Letting go is premier to love. If you hang on tight to the things that drive you crazy you’ll never allow love into your mind. There’s no room for it. A mind full of trash gets more trash. And you want love, yes?

Now you might be saying, wait a minute, isn’t love specific to the heart? True that’s where we FEEL love, but it starts with the thoughts we are focusing on in the mind. Our feelings are determined by what we put our attention on – we think something, then we feel.

Think about it– someone says or does something that is unkind, disrespectful or even crosses a boundary – and you think wait a minute, what did I do to deserve that? What happens next? Most of us put our attention on what was said or done, attach a meaning to it, take it personally and then feel upset.  Totally taking it personally  our body starts to fill up with anger and injustice and maybe some hurt or frustration. Maybe you say some unkind things in return and get even more riled up.

Can you think of a time that happened to you?

I know I sure can. My article on forgiveness a couple weeks ago where I mentioned the fight I got into with my sister is a prime example of this.

The thing is while our mind is busy taking things personally our heart is shutting down and we are waaaay far away from the love we desire.

We all crave love and yet the #1 limiting belief for women is “I’m not loved or lovable”. How many times have you allowed your mind to spin out of control with thoughts that don’t support self-love? Ay yi yi and the vicious cycle that creates – rarely letting the love we desire flow into our hearts.

When we let our mind hold onto thoughts and beliefs that make us feel bad about ourselves we suffer. The key is to let go of taking  things personally and open to the knowing that we are loved and lovable. But that requires a sacrifice and the sacrifice is letting go of feeling bad and unworthy, strengthening our love of Self, believing in our beauty and goodness.

How do you do that?

The key is greater awareness and making consistent healthy decisions. Here’s the deal there’s a part of you that wants to go forward and expand into love and there’s a part of you that’s arguing  for why you can’t. God wants you to have a free full life of love because that’s what God/life wants for us but then the human side argues for the hurtful things that were said, resentment, blame, criticism, anger, and it’s arguing for contraction.  One of those two sides wins with every decision we make.

The awareness is key because it helps you see with every decision you make which side is winning. Then you can see that part that argues you out of love. And it’s not just in taking things personally – ask yourself if you lean into that part of you that gets small and weak in other areas of your life? As we do one thing we do everything!

The fabulous truth is that ultimately you have way more opportunity for love in your life than you are currently allowing.

Are you up for a challenge?

I thought so – you rock!

So the challenge is to pay attention to what you are paying attention to for the next week – and let love win! By letting go of those idea’s/beliefs/thoughts that don’t serve you, and instead choosing empowering thoughts that nurture YOU :))

Love to hear how it goes – leave a comment below and let me know your results