Time to say sayonara to 2019 and let the New Year and DECADE Begin!!!

If you really want to see big change, consider this….rather than setting resolutions, make a courageous commitment to live on the edge of your comfort zone.

You sure would be in good company!! I remember seeing Dianne Feinstein and a bevy of other iconic females being interviewed and they all said the key to a happy and fulfilling life involves taking risks and stepping out of your safety zone.

According to these empowered women, that’s when life becomes magical and you are truly living into your genius and greatness.

As inspiring as that sounds you may be saying to yourself, “That seems kinda scary. My life may be a bit boring but routine suits me because I know what to expect and I like being in control…” sound familiar?

In the spirit of this theme I say shake it up baby!!!

Click here to make 2020 yours!!!

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

Wow, are we really in the “nth” hour of 2019? Can you believe it??

You may have had a really tough year and are looking forward to saying sayyyy-onnnn-ara!!!.That’s probably true for many people. On the other hand, there is no doubt you’ve had some real gem moments that may need to be mined from the last year.

Whether you’ve had high times or low times, there is some great wisdom to be had in all of it… if you know how to look for it.

Something fun I like to do at the end of the year is a “real”reflection because if you are anything like me, there is a tendency to focus on what didn’t get done. Right? Mama mia that can take you right down the rabbit hole!

So today I’m sharing this enlightening year end tradition with you; it’s perfect to do right now before you get caught up in all the New Year’s Eve glitz and blitz.

Started several years ago this is not only easy and fun, it helps me see all the good things that happened; clear the chaos and clutter to GET the lesson, and sets me up for a spectacular and exciting New Year.

What I’m talking about involves 3 simple, fun and eye-opening questions.

1. What did I accomplish this year? Get your planner out and spend 15 minutes looking back to remind yourself of all your wins! This includes both emotional and physical accomplishments. Maybe you stood up to your mother and set a boundary, or made a choice to eat healthy foods that nourish and make you feel energized. Maybe you ran a 10K or realized what love really means or volunteered your time. Look at every little thing that moved you forward. Write it down with pride! I like to make this a fun poster that makes my heart smile by using colorful glitter glue and rhinestone stickers. Celebrate YOU!

2. What am I leaving behind? Look at lessons learned and ways of being that you are going to ditch. Maybe you were overly responsible and now you are going to let go of blaming yourself when things go awry. Or perhaps you are a woman of independence and you are going to let go of doing everything yourself and ask, dare I say it, for help! It could be you had unhealthy eating habits and you are going to let go of indulging to fill a void and bring in some new empowering behaviors. Possibly you have a closet full of clothes yet you wear the same 5 outfits over and over again and know it’s time to heave-ho ( yes that includes that little black dress you wore with the one you thought was “the one” and your heart sinks every time you look at it- get it out!). You are becoming the leading lady of your life!!! Hallelujah to that sister!

3. What would I love in 2019? Get yourself a calendar, some colorful pens and use your imagination to create a life of passion! Start by thinking of all the things that you would love to do and fill in your calendar for the whole year. Decide when and how many vacations you want to take; how many fun days a month will you give yourself? Are there retreats or training’s you’d like to attend for physical, spiritual or mind blowing expansion? Make sure to include a bucket list item or two or three LOL. Taking control of how you spend your time will create a much more balanced and happy life.

As Margaret Wheatley said,

“Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.”

Answering the above 3 questions will make you feel lighter and as you feel lighter you’ll begin to feel more energized and open. As you feel more energized and open, you’ll step into the New Year with more confidence.

It’s time to make a change! Gather your gumption and give this a go! You’ll be glad you did!

I would love to hear about your reflections!

Leave a comment below and let me know:

1 thing you did this year that you are proud of…

~ or ~

1 thing you are letting go of…

~ or ~

1 fun thing you are adding to your 2020 calendar…

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

P.S. – I’m cooking up a call that will bring you magic in 2020!! Stay tuned and eyes peeled – it’s happening in a week:))

This has been a very reflective month for all that I’m grateful for (soooo thankful for the BIG full moon this month illuminating it so clearly! Wow was that spectacular or what?!)

Top of my list, is always the gratitude I have for my beautiful mom who taught me so much about love…

Equally important is YOU!! I’m VERY grateful to you for being part of our Sparkle community – for supporting me and my mission and for showing up for yourself and continuing to do what it takes to move forward and become your most loving, happy and joyful Self.

I feel like such a proud mom every time I receive a message from you letting me know how things have changed and positively shifted for you…:)

Sooo, in appreciation for all you give to me, I would like to GIVE YOU a gratitude gift – Sparkle with Feminine Power (30 minute meditation), that will change your life in a very positive way.

As you listen to this guided journey you will notice there is a sound bath component that is key to a quick and powerful way to unlock your feminine power!

Sound healing is an effective method that’s been used successfully for centuries to help women ignite their natural feminine power. The amazing effects of the tuning forks will balance your masculine and feminine energies and connect you to your sensual, radiant, Divine essence.

As a woman you know all too well how stress can affect your energy leaving you feeling tired and out of sorts. It’s easy to lose sight of your divine radiance when you’re juggling the day-to-day demands of life. Even the most evolved woman will occasionally feel out of touch with her strengths.

Just like a piano, the mind, body and spirit need fine-tuning. We store life experiences as energy patterns in our anatomy. Some experiences, especially negative ones, create blockages interrupting the free flow of our vital feminine power. If left unchecked, these blocks will erode your well-being and rob you of your Divine Diamond Power.

Tuning Fork Sound Therapy has the ability to unblock and release energy disturbances inside the body so that feminine balance and intrinsic power are restored effortlessly.

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The vibration of sound has many effects on both the conscious and the unconscious levels allowing powerful shifts to occur. The influence of sound can energize, uplift, and rejuvenate the feminine spirit.

Women are phenomenal givers – but not always to themselves. So my sparkling sisters, as you fly into the holidays, taking care of everyone else’s needs, commit to taking a few minutes every day to be still, listen to this meditation and appreciate the beauty of YOU!

To sum it all up this lovely quote to inspire our connection to the beauty that we are:

“Feminine Power isn’t something we go out and acquire, it’s already within us. It’s something we become willing to experience”
– Marianne Williamson

Sparkling hugs of gratitude,

Sherri

PS – If you spend some time with this consistently you will notice how your life and world begin to blossom in the loveliest of ways…:))

We are in the month of gratitude! Loooove this month! One of my lifetime gratitude’s is to my book coach Patrick Snow (in the pic above with me @ my book launch party). Without his brilliant advice and guidance I wouldn’t have published my book, Sexy and Sparkling after 40, which shares my SPARKLE System- the foundation of the work I’m privileged to share with women all over the world!

My clients bring me a joy that is priceless. I am forever grateful to be part of their journey back to wholeness and Self.

The most common complaint I hear as a coach from women over 40 is that they’ve lost themselves. They’ve lived their life for everyone else and when they look in the mirror – the image looking back at them is tired and stressed. The spark is gone from their eye and they want it back!!

Hey I can totally relate, it happened to me.

How about you? Do you feel like somewhere along the way you lost yourself?

If so, don’t feel bad, because you are not alone. Millions of women all over the world are waking up to the reality that they have a deep desire to feel whole and happy again – to get back their sparkle – to find their joy, to feel empowered.

What I’ve discovered over the last 10 years of working with women is that there’s a common theme: in the process of doing what we think is going to please others: career, romantic relationship, kids, being a good mom, daughter, sister and friend – we pretzel to make everyone else happy. Ending up feeling stressed and exhausted.

Watch this video for a 5 step proven solution.

I recently had a conversation with a male friend about this very topic. We discussed how men are attracted to women who are confident and living a life they love.

He reflected on his romantic experiences…sharing this insight: as his relationships progressed there was a tendency for the woman to change. She often gave up a part of herself to cater to his needs or children’s needs (of course you will want to give to them – we are talking about giving in excess), running herself ragged and forgoing the things that used to bring her soul joy.…consequently becoming a very different woman than she was when they met …this is how she starts to lose herself… and this is how relationships begin to unravel.

As I mentioned above this has been brought to the forefront time and time again over the years as an “aha” for the women I coach. Perhaps you can relate to this?

If so, the solution is a successful 5-step process you can put into action immediately.

Click on the video above to get back your sparkling, joyful, vibrant Self pronto!

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

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IT’S official. It’s over. Actually it’s been over for quite some time now. Then why can’t you move on?

You may think you’re doing your best to move on, but somehow you just can’t shimmy away from him. Truth be told even if you aren’t in physical contact you may be fooling yourself with lots of sneaky subtle behaviors that keep you connected and prevent you from meeting someone new!

Breaking up can be hard to do. We may be bonded to the other person and have a hard time letting go. Not having a clean break, however, may be confusing for either party. Keeping what seem to be innocent connections may send the signal that you want to get back together or they stand in the way of making a future connection with someone new.

You are probably intertwined with your ex in ways you don’t even realize are preventing you from doing so.

I came across the following article that I was asked to participate in by YourTango a few years ago and wanted to share it with you because it is still incredibly relevant for anyone who desires to move on but just can’t seem to do it and doesn’t understand why they can’t.
This article brings to light ten hidden ways we stay connected with our ex’s. Read your way to freedom!!….

Click Here to learn the 0 ways you may be sabotaging your freedom….

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

We’re in the last quarter of the year, AND the decade!!! No matter where you are at today you can still make this your best year yet!!!

That said, there is a wonderful tool you can use to help you do this with more ease and grace. Today I was reflecting on this tool – it’s Divine inner nudges – you know the ones – the soft and gentle whispers within that hope to get your attention to make your life easier.

Do you listen to that voice?

If you’re anything like me, the answer truthfully is not always. And the times I haven’t listened, I could kick myself! And the times I have….ah well, there is always some kind of magic waiting for me.

I’m reminded of a time in the beginning of my career as an author and coach that I had a “feeling” to go to the Women’s Journey Conference. Not only did I end up sitting next to Marci Shimoff (#1 NY Times best-selling author) but we did an interactive exercise together where we shared our mission and stood for each other.

I have to be honest, initially I was shy and nervous to be voicing my mission to this world renowned transformational leader – but I gathered my courage and told her my dream and guess what? She didn’t laugh or look at me with disbelief. She fully embraced and supported me in my dream. In that moment the difference in where we were in our level of accomplishment disappeared and we were just two women sharing our vision and longings Soul to Soul- it was beautiful, real and authentic.

That was a wonderful gift and lesson for me. Sometimes we feel like, who am I to have such a big bold dream? But the truth is, we are all here for a Divine purpose and the world is waiting for you to show up and own your dream. So what is your dream? And what is holding you back from fully going for it?

Over the years I’ve had many conversations with women who are “waiting” to take their bold move. Most express they don’t yet have the confidence or want to get some weight off, or don’t feel good about themselves and how they present. And they have this idea that if they only had this magnetism, this irresistible essence it would be easier.

I get it. I totally get it. Going for it can be terrifying.

But if you don’t, isn’t leaving this planet without going for your dream even more terrifying?

It was for me. So I thought about some things that always help me take those scary first steps in hopes they will inspire you to go for your dream too because the world needs YOUR UNIQUE GIFTS!!

7 Ways to feel more confident and irresistible:

1. Get out and move.
Simply putting on a pair of sneakers and walking for 30 minutes a day will clear your head of any bad juju as well as get your blood flowing AND give your skin a rosy glow to boot! Nobody can resist a bright smile and positive energy!

2) Participate and contribute.
Nothing is more attractive than someone who believes deeply and passionately about their mission or cause and devotes her time and energy to it. This may be a love of animals, helping the homeless, cleaning up the environment or taking great care of your family or, or, or!!! So get involved and follow your passion! It it’s animals, check out your local animal shelter for volunteer opportunities, or if your passion is to help those in need, spend a few hours a week at a local shelter or local soup kitchen. Filling yourself up with purpose is a great way to grow as a person and will also increase your level of feeling good about yourself!

3. Know that who you are is enough.
There’s nothing more beautiful than a woman who knows she’s beautiful from the inside out. Knows that who she is, at her core, is worthy of all that her heart desires! Buying into the media messages that promote image rather than substance undermines your self-esteem and further sabotages your self-image. Own that you are as valuable as a diamond:)

4. Have more fun.
Opening up to playfulness frees the creative expression of your soul and brings to life your charisma, magnetic charm and vibrancy. Not only does having fun ignite your inner feminine essence (giving you a glow money can’t buy), it also opens you up to idea’s that you haven’t been able to access due to worry and anxiety. And according to Harvard studies when you are in playful energy you are present which allows you to connect with others at a deeper level because they FEEL you. You are very attractive to higher quality opportunities when you engage in fun! Get playing love!!!

5. Be interested.
One of the #1 needs people have is to be heard and appreciated. Dale Carnegie talks about the value of listening to others in his work as being crucial to connection so get into the habit of being on the receiving end by developing your listening skills and showing a genuine curiosity in what others have to say. When they feel that they are being heard, understood, supported and maybe even challenged by your questions, not only will they feel like YOU are one of the most interesting people they’ve met, they’ll feel a bond, a connection and a relationship is born.

6. Do what you love.
When you’re engaged in activities you love and feel good doing, you exude self-confidence, authenticity, and radiance. Don’t use your circumstances or weight as an excuse to hide from the world and stop living because then you lose your sense of empowerment. One of my mentors liked to say we all have circumstances don’t let your circumstances have you!! So get out and engage in activities you enjoy! This will make you feel more alive and confident.

7. Listen to those inner nudges.
Get familiar with the voice of the Divine – it’s soft, gentle and will always give you inspired, kind and loving ideas. If you are hearing a shout or something negative this is not God (or the Universe or The Infinite, whatever you call this Higher Power) talking to you. It’s your ego – Edging God Out!! The voice of Love is never punishing or critical or judgemental – it’s always supportive, kind and compassionate -that’s the voice you want to listen to:))

Once you hear it, if an action isn’t clear, ask what action to take and then TAKE IT!!! You will be soooo glad you did. This is your secret super power that will make your life so much easier and save you time, suffering and often money.

Now, you can confidently bring yourself into the moment without any thoughts or insecurities that take away from your natural sparkling self!

I challenge you to be bold and take a stand for your dream today so that a year from now you aren’t saying, “If only I had started a year ago.”

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

Thursday was the 4 year anniversary of my dad’s death…that coupled with the full moon had me doing a lot of reflecting and there have been some big waves of emotion as surprising memories came to the surface to be soothed…there was also an awareness that the important relationships in our life are layered and take time to be fully processed and healed.

In conjunction with that I also feel great gratitude for the growth of our relationship over the last years of his life.

Have you ever wanted a “do over” with one or both of your parents? Wipe the slate clean and start fresh? Did you do it? Or did you hold back feeling a little anxious?

I get it. I was scared and stayed stuck for years not really knowing how to change things. In the past, I had “dipped my big toe” a bit, but I had never “dove in” to make lasting change.

Until one day I reached a point where it was more important than not to heal this relationship. You see, I started feeling like I was missing out – not only with my dad but in my personal life too. I recognized the trickle effect it was having with romantic partners as well. And so I began to take it seriously and boy am I glad I did.

Have you ever felt that way? That you’re missing out?

Good news – there is a formula to not only mend relationships but to create deeply loving ones…so you never have to miss out again.

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Sparkling Love,

Sherri

When you look into the mirror do you like what you see? Is there a sparkle in your eye that makes you smile or a glistening glow that screams happiness? Or do you see a woman who is tired, stressed and maybe a little sad… and wonder, where did that happy-go-lucky, fun-loving woman go – who have I become?

Do you ever go down the rabbit hole when you see other women with adoring partners hanging on their every word and totally taking care of them…do you ever have the thought what do they have that I don’t?

When you desire a passionate, soulful connection (whether you’re in a flat lined relationship or single and seeking) and you don’t have what you want, it can be really frustrating, can’t it?

So I want to share a solution that’s actually simpler than you might imagine. The key to a happy life can be found in these three secrets:

#1 – Sparkle: the first place to start is getting back your sparkle. This means “BEING” in “LOVE”! Many people interpret “being in love” in an other oriented way – I’m in love with my husband/boyfriend, I’m in love with my job, I’m in love with my dog, you get the picture. In truth when you allow yourself to BE – just being who you are, in the present moment here and now – and you allow yourself to fill up with love, becoming love – you are now, “ being in love”. There is no focus or dependence on any one else being the catalyst for you enjoying this extraordinary bliss. When you are in this state you sparkle. You’re happy, you’re excited, you’re having fun and you’re giving an abundance of authentic love to everyone you see. This is a fabulous place to be! From here you not only nurture the partnerships you already have – you attract relationships, friends, and situations that are equally as loving.

#2 Laughing: give yourself permission to unleash your playful feminine spirit because to live a life of pleasure you must first know pleasure! So get in touch with your inner child – what did you like to do when you were young? As we grow older we often get way too serious. There is no room for frivolity if you are structured and serious.

If you are having trouble recalling what brought you happiness as a child, take a few minutes to sit down and reminisce about what you loved to do if you had even 10 extra minutes as a kid. Did you dance, draw, read, sing, bake? Chances are whatever you liked doing then you will still enjoy today.

Another fabulous benefit from laughing is that it opens the mind and heart, oxygenates your cells and gives you a fantastic glow, not only making you feel light and young, you will look years younger too!

Making fun and pleasure a priority is definitely essential to your happily ever after, so embrace your passionate, playful side and you will free yourself to live, laugh and love fully self-expressed.

In addition, bringing play into your relationship adds fun adventure, lightens any mood and opens the heart creating a nice bonding experience.

Plus, it will get your man to open up and talk more. If you are frustrated by your man’s lack of chit-chat get him relaxed and playful – believe me, he’ll start yappin’ up a storm.

#3 – Confidence: men find women with confidence positively irresistible and sexy. Confidence says you genuinely love and respect yourself. You exude an energy that’s magnetic, magical and mesmerizing. You know who you are and what you want. You don’t expect others to create your happiness. You take responsibility for your joy and you know how to create your joy, independently of others. This takes the pressure off your significant other and lures them in to your wild and wondrous web of fabulosity.

A super tip and quick way to build confidence is to do something outside your comfort zone every day. Being brave and taking bold steps builds confidence pronto.

Reconnect with the real YOU – the you that glows with Divine Love and from this place you shine your Diamond Power! When you find your playful, confident, feminine spirit you can turn a lonely, dull life into full on fireworks!

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

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