I’m on course for my dream life!“

Viva la dream building!

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to Achieving Your Dream & 3 Solutions

Obstacle #1 – Fear

Fear, doubt, and worry are like leeches to your dream. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and there’s a part of you that doesn’t. The part of you that doesn’t is fearful of change. It will tell you all the reasons why you can’t reach your goal like, “you’re too old, you don’t know enough, you don’t have the money, you don’t have what it takes, you failed before what makes you think you can succeed this time?” Its job is to protect you in a safe little cocoon and therefore it will resist any form of growth and expansion in your life.

Solution #1 – Neutralize your fear

When you feel fear and anxiety creeping up, you’ll need to step out of that thought pattern. Take a deep breath and begin to focus on the “why” of your dream. Why is it that this dream important to you? When your “why” is big enough, the how will appear.

Ask yourself, what’s one step you can take from where you are right now, with what you have, to move towards your goal?

Your dream/vision will unfold one step at a time. Even the longest journey begins with just one step. What one step can you take now?

Obstacle #2 – Distraction

Distractions can keep you stuck in a rut. Have you ever set time aside for a project but before you sit down you look around and there’s the laundry or there’s a pile of mail you haven’t gone thru? Then you notice there’s that drawer you wanted to clean out, or you get a call from a friend and instead of letting it go to voice mail you pick up and spend an hour chitchatting with her, or you check your email and texts or get on Facebook?

These distractions can keep you on a permanent detour from getting to your dream!

Solution #2 – Stay focused & Set boundaries

Achieving your dream is going to require focus and effort. Set aside time regularly to work toward your aspirations. Treat this time as a VIP priority. Make sure you turn off all distractions. Put your phone on silent and close your email application.

Think of distractions as your archenemy in the field of your dreams.

Remember the importance of achieving your goal as you create your vision. If any distractions start to pop up, remember what they are and that you can make a choice of how to deal with them.

Obstacle #3 – Your habitual patterns keep you stuck

Most people want a life that’s warm, fuzzy and filled with fulfillment. Yet we go through life blaming our circumstances for the life we have rather than taking ownership and leading ourselves to a more empowered life. The truth is we all have circumstances, the trick is not to let the circumstances have us. Whether we are stuck in the past, seeing nothing at all ahead, or envisioning a dazzling future– all are equal in producing our reality. If we are dissatisfied yet do nothing to change, we will continue to live a mediocre life at best.

Solution #3 – Get in the driver’s seat and take control

Take responsibility for creating the life you want. You are the leading lady of your own life. Do the work to “know” what you want and “choose” those things. You have the power to create a life you love. It’s always a choice. You can move out of victim mentality, out of feeling stuck, and out of being irresponsible for life’s outcomes. You can choose to move into responsibility, possibilities, personal power and limitless opportunities.

It’s time to get in the driver’s seat and take control of your destination. You must identify and harness the power, control and responsibility for your thoughts and actions so you can be empowered to create a life you love.

Here’s to staying on track on the path to your dream. You CAN do it! I believe in you. Happy visioning!

3 Steps to Your Best Year Yet!

Yay it’s a brand new year! Fresh start. Big possibilities. Let’s dream!!

Do you have a clear vision of 2018?

Could you describe it in detail right now or is it a bit fuzzy?

This month we’re going to be focusing on your most sparkling blueprint for the coming year – that means you’ll get a weekly article in the Sparkle community AND you’ll have the opportunity to be on a weekly call I’m hosting to help you soar into 2018!!!

If you are like most people, you see bits and pieces of what you want to happen or you might be afraid to dream for fear of being disappointed, so it’s still a blank canvas.

Regardless, know that you can have the love-filled, exciting, happy life you desire. All you have to do is get very specific about what you want and stay connected to that vision every day and voila you are making welcome the life you would love.

So, let’s get you crystal clear!!

Click here to find out how to create your best year yet!

3 Reflection Questions to Set You Up for a Fantastic 2018

Wow, are we really in the “nth” hour of 2017? Can you believe it??

You may have had a really tough year and are looking forward to saying sayyyy-onnnn-ara!!!. That’s probably true for many people. On the other hand, there is no doubt you’ve had some real gem moments that may need to be mined from the last year.

Whether you’ve had high times or low times, there is some great wisdom to be had in all of it… if you know how to look for it.

Something I like to do at the end of the year is a “real” reflection because if you are anything like me, there is a tendency to focus on what didn’t get done. Right? Mama mia that can take you right down the rabbit hole!

So today I’m sharing this year end tradition with you; it’s perfect to do right now before you get caught up in all the holiday glitz and blitz.

This tradition I started several years ago is not only easy and fun, it helps you see all the good things that happened; clear the chaos and clutter to GET the lesson, and sets you up for a spectacular and exciting New Year. 

What I’m talking about involves 3 simple questions.

  1. What did I accomplish this year? Get your planner out and spend 15 minutes looking back to remind yourself of all your wins! This includes both emotional and physical accomplishments. Maybe you stood up to your mother and set a boundary, or made a choice to eat healthy foods that nourish and make you feel energized. Maybe you ran a 10K or realized what love really means or volunteered your time. Look at every little thing that moved you forward. Write it down with pride! Make this a fun poster that makes your heart smile by using colorful glitter glue and rhinestone stickers. Celebrate YOU!
  2. What am I leaving behind? Look at lessons learned and ways of being that you are ready to release. Maybe you were overly responsible and now you are going to let go of fixing everyone else’s problems.  Or perhaps you are a woman of independence and you are going to let go of doing everything yourself and ask, dare I say it, for help! It could be you had unhealthy eating habits and you are going to let go of indulging to fill a void and bring in some new empowering behaviors. Possibly you have a closet full of clothes yet you wear the same 5 outfits over and over again and know it’s time to heave-ho ( yes that includes that little black dress you wore with the one you thought was “the one” and your heart sinks every time you look at it- get it out!). You are becoming the leading lady of your life!!! Hallelujah to that sister!
  3. What would I love in 2018? Get yourself a calendar, some colorful pens and use your imagination to create a life of passion! Start by thinking of all the things that you would love to do and fill in your calendar for the whole year. Decide when and how many vacations you want to take; how many fun days a month will you give yourself? Are there retreats or training’s you’d like to attend for physical, spiritual or mind blowing expansion? Make sure to include a bucket list item or two or three LOL. Taking control of how you spend your time will create a much more balanced and happy life.

As Margaret Wheatley said, “Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.”

Answering the above 3 questions will make you feel lighter and as you feel lighter you’ll begin to feel more energized and open. As you feel more energized and open, you’ll step into the New Year with more confidence.

It’s time to make a change! Gather your gumption and give this a go! You’ll be glad you did!

I would love to hear about your reflections!

Leave a comment below and let me know:

1 thing you did this year that you are proud of…

~ or ~

1 thing you are letting go of…

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1 fun thing you are adding to your 2018 calendar…

xo

How to Get More Love this Holiday Season

In my last post, I wrote about how choosing to give – whether it’s a physical gift, or simply the gift of your smile, time or attention – can powerfully raise your vibration.

It can be tough to live in a “feel good state” during the holidays, when so many people are actually feeling sad, downtrodden, perhaps lonely or just uninspired. Are you challenged to feel happy with where you are at this time of year?

Today, I’d like to share an exercise with you that will certainly lift your spirits and help shift you into a “I welcome more love into my life” kinda space this holiday season.

Give Back to Others through Gratitude

It’s the end of the year. As 2017 winds down, we’re encouraged to reflect on the last 12 months and consider how our lives are different. Has your life changed in a positive way? Are you happy with where your life is at right now?

I also love to reflect on the people in my life: who has impacted me? Who has been generous and kind with me, and made a difference in my life?

A couple weeks ago I was given an assignment by my mentor to write a thank-you note to somebody who has touched my life. I took on the assignment whole-heartedly, and wrote a letter to an old friend who, back in 1999, said something that changed my life forever.

“Let’s start a business together, Sherri!” were her exact words.

And we did! That simple phrase, and the actions we took after, started me down a life-changing path that has not only taught me so much about myself, but brought me endless joy and fulfillment. I wrote her a thank-you note and mailed it to her. Then I forgot about it.

About a week later I received a phone call from her. She told me what a difference my note had made in HER life that day and how grateful she was to hear from me. What a wonderful gift she gave me in calling me, and we were able to reminisce and celebrate our appreciation of each other!

Give Back Consciously

Years ago, one of my clients was very frustrated in her marriage. Her husband didn’t seem to be emotionally invested, she was frequently angry and disappointed and secretly wondered if the marriage was about to collapse.

Instead of filing for divorce, she decided to shift her thoughts and write a love letter. She wrote about how grateful she was for all the ways he had shown up in their marriage, and she gave him the letter.

What a world of difference! After reading the letter, it was like she had a new husband! They had one of the best nights of their lives: he totally opened up, they had a great dinner together, and finally their hearts were able to reconnect.

In my book, I emphasize that when you give from the heart without any underlying motivation, your diamond power will ignite and light you up from the inside- bringing forth your irresistible charisma. Giving from the heart is the best investment you can make. You will always feel expanded and blissful when you give generously, without an agenda, and you will always find the key to your sparkling radiance in the act of giving.

This week, I present a CHALLENGE to you – I invite you to give back with all your heart. Give just to give. Set aside any fears of exposing yourself or feeling vulnerable or getting rejected… trust the process, and find a way to give to someone you love.

Let me know how it goes in the comments below – choose love!!!!

How to Add More Love to Your Holiday Season

We’re supposed to believe that the holiday season is the “most wonderful time of the year,” but for many people, November and December can be the hardest time of year.

If you’ve been feeling down, lonely, depressed or generally just “blah” this month, you’re not alone! And if you’re going through tough times, I’ve got the perfect remedy for you.

This holiday season, you can say sayonara to sadness and raise your vibration and your spirits by focusing on this one thing. Whatever is going on in your life, I know that it can be a loving and peaceful season if you include this into your day.

Click here to learn how to overcome the holiday “blahs” 

#1 Secret to Avoiding Fear Forever

There is love…and there is fear. That’s it – those are the only two emotions. You may call it something different like sadness, loneliness, or depression but if you look closer those love bandits fall under fear.

If you want to live with gusto you’ll need to be consciously and consistently kicking fear to the side. That’s the way you will reclaim your power to live out your heartfelt dreams and desires. And the truth is, You Can Do This!

You might be asking, how?

 

It’s about embracing life – living from your heart instead of your head and loving more! It’s about expressing your beautiful unique essence to the world – sharing your smiles, offering kindness and compassion to everyone, from the homeless to your loved ones, with a cheerful “not-attached-to–the-outcome” heart.

So how do we get there?

You have a good start! This month you’ve been diving into forgiveness and gratitude so your heart has been healing and opening and primed for more love.

Good for you! This is crucial because wow oh wow when you are happy and full of pure love you’re vibrating at such a high level it can be felt by others without you saying a word. Yes, indeedy, traveling at lightning speed our thoughts and feelings impact the world and every single being in it – it’s a juicy force!

When you embrace life, you’re not only blessing your loved ones and the planet, you are honoring your soul by expressing who you are in the fullest, most complete way. Plus it’s impossible for fear to co-exist with love. Remember, it’s either love or fear. So when you are swimming in the pool of love you have zero fear. Huge win wouldn’t you agree?

This alignment puts you in harmony with all that you desire and feels like you’re riding on the coat tails of God’s good. Easier said than done you might be thinking.

But what if it was EASY?

Try this on…it’s easy and blissful:

Love Your Life Exercise:

  1. Sit quietly with your eyes closed
  2. Bring to mind, as far back as you can remember, all the people who have touched your heart, shown you kindness, been there for you.
  3. FEEL the gift each person has been to you in your life.
  4. Visualize a stream of sparkling pink loving energy flowing to each person.
  5. In your mind, silently thank them.
  6. Give yourself a big hug acknowledging how blessed you are
  7. Rinse and repeat every morning

You’ve now dropped down into your heart and connected to love. From this high vibration place take an action step that moves you towards your vision and expect the best. Let this beautiful energy flow out – you are magnetic and will draw to you delightful opportunities, people and projects. Look at you, you are fully embracing life!!! Feels sooooo good, doesn’t it?

Start your day with this feel good practice and you will be setting yourself up for an exciting, sumptuous life adventure full of love and happiness every day! Yeah baby!!!

The Most Powerful Secret to Forgiveness

In my last post, I wrote about how forgiveness can profoundly affect your life: when you release the hardened energy – resentment, defensiveness and anger – around your heart, it actually creates space for love and generosity to enter the picture.

So what does gratitude have to do with all this?

Well, forgiveness doesn’t always happen overnight. In fact, sometimes it can take years of emotional work, sifting through the layers of the hurt, until we’re truly able to release old, hardened emotions. Little by little we get to a peaceful place.

However, there is a tool you can use to close the gap quicker – one I’ve found to be very successful with clients and would like to give you.

Click here to learn the powerful tool for forgiveness.

How to Release the Past and Find Forgiveness

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

-Lewis B. Smedes

Last month on the blog we took a deep dive into the important and life-changing principles of self-love (read more HERE). This month we’ll take on another concept: forgiveness.

The truth is that forgiveness goes hand-in-hand with self-love; you cannot truly forgive yourself and others if you don’t feel, deeply and truly, that you deserve the freedom that comes with forgiveness.

Embrace Forgiveness and Release the Past

For many people, there’s a need to release the past and let go of things that have happened (or not happened) so they can have gratitude for what’s going on right now, in the present moment.

I understand it’s not always easy. I personally just released a huge piece of pent-up resentment and hurt around my dad that had been wallowing somewhere inside me for years. It was tough. And over the years, at times I had truly believed that I’d released it only to find that it was still there. Fortunately, this time I was able to let it go.

And believe me… it is incredibly powerful to let it go! It’s such a freeing feeling, which underlines an important point: the practice of forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re “letting someone off the hook” or “excusing poor behavior.” Not at all!

Forgiveness isn’t for the benefit of others – it’s for your own benefit.

As we forgive and shift the constricted energy around our heart center, we allow love to come in. The anger and resentment, the pain, the defensiveness; all those tough emotions block love from coming in and keep us separate from the people who want to love us.

Forgive others so that you can experience more love, joy and freedom in your life.

How to Choose Forgiveness

Many of us unconsciously hold the belief that our anger protects us – if we forgive someone, we might be susceptible to allowing that person back in our lives. We might secretly fear that we’ll fall in love with him again or put ourselves into an unhealthy or undesirable situation.

Understandably, that belief creates a barrier to forgiveness. But the reality is that when you forgive someone, you’re just dissolving the negative emotional bond to the person or incident. You’re simply releasing yourself from the prison of fear, resentment and defensiveness.

If you’re ready to shift forward into a paradigm of love, freedom and forgiveness, here are some questions you can ask yourself:

  • What do I get out of holding on to the hurt?
  • What is my payoff from refusing to forgive?
  • Who would I be if I didn’t feel like a victim in this area?
  • By hanging onto the negative emotion, what part of my life am I not taking responsibility for?

Sit with these questions and allow the answers to arise naturally. There’s a lot worth looking at, and when you do, it might bring up some emotions – but trust that there is something very beautiful underneath.

I’m talking about freedom, my Sparkle Sister. And it’s yours for the taking:))

Renewing your Relationship with your Body

When you think about it, life is about relationships. Every minute of every day you are relating with someone or something—be it your kids, boss, co-workers, friends, family, store clerk, stranger, pet, computer, car, Self, the list is endless.

And the most important relationship of all? You guessed it—your relationship with yourself.

Last week I gave you 6 ways to develop more self loveAnother important component of self-love has to do with your relationship with your body. So at this given moment, if you are honest with yourself, can you say you love your body fully, wholly, and unconditionally? Do you treat it with care and respect?

If you do that is awesome! But if you don’t that’s a message that there is some healing needed in order to shift that “not so nice” perspective. Because you know what? That attitude is literally weighing you down, hindering you from living your best life and affecting how you are presenting to others.

I understand the unwanted muffin top, growing thighs and big belly misery – and the emotions involved with judging your body. It brings back memories of a time when I was 40 pounds heavier, and how I felt about myself. I wasn’t being kind to me until I realized that in order to live, laugh and love with freedom, it was necessary to feel good not only about my body image but also feel good INSIDE. Adopting new mental and physical behaviors allowed me to release the weight and keep it off for 27+ years now.

Here’s what you need to know to improve your relationship with your body:

Click here to learn 7 tips to help you love your beautiful body.