Are You Leading Lady Material?

Who do you want to become?

In the movie version of your life, are you the Leading Lady you always thought you would be? Are you living the life you want? Or are you stuck in the wings, afraid to step out and into the spotlight and own your divine power in this world?

God, the divine, a higher power…whatever you believe in, intended you to live an empowered existence, and to experience life in the highest and happiest way possible.

If you are sitting reading this thinking… YES! I am so NOT living my life to the fullest, or owning my Leading Lady life, then stay with me, because making the change from hiding in the wings to standing in your personal sparkling spotlight is easier than you think honeychild!

What does it take to be a Leading Lady?

Well look no further than Hollywood “A” list stars for examples. What do they have in common? They exude confidence and self-assurance, its clear that they love and respect themselves and those around them. There’s this magnetic energy that surrounds them and draws you in, that’s why their movies and red carpet events get so much attention!

Here’s how to start the journey to becoming your own sparkly Leading Lady.

First, write down the characteristics of your ultimate leading lady.

~ How does she think?
~ How does she dress?
~ How does she talk?
~ How does she react to situations
~ How does she show up in life?

Then Do This:

  • Find a picture of a role model that represents your Leading Lady ideals (can be an actress, or politician, an activist , a friend or anyone that embodies your list of characteristics listed above) and post that in a very conspicuous place. Remember that you want to see this multiple times a day so don’t put it on the back of your closet door unless that’s somewhere you go often!
  • Write the characteristics of your Leading Lady on paper and post it on your fridge or wall in your bedroom next to the pictures of you role model.
  • Visit this Leading Lady vision board OFTEN, a minimum of twice a day and stick to it!

To become your Leading Lady you need to take her characteristics and create images with them. Our brain associates with pictures more readily than words, so here’s where you can be creative and build an image with yourself in it firmly anchored in those traits OR find photo’s that represent them.

You can create your own Leading Lady vision board if you want! Once you create the images connect with them, FEEL them, engage the senses. Do this consistently twice a day and watch your new sparkling self-image spring to life.

By holding the image and characteristics of the Leading Lady you want to be in your mind several times a day, you are introducing what I call ‘The Magic of a Good Attitude’ into your life. If your Leading Lady characteristics say that your role model has great posture and her house is tidy and she spends at least a few hours a week taking care of herself so she can take care of others, then you will feel compelled to sit up straighter, do those dishes and book that mani pedi next week!

Write down the characteristics of the woman you want to become, connect with it, own it and you will soon see your outer world changing in ways that confirm you have become her! It sounds simple but its really just about creating a different self-image and attitude.

I talk about being your Leading Lady in my book Sexy and Sparkling After 40, in a chapter I call ‘Adjust your Attitude’ that is super helpful for this. You can get your copy here 

The trick for breaking free from stress to really enjoy life

sensualAs a 21st century woman, you are busy and life can feel hectic. We are hardworking women and we’re all moving so fast rushing from one thing to the next. But, whew! It’s exhausting and stressful.

Could it be that we’ve become too busy?

When we move at this break neck pace, it causes us to lose touch with something special: our pleasure and sensuality. We forget to savor, enjoy, and really experience the best parts of life.

As one of the hosts for the radio show, Loving Your Sensual Side, I recently interviewed my friend and colleague Deonesea La Fey on how a woman can live in her sensuality in day to day life.

Get ready to turn up your enjoyment factor! ==> Listen to Deonesea’s interview now

In this interview Deonesea delivers critical tips to interrupt the patterns we have that keep us stressed so we can consciously choose more pleasure, joy & sensuality.

This interview is not to be missed!

Click here to access the replay page ==> Live in Sensuality Day to Day

Are you ready to enjoy life and break free from stress? Great! Here is an action step you can do right now! Contact me to schedule a complimentary sensuality and joy strategy session.

How to Add Va-voom to your V-day!

vday picDo you wish your Valentine’s Day was a bit… more?

Are you craving more excitement, romance and passion in your relationship?

If you’re feeling underwhelmed by your romantic life (especially at this time of year) you aren’t alone.

Valentine’s Day is a holiday that puts a big spotlight on your love life. It can be daunting to realize that the once hot passion in your romance has cooled to a semi-happy ambivalence.

According to Pamela Haag, who has written a rather shocking book on modern marriage called Marriage Confidential, there is an uncertainty lurking just below the surface of many of today’s marriages. Haag’s research reveals that even though couples may rarely fight and may even maintain a sincere affection for each other, one or both may harbor a sobering sense that something important is missing.

If your partner feels more like a roommate than a lover, is it too late for you? Even if you are in what Haag calls a “Tom Sawyer” marriage where you are the career focused go-getter and your partner is retired, relaxed and disconnected from your efforts, I believe that you can recharge your relationship with the right tools.  Click here to read the full blog and equip yourself with those tools!

How to overcome the 3 biggest obstacles to achieving your dream

future_freeway_sign250_1You’ve got a dream, a goal, ambition and you’re ready to take the world by storm. Woo hoo!

But, wait, why are there so many darn obstacles on the way to your goal?

Anyone who’s dared to dream knows that the initial excitement will eventually be met with some form of obstacle or resistance. So, how do you move past these roadblocks on the path to your dream?

Click here to read the full blog article and learn how to overcome the obstacles to your dreams.

Are you living YOUR life?

Rose-Petal-BathAs one of the hosts for the radio show, Loving Your Sensual Side, I recently interviewed my friend and colleague Shana James who believes that if you’re not getting what you want, then you’re not actually living YOUR life.

Wow, think about that!

Are you living a life of pleasure, passion, fun and fulfillment? Can you boldly express, “This is MY life and I love it”?

In the spirit of making 2014 your best year ever, I challenge you to step outside of your comfort zone to experience MORE. I want you to be that woman who is magnetic to everything she wants.

So, get ready to turn on your magnetic power! ==> Listen to Shana’s interview now

I’m so excited to share this radio interview with you because Shana really delivered the goods! I want you to drink from the well of knowledge so you feel awake and sensual and fully charged.

The title of the interview is, How To Slide Into Your Sensuality!

Enjoy the fun as Shana and I cover aspects of sensuality and femininity that include moving beyond fear, the secret to attracting love, and action steps to enjoy playtime.

This interview is not to be missed!

Click here to access the replay page ==> Slide Into Your Sensuality

How To Avoid Gossip & Feel Great

Screen Shot 2014-01-15 at 4.29.58 PMEver find yourself lured into the trap of gossiping about other women? Or have you ever compared yourself to another woman?

Whether it’s gossiping, backstabbing, competing, or comparing, women are too often unkind to one another.

In this video I join with other YourTango Experts Charles Orlando, Sheila Paxton, and Barbara Schiffman as Melanie Gorman (Senior VP of Experts) asks us why women are so mean to one another and what we can do to empower each other instead. Click here to see the video.

How To Blossom With Beauty

rose“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.”
 ~ Anais Nin

Isn’t this a great quote? Doesn’t it wake you up to how you might be living and how you want to be living?

To be fully in bloom is to offer your gorgeous, radiant self to everyone and everything.

So why is it that we sometimes close up and remain tight, hiding our beauty? Is it possible we forgot how delicious, sensual, blissful, and juicy life can be when we are open to it?

If you are like most women – thirsty to prove your worth – as you stepped into the adult world you broadened your shoulders while piling on the responsibility. You closed off your open spirit and let playtime fly out the door. Life became robotic and yet on some level you know your feminine soul wilted. Consequently you feel out of sorts when it comes to expressing your radiance and allowing your petals to unfold.

The solution? Get out of your head and into your heart. Connect to that space and memory of what brings you joy and passion. Embrace and love yourself as the beautiful woman you are. When you take the time to do this for yourself you will live in a state of peace and joy while sharing your beauty and gifts with the world effortlessly.

So….will you give yourself permission to bloom into the beautiful being you were born to be?

In order to flourish you MUST love yourself, inside and out!

One of the quickest ways to open up and bloom is to fall in love with your body…that’s right – every square inch of it – bulging belly’s, uncontrolled curves and dimpled thighs.

Start by standing in front of a mirror by candlelight, pour yourself a glass of wine if needed and put on some nurturing tunes. Send love to every inch of your body. Thank your thighs for allowing you to walk every day, thank your hips for expanding to allow those beautiful babes into the world and/or giving you that sassy saunter, and thank your stomach for reminding you that we live in a country of plenty. How lucky are we?

Be grateful! When you start to appreciate your body you will start to feel more comfortable in your skin and with this comes peace and with this comes the burgeoning of your radiant beauty.

When you live in this space of truly loving your body, you emanate a vibe that is irresistible to men. You will attract men like bees to a flower in full bloom.

In order to blossom, you must say, “yes” to self-love and playtime. Take steps each day to connect with your heart and your true beauty. With each step you’ll feel your petals unfold leaving behind the tight bud and exposing your gorgeous glory.

3 Powerful Tips to Make 2014 Your BEST Year

2014-Best-Year-300x199 Join me in a making a commitment to choose happiness this year – no matter what!

We are entering into a new year and for most people it’s a time of setting goals and resolutions.  Have you started that process?

Wherever you are with your plans for the New Year, I want to shake things up for you.  I want you to step outside of your box and experience the exhilaration of living on the edge of your own comfort zone.

You see, making 2014 your best year requires more than just setting resolutions and intentions. It involves personal transformation by setting and achieving goals that matter MOST.

Living your BEST year involves a commitment to a way of being.  It’s realizing that life is full of choices and that we are each empowered to make choices that bring us the most joy, the most growth and the most fulfillment.

Click here to read the full blog and discover 3 powerful steps to creating your best year ever!

The Greatest Gift of All

love-yourself‘Tis the season of holiday gifts wrapped under the tree but the gift I wish most for you is the greatest gift of all… self-love.

Self-love forms the basis of your single, most important relationship – that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that groundwork. To love yourself is the prerequisite to healthy self-esteem and deeply connected relationships.

It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. Self-love is about knowing your value, setting your boundaries, and honoring yourself. It is about teaching others how to treat you by demonstration of self-love. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit; all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you do for others, but because love is your birthright no matter what.

So the question is, are you practicing self-love on a daily basis to honor all that you are?

Follow these 7 steps to fall head over heels in love with YOU:

1) Write yourself a love letter.
Commit it to paper and really gush! You are digging for your diamonds here so get out your pick, put on your mining hard hat and start excavating. If this is hard for you or you draw a blank ask a good friend or family member to help you discover your dazzle.

2) Combat the critics.
Ah yes, the stealth committee of your mind—always at your service to run you over the coals. When they show up en force simply say, “Thank you for sharing, but no thanks! I choose to live with brilliance not bullying.”

3) Speak your truthat all times, no matter what.
Express yourself with honesty and integrity. Even if you think the conversation will be hard, speaker your truth and come from love. This honors who you are as well as the recipient.

4) Practice self-care.
Listen to your body and take care of your needs! Eat when you’re hungry, sleep when you’re tired, get a massage, indulge in a mani pedi, exercise, and kick any destructive habits/addictions like alcohol, drugs, and food abuse. You may need a village to help you and that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to reach out—you are worth it! There is plenty of support waiting to help you shine.

5) Accept yourselfno matter what.
Self love must come from a place of acceptance and appreciation. Regardless of your race, color, height, weight or gender, just accept the facts. You cannot change these things. If you don’t accept them you will cripple yourself—let go of what you cannot change and choose to celebrate instead.

6 ) Find evidence that supports how wonderful you are!
Every day you are going to be faced with situations that challenge your state of being, but when you understand that your heart inherently holds the blueprint for love, joy and happiness and all you have to do is tune in you’ll discover you’re not so burdened when things go awry. And ultimately, when you fall in love with YOU, the world will too!

7) Celebrate your accomplishments!!
Go ahead, toot your own horn! Toast your accomplishments with a friend or your partner over drinks. Buy yourself flowers, treat yourself to a massage – do something to make a big deal of what you’ve done. I just had this conversation with a client of mine – when you minimize your winnings that’s sending a message that you aren’t grateful for these gifts. It’s also not very loving to yourself – you’ve worked hard so take time to high five yourself instead of being the tyrannical task master!

Follow these tips, learn to love yourself and you’ll appreciate the greatest love of all. Plus, watch as the world responds in wonderful, dreamy ways! xo

5 Tips to Open Your Heart and Invite Love In

Open HeartHave you unknowingly closed off your heart creating a barricade against love?

We all want to experience true connected love. Being in a healthy, loving relationship is a rewarding and fulfilling life experience. But sometimes, without even realizing it, women can close off their heart and block out love.

How does this happen?

To find out how you may be unconsciously blocking love and to learn powerful secrets to remove your blocks and invite love in… read the full article here.