Now perhaps more than ever as our world is experiencing a pandemic health crisis and events, schools and places are being rescheduled, canceled or closed it’s an eye-opening opportunity to see what you are committed to. Take a minute and think about it, because everyone is committed to something.

Get honest and ask yourself a hugely important question, “What am I committed to – faith or fear?”

And hey, you may be thinking, times are scary and life is a struggle and that’s not negative, it’s simply the Truth. I get it – I used to think the same way. Until I stopped and made an honest assessment of ALL the results I was experiencing. That was a wake-up call because what I realized is how you do one thing is how you do everything! As I lived in fear and struggle, more things showed up to be fearful of, more struggles popped up and it was a continuous cycle.

It became clear I wasn’t living in faith…trusting that EVERYTHING is in Divine Order, and EVERYTHING is good, even if it doesn’t appear to be in the moment. Trusting that God is up there orchestrating it all for our highest good. The moment I really got this miraculous thing started showing up in my life.

The thing is even if you think you are committed to living a big happy life – if your dreams and goals are not becoming realities there is something – a belief, a fear, an assumption, a way of thinking that you are unknowingly committed to that is blocking you from feeling safe and peaceful and manifesting what you say you desire. Literally taking you in the opposite direction of your dreams.

That’s important because you know how it is to be committed – you’re ALL in, right?

And that’s GREAT when it’s a faith-based belief that serves you, but what about those fear-based beliefs that limit you? The truth is every belief, whether supportive or sabotaging wants to be right. As a matter of fact, they inspire behaviors that create results to prove they are right. That could show up as stuckness, unfairness, being broke, things not going your way, men leaving you, cheating on you, constant chronic illness – you name it- it’s a programming that keeps you in a vicious frustrating cycle.

The key is to find out what the commitments are that are wreaking havoc on your life and reframe them – so that they can become healthy, nourishing, positive commitments that will feed your soul and produce peace and happiness.

Here’s how you break those vicious cycles:

#1 Commit to filling your mind with faith-based beliefs

#2 Pay attention to your thoughts -if you notice you always think life is hard, you are committed to things being difficult. If you routinely worry about your abilities or competency you are committed to not being enough. If you stay on the sidelines and under the radar you might be committed to being invisible.

#3 Reframe your limiting thoughts – think a new empowering thought like “life is easy,” or “I am more than capable, who I am and what I say matters,” or “it’s safe to be seen,” or “with God all things are possible,” or “I trust God is guiding me to the best outcome or greatest opportunity even if I can’t see it now.”

#4 Take action – do the opposite of what you normally do. In meetings or group situations if you normally sit on the sidelines quietly, be the first to voice your opinion. If you normally back away feeling resistant to committing to something that would help you reach your goal – commit!

#5 Make a declaration right here, right now to commit to behavior that serves your desire! If it’s scary you know you’ve hit gold – jump in! Have Faith!

#6 Commit to being good to others, kind to everyone (even if they are unkind to you), give without remembering, take without forgetting.

This is so doable! All you have to do is make the decision to commit to Faith-based beliefs that will fulfill you and expand your life and ultimately bring you more happiness and love:)).

And the good news is, it’s easy! It’s just as easy to commit to a good thought/behavior as a bad thought/behavior.

What will you commit to now? The choice is yours!

Sparkling Love,

I just got back from an awesome two-day workshop with my mentor! The theme was miracles and love…we talked about the 12 components of a miracle (which I’ll be sharing in more detail in the weeks to come) and the incredible power of love (did you know it’s 5ooo times stronger than your thoughts? WOW! ).

Which is why it’s so important to be in coherence with your heart – that means telling your evil twin sister (inner critic) to take her toxic thoughts and hit the road! Because if you hang on tight to the things that drive you crazy you’ll never allow love into your mind. There’s no room for it. A mind full of trash gets more trash. And you want love, right?

Now you might be saying, wait a minute, isn’t love specific to the heart? True that’s where we FEEL love, but it starts with the thoughts we are focusing on in the mind. Our feelings are determined by what we put our attention on – we think something, then we feel.

Think about it– someone says or does something that is unkind, disrespectful or even crosses a boundary – and you think wait a minute, what did I do to deserve that? What happens next? Most of us put our attention on what was said or done, attach a meaning to it, take it personally and then feel upset. Totally taking it personally our body starts to fill up with anger and injustice and maybe some hurt or frustration. Maybe you say some unkind things in return and get even more riled up.

Can you think of a time that happened to you?

I know I sure can. The thing is while our mind is busy taking things personally our heart is shutting down and we are waaaay far away from the love we desire.

We all crave love and yet the #1 limiting belief for women is “I’m not loved or lovable”. How many times have you allowed your mind to spin out of control with thoughts that don’t support self-love? Ay yi yi and the vicious cycle that creates – rarely letting the love we desire flow into our hearts.

When we let our mind hold onto thoughts and beliefs that make us feel bad about ourselves we suffer. The key is to let go of taking things personally and open to the knowing that we are loved and lovable. But that requires a sacrifice and the sacrifice is letting go of feeling bad and unworthy, strengthening our love of Self, believing in our beauty and goodness.

How do you do that?

The key is greater awareness and making consistent healthy decisions. Here’s the deal there’s a part of you that wants to go forward and expand into love and there’s a part of you that’s arguing for why you can’t. God wants you to have a free full life of love because that’s what God/life wants for us but then the human side argues for the hurtful things that were said, resentment, blame, criticism, anger, and it’s arguing for contraction. One of those two sides wins with every decision we make.

The awareness is key because it helps you see with every decision you make which side is winning. Then you can see that part that argues you out of love. And it’s not just in taking things personally – ask yourself if you lean into that part of you that gets small and weak in other areas of your life? As we do one thing we do everything!

The fabulous truth is that ultimately you have way more opportunity for love in your life than you are currently allowing.

Are you up for a challenge?

I thought so – you rock!

So the challenge is to pay attention to what you are paying attention to for the next week – and let love win! By letting go of those idea’s/beliefs/thoughts that don’t serve you, and instead choosing empowering thoughts that nurture YOU :))

With Sparkling Love,

Last week I was talking to a friend of mine about love…she shared that although she absolutely loves her 2nd husband and is very happy she would never love him with the same kind of wild abandon she had her first husband…she admitted to holding a part of her heart back…because of the pain she went thru in her previous marriage.

Can you relate?

Most of us have had experiences and situations in our lives that have in effect, caused us to build barriers to guard our hearts. We say to ourselves, “I’m never going to let that happen to me again!” and we feel safe with these protective walls. But mama mia that will also keep out the deeply connected and bonding love we desire. So the trick is to know when to allow your walls to collapse and let the old stories go. Once this happens, love can pour in.

And the truth is everyone deserves to live a life filled with love and loving connections. So how can we intentionally create and experience more love?

Although many of us look for love on the outside, the path to love really begins inside. This Rumi quote describes it perfectly:

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi

Too often, the lack of deep love in our lives comes from a lack of self-love and self-compassion. Many of our love barriers were created to protect ourselves from our own inner critic. Most of us are incredibly hard on ourselves. When faced with our flaws the negative self chatter starts: “I’m not good enough. I’m worthless.” “I’m not interesting enough.” “I’m too old – who would want me?”

And of course, the goalposts for what counts as “good enough” seem always to remain out of reach. No matter how well we do, someone else always seems to be doing it better. The result of this line of thinking is sobering: Millions of people suffer from insecurity, anxiety, and depression, and much of this is due to self-judgment, to beating ourselves up when we feel we aren’t measuring up.

So what’s the answer? Click here to find out!

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

PS — I want to give you something to help you release the past and open to more love… Click here for your Valentine FREE Gift (password: love).

What would you love in 2019?

You are at a perfect point to plan and prepare for the best year you’ve ever had – SO exciting!

It starts with taking a stand for the life you desire and knowing that…“Your history does not determine your destiny.”Loooove this quote!!

You do that by staying forward focused and leading yourself in an empowered way.

But how do you do that when you’re not sure what that looks like or how to do it?

Ironically it’s not just about how YOU lead yourself. Did you know the power of the other is always at work in your life?

It’s been widely suggested not to let others have power over us – but they do.

According to acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist and NY Times best-selling author Dr. Henry Cloud the power of the other can effect you from the boardroom to the bedroom…and beyond!

So how do you wisely navigate this external influence so that you can have a fantastic 2019?

In my interview with Dr. Cloud he reveals:

• How to create relationships that support your growth and inspire you to be all that you can be
• How to disconnect from the power of the other that seems to sabotage or put a kabash on your dreams

Watch my interview with Dr. Henry Cloud now.

Here’s to surrounding yourself with the right people for your BEST year yet!!!

Sparkling love,

Sherri

Last week we talked about setting yourself up for success in 2020 with 3 questions to gain clarity on your dream.

Did you answer them? Let’s assume you have. Ok then! You’ve got a dream, a goal, ambition and you’re ready to take the world by storm. Woo hoo!

And then, if you’re like everyone else, almost as soon as you decide to go for it, it seems like one thing after another comes up to side track and derail you! Soooooo very frustrating isn’t it???

Here’s the thing…anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. In addition to those outer roadblocks, your inner world starts to create some jam ups too. Why? Because as soon as you decide for a dream anything unlike it must come up to be released and re-patterned. So, how do you move past these derailments on the path to your oh so awesome dream?

The first step is to recognize that a roadblock is not a dead end.

When a challenge arises, it’s important to stay connected to your “why” and not to give up. Why do you want this particular thing? As long as you keep this in the forefront of your mind you can recenter, refocus and recommit.

After all, a detour on the way to work wouldn’t keep you from getting to your end destination. So why would you let a detour on the path to your dream keep you from reaching your aspirations?

Today I’m going to share the 3 most common obstacles people encounter on the way to their dream and how to recognize these culprits and move past them.

 

This way, when you encounter an obstacle you can say, “Nothing is stopping me – there is a power far greater than me – that is ALWAYS with me – that can help me handle any curveball that comes my way! I’m on course for my dream life!“

 

Viva la dream building!

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to Achieving Your Dream & 3 Solutions

Obstacle #1 – Distraction

Distractions can keep you stuck in a rut. Have you ever set time aside for a project but before you sit down you look around and there’s the laundry or there’s a pile of mail you haven’t gone thru? Then you notice there’s that drawer you wanted to clean out, or you get a call from a friend and instead of letting it go to voice mail you pick up and spend an hour chitchatting with her, or you check your email and texts or get on Facebook?

These distractions can keep you on a permanent detour from getting to your dream!

Solution #1 – Stay focused & Set boundaries

Achieving your dream is going to require focus and effort. Set aside time regularly to work toward your aspirations. Treat this time as a VIP priority. Make sure you turn off all distractions. Put your phone on silent and close your email application.

Think of distractions as your archenemy in the field of your dreams.

Remember the importance of achieving your goal as you create your vision. If any distractions start to pop up, remember what they are and that you can make a choice of how to deal with them.

Obstacle #2 – Your habitual patterns keep you stuck

Most people want a life that’s warm, fuzzy and filled with fulfillment. Yet we go through life blaming our circumstances for the life we have rather than taking ownership and leading ourselves to a more empowered life. The truth is we all have circumstances, the trick is not to let the circumstances have us. Whether we are stuck in the past, seeing nothing at all ahead, or envisioning a dazzling future– all are equal in producing our reality. If we are dissatisfied yet do nothing to change, we will continue to live a mediocre life at best.

Solution #2 – Get in the driver’s seat and take control

Take responsibility for creating the life you want. You are the leading lady of your own life. Do the work to “know” what you want and “choose” those things. You have the power to create a life you love. It’s always a choice. You can move out of victim mentality, out of feeling stuck, and out of being irresponsible for life’s outcomes. You can choose to move into responsibility, possibilities, personal power and limitless opportunities.

It’s time to get in the driver’s seat and take control of your destination. You must identify and harness the power, control and responsibility for your thoughts and actions so you can be empowered to create a life you love.

Obstacle #3 – Fear

Fear, doubt, and worry are like leeches to your dream. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and there’s a part of you that doesn’t. The part of you that doesn’t is fearful of change. It will tell you all the reasons why you can’t reach your goal like, “you’re too old, you don’t know enough, you don’t have the money, you don’t have what it takes, you failed before what makes you think you can succeed this time?” Its job is to protect you in a safe little cocoon and therefore it will resist any form of growth and expansion in your life.

Solution #3 – Neutralize your fear

When you feel fear and anxiety creeping up, you’ll need to step out of that thought pattern. Take a deep breath and begin to focus on the “why” of your dream. Why is it that this dream important to you? When your “why” is big enough, the how will appear.

Ask yourself, what’s one step you can take from where you are right now, with what you have, to move towards your goal?

Your dream/vision will unfold one step at a time. Even the longest journey begins with just one step. What one step can you take now?

Here’s to staying on track on the path to your dream. You CAN do it! I believe in you. Happy visioning!

xoxo

Sparkling Love,

Sherri

Time to say sayonara to 2019 and let the New Year and DECADE Begin!!!

If you really want to see big change, consider this….rather than setting resolutions, make a courageous commitment to live on the edge of your comfort zone.

You sure would be in good company!! I remember seeing Dianne Feinstein and a bevy of other iconic females being interviewed and they all said the key to a happy and fulfilling life involves taking risks and stepping out of your safety zone.

According to these empowered women, that’s when life becomes magical and you are truly living into your genius and greatness.

As inspiring as that sounds you may be saying to yourself, “That seems kinda scary. My life may be a bit boring but routine suits me because I know what to expect and I like being in control…” sound familiar?

In the spirit of this theme I say shake it up baby!!!

Click here to make 2020 yours!!!

Sparkling Love,

Sherri