This month, we’re celebrating spring with a series of posts aimed at helping you clear space, get healthy and achieve your heart’s desire. I know every one of you reading this is capable of great things! I also know – from years of coaching – that every woman encounters distractions on the path to success. It’s inevitable.
Do you want to know the secret to what separates the clients who succeed and the ones who have a much harder time achieving positive results?
It’s actually quite simple. The successful ones get back on track quickly by refocusing on their original goals. This is crucial! Whatever our intention we must support it with our attention because whatever we put our attention on grows. Mama mia!! You can see why we want to be very aware of our thoughts and actions – making sure that they support our intention. Otherwise it can be a slippery slope of disappointment and frustration.
So if you find yourself struggling to make the changes you’d looooove to make in your health, relationships or career, know you are not alone. Many of us unwittingly allow some common distractions to get in our way.
And while numerous factors can cause us to lose focus, I’ve identified three major dream destroyers that seem to pop up for everyone at some point or another.
Take a look – which of these is robbing you of your focus?
We all have negative thoughts that crop up from time to time. However, if you’ve found yourself stuck in a rut that you can’t climb out of, it could be that you’ve let self-doubt take over. When this happens, you start seeing your obstacles and struggles as the reasons you’ll never be successful as opposed to what they are: opportunities for growth.
Remember, we become successful by taking action in spite of our circumstances. The reality is we all have circumstances, but we don’t want our circumstances to have us!
If you believe that self-doubt is limiting your potential, work on releasing yourself from the fear, guilt, shame and frustration you feel about what hasn’t worked or the mistakes you’ve made in the past. Remind yourself that struggle is an invitation for personal evolution.
Ask yourself – what is there to learn here? What is it I need to see to step out of this cycle? What new behavior or way of thinking can I adopt in order to change my results? And then take action on the answers you receive.
Comparison and Competition
Do you compare yourself to other women or people you see as more successful than you? Congratulations! You’re human! Comparison can be an essential part of your decision-making process – we learn a lot from studying how other people have achieved success in their lives.
But when you use comparison to reinforce unrealistic or negative beliefs about yourself, it can be extremely unhealthy. Mark Twain said that “comparison is the death of joy,” and the science agrees. Research has found that comparing can breed feelings of envy, low self-confidence, and depression.
So, the next time you find yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your self-worth, celebrate their success and compassionately redirect your energy and attention on your own personal goals. Make a decision to take one action that will move you towards your goal.
In addition, know that no one’s success is any better than anyone else’s. We each are moving forward in our unique way, doing the best we can, with what we have and where we are at. We can be fixated on what we think success looks like, but in reality there are so many types of success that we brush off as not being significant or worthy of our acknowledgement.
So take a moment to reflect every night on something you did or thought that supported you being a person of increase. That might look like going to the gym or visiting an elderly neighbor or the decision to have a different thought that supported you in the moment. Yes a decision to think a higher quality thought is a success and actually a HUGE success because that one decision to think an empowered thought is affecting the trajectory of your future . This one shift has the ability to creates a positive snowball effect and that’s a BIG success! So stay aware lovely!
Loss of Excitement, Joy, and Passion
We all want to live a life that is meaningful and fulfilling, but high enthusiasm can be challenging to maintain over long periods of time. It’s not uncommon to lose your joy and excitement while on the journey towards your best life.
When this happens, it’s important to remind yourself why this dream was so important to you in the first place. Focusing on the “why” can help you accomplish almost anything because it connects you with what really matters to you and that builds a burning desire which brings back your passion! Woohoooo beauty – life feels thrilling again!
So, what is your WHY? Take a moment to get clear if you aren’t already. We so easily get amnesia when life doesn’t go the way we want or when we get triggered so set yourself up for success with this easy structure of support: write your WHY on post-it’s and put them everywhere to jog your memory and get you back on track with your focused passion!
So, there you have it! The three biggest dream distractors, and some tips to help you keep your focus where it belongs: on creating your most fabulous, fun and love-filled life.
Here’s to staying on the path to your dream. You CAN do it. And if you need a little push, set up some support!
PS. If you would like the freedom to move towards what you desire without the stealth committee dive bombing your mind with self-doubt, comparison and blah thoughts the Soul Sparkle Retreat would be a great next step for you.
Simply click here to schedule a time to speak with me to see if this retreat is a good fit for you. If you are ready to shut the door on the patterns that keep you stuck book a time to chat with me – only 1 spot left! Give yourself the gift of getting unstuck!