Because I hear from many of you that you desire to feel more shamelessly seductive and enjoy a more deeply satisfying sex life I knew you’d want to see this.
I am super excited because a special invitation has been given to me to be part of this FREE life changing event, Become Your Inner Siren: 21 Experts Share Secrets to Expressing Your Authentic Sensuality free telesummit. It features The Top Interviews In 2013 To Discover Your Path to Feeling Ultrafeminine and Embodying your Inner Seductress.
My friend, Deonesea, has brought together 21 leading experts to create a sensual feast that is designed to help you embrace your passion and pleasure and give you the freedom to be your sensuous self.
Face it. Most of us are so busy with “life” and our never ending lists of “must-do tasks” that we don’t take the time to slow down, connect and appreciate our beautiful bodies much less cultivate a sensual mindset.
This prevents us from living in our feminine power. And even though we are suffering from the consequences – loss of romance, passion and intimacy – we’re too tired and resigned to a “less than desirable” relationship to do anything about it.
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If you long to hear the words, “I love you,” you will be surprised to learn that touching is what will actually propel your relationship into the intimacy you desire. You see words are processed in the thinking part of your brain whereas touch goes directly to your emotional centers. Read on to learn six simple ways to touch.
Regular touching of your lover as well as your own beautiful body gets the endorphins flowing, which create a sense of caring and pleasure, plus help to calm the stresses of the day.
Touching communicates love and sadly we are a touch-starved society.
In the 1960’s a study showed the drastic differences in cultures by observing how many touches were exchanged with pairs of people around the world in coffee houses. Americans adhered to a strict diet touching only twice within an hour while Puerto Ricans got the prize touching 180 times an hour. The deprivation of touch may manifest as depression, anxiety, irritability, boredom, pain, moodiness as well as make you feel separate, lonely and isolated. Touching allows you to move into sacred space, creating presence and connection. And yet, we are a touch starved society.
So many women complain that their relationships lack intimacy. We are born with an intense skin hunger. The emotional development of babies depends on tons of touching and as adults we have a strong need to be held in someone’s arms, hold hands, be cuddled, be caressed, etc. However, most people don’t touch as often as they would like – afraid of being rejected, seen as needy or vulnerable they cover their need for intimacy with work, activities, TV food, drugs, alcohol.
The first step to developing a successful, intimate relationship with your partner is to first build intimacy with yourself. Exploring every delicious curve of your body will help you get to know what you like and what makes you feel good.
Once you’ve got this down, you can reach out to your partner with confidence and create the closeness you crave.
With all these fantastic reasons to bring touch into relationships let’s take a look at 6 ways you can incorporate touch into your life.
– Initiate an intimate connection to yourself by putting on some soft tunes, lighting a candle, laying down, closing your eyes and letting you hands glide over your body, touching every delicious curve in a sacred non-sexual way. Appreciate your body and connect to your senses.
– You can enhance creating an intimate connection to yourself by using an aromatherapy lotion or essential oil with a sexy scent like ylang-ylang or rose. Let your sensual Self expand!
– Hugging increases closeness, connection and safety. Make sure it is a full body hug so you can feel the heart beat of the person you’re embracing.
– Kissing – raise his testosterone levels with a 20 second kiss and it will make you feel more connected.
– Massage – the shoulders, hands and feet get emotionally stimulated when touched. New York-based sex therapist Mildred Witkin, suggests couples should practice touching in a way that is not explicitly sexual to keep intimacy and playfulness alive.
– Dance classes are a great way to meet new people and have your hand and waist held all evening long. Contact your local YMCA or dance studio for schedules.
Follow these six steps to increase touching and you’ll soon be building the connection and intimacy you desire.
“A smile on the face is a sign that the heart is at home.” Anonymous
The easiest way to invite fantastic opportunities into your life is to smile ( it’s also the best way to flip your mood from sour to sizzling!). As outlined in my earlier post, S.P.A.R.K.L.E. will take the sludge off your shine, open your heart and create connection in a nano second. This is the first of a 7 part series illuminating the specific ways you can get your sparkle on!
To begin with, let’s talk about smiling… Smiling lights you up from the inside out. No matter what you look like flashing your pearly whites will always make you sparkle and your eyes twinkle. And it’s the quickest way to communicate your joy, happiness, love, friendliness and approachability.
On the flirtatious side, a smile is equivalent to a feminine lair—inviting a man into your space.
Universally, your smile has the ability to turn somebody’s day around.
Make it a part of your day, every day and you’ll see instant changes that you will love.
It’s unanimous! I recently polled thousands of women on their favorite bra color and the response was overwhelmingly…BLACK! I have to say I was a little surprised – I was expecting a passionate color to take the lead but the majority revealed black as their #1 choice for feeling sexy and alluring.
Romantic red was runner-up…
I did a little research on your color choices and discovered that black is the color to wear when you want to look extremely sexy but at the same time highly romantic...
Red is the hottest color, making your man wild with desire. It’s a tempting and dramatic color – worn when you want the night to be filled with passion and crazy love-making.
Black and red are indeed the most popular lingerie choices along with white! I would also invite you to venture out and choose some enticing bra’s to match your eyes. If you want more information on this click here.
Before the 1920’s white was your only color choice – can you imagine? How about giving a prayer of pleasurable gratitude to be living now, a time that offers so much more choice for your sensual self expression.
Always keep in mind that it’s that special something about YOU that makes you sexy, not the lingerie.
Thank you ladies for sharing your “intimate” secrets with me!
How comfortable are you with expressing your sensuality? Hahmmmm…In other words have you spent so much time setting career goals that you’ve forgotten how to flirt and sashay a bit? Or maybe you’ve sacrificed for your kids and your man and now you don’t even know who you are anymore… I have lots of friends in this last category….but it’s easy to get back what you’ve naturally been blessed with. As easy as getting back on a bike…
You just need a little reminder…so go ahead, take a look and embody these four keys to unlocking the passionate life you know is yours…somewhere!
Unearthing and owning your inner sparkle. The Greeks call this your Kefi – it’s the passion, the magnetic charm and enthusiasm for life and love that every woman is born with. When you tap into and express this diamond essence you become positively irresistible, especially to men.
Accessing and owning your sensuality.When you understand where you are at and where you want to go you can build your bridge. Connect with your raw feminine power. Focusing on your positive attributes. Being soft, sexy and feminine will help you feel more beautiful. So start your Sparkling Factor List today.
Changing your limiting beliefs to own your enchantress. Your subconscious mind runs the show and this is where your limiting beliefs began and live. While some beliefs are good others are negative and can create resistance to expressing your sensuality and playfulness.
Unleashing your playful feminine spirit. To live a life of pleasure you must know pleasure! Making fun and pleasure a priority is the first step. Give yourself permission to unleash your passionate, playful side you will free yourself to live, laugh and love fully Self-expressed.
Now go embrace these 4 keys and you’ll be living a delicious, magical, love-my-love-life kind of life!!
And I want to hear all about it!!! Please email me with your fab stories @ email@example.com
Are you in touch with your sensuality? Are you getting out there and shakin’ your bootay?? Girlfriend, the BEST way to connect with your sensuality is to dance! Whether it’s doing the tango and dancing cheek to cheek with your lover, getting down with Barry White on the tabletops of your home, or some steamy pole dancing at the S Factor there is no better way to express your Self than to move those hips and shimmy down.
One of my clients was feeling disconnected from her femininity and sensuality – feeling rather invisible to men. We decided dance would be a good exercise for her so she started taking some classes at her gym that appealed to her. Just swaying sensually immediately made her feel more in touch with her body and her feminine essence. The more she danced the more she opened up and the next time I saw her she looked radiant – REALLY happy.
And the icing on the cake?Guys started asking her out more frequently because she was living in her femininity – emanating her vixen vibe.
So get your sexy self on the dance floor girls and start having some fun!
Are you as comfortable in your skin as Charlene Therize (left)? Well, quite frankly, who is? Maybe 3% of the female population! In fact, if you are anything like me it takes a little self-wooing and acceptance to get into that space.
But honestly girls, this is something you can cultivate – thankfullly! So, what’s the first step? In order to achieve a sensual mind set you MUST make a peace pact with your EVERY curve. If you want to be confident in your sex appeal, whether walking down the street or between the sheets, you’ve got to LOVE yourself, inside and out!
Face it. Most of us are so busy with “life” and our “to do lists” that we don’t take the time to slow down, connect and appreciate our physical image. This prevents us from living in our feminine power. And even tho we are suffering from the consequences – loss of passion – we’re too tired and resigned to the status quo that has become our love life to do anything about it.
We forget how delicious, sensual, blissful, and juicy our lives used to be.
The solution is to get out of our head and into our heart connecting to that space and memory of what brings us joy and passion. When you take the time to do this for yourself and your relationship you will awaken your sensuality and create a passionate life on purpose.
One of the quickest ways to access your feminine power is to fall in love with your body…that’s right – no matter your weight, no matter your dimpled thighs, and no matter your southbound traveling bustline.
Stand in front of a mirror and send love to every inch of your body. Thank your thighs for allowing you to walk every day, thank your hips for expanding to allow those beautiful babes into the world and/or give you that sassy saunter, and thank your stomach for reminding you that we live in a country of plenty. How lucky are we??
Be grateful! When you start to appreciate your body you will start to feel more comfortable in your skin and with this comes peace and with this comes a sizzling sensuality.
So my dear, start singing your praises, raise that vixen vibe and you will soon be catnip for every man you meet!
Are your under garments making you feel delicious? If not, why not? This is one of the easiest and safest ways to feel sexy for anyone uncomfortable in body hugging fashions. And men love pretty lingerie!
So why not march yourself right into Victoria Secret’s and buy some sexy push-up’s. What a HUGE difference. If you are not well endowed and need some help in this area the “chicken cutlets” are very natural enhancers.One of my good friends decided to try them and got a kick out of her husbands admiring response as well as the general oogling her new cleavage was causing.
Pretty undies are also a must. If you are wearing waist high “mother” underwear how will your sensual self ever emerge? And what about your guy? Remember, men are VISUAL!
If thongs are not your thing no worries honeychild – there are lots of options in-between. And the psychological benefit of flirtatious undergarments is enormous – you’ll feel as though you have a secret…a secret that will cause a sensual vibe to flow like a river right out of you.
Are you wanting to curb some curves? Don’t feel bad if your figure needs some realignment- most of us do. The good news is there are plenty attractive body shaping lines out there to lift, smooth and contour.Nordstrom’s has an awesome lingerie department with well-trained gals to help you out.
I can’t emphasize this enough, it all starts with your foundations – build beautifully and watch your walk become a confident strut. Start building today!!