Have you ever suffered a betrayal and felt like your whole world is falling apart?
Have you found yourself wondering, “what am I going to do now?”
I know how you feel. I’ve been there.
After my husband cheated, I missed out on years of happiness and balance because I didn’t know how to deal with betrayal.
Until I did…
When I figured out how to deal with betrayal, my life turned around for the better. I felt joy, peace, and courage again. I felt optimistic for my future, peace in my present, and was finally able to trust again.
These tools that helped me get through, have also helped the hundreds of women who I have worked with over the last ten years. Women just like you.
If you want to overcome stress, anxiety, and sleepless nights, watch this video! ⬇️
You’ll be given the proven, success tools and strategies I used to release fear and stress and gain clarity, peace, and calm. And I am going to share them with everyone who joins my challenge.
3 Steps to Heal from Infidelity:
1. Journaling – With journaling, you can write down any thought or feeling without the fear of being criticized. You can share your deepest darkest secrets. The beautiful thing about a journal is that it will always be loving and accepting. Often, people will write down something that has been bothering them, and by the time they’re done writing, it’s unraveled into the root cause of what’s troubling them. Another option is to get colored pencils, pens, or crayons and draw a picture. Let the picture express whatever it is you’re feeling.
2. Exercise – Moving your body and getting fresh oxygen will help lift your spirits and give you confidence. Marriage failures can affect both your body and mind. Exercise will give you a glow in your complexion and make you feel energized. It will also give you momentum.
3. Develop a relationship with the power that is breathing in you. – This will help you to know that you’re not alone. All you have to do is ask for support and know that you have a power within that is greater than yourself. You don’t have to let marriage failures stop you from living your life. By connecting to divine love and taking steps to move forward, you can start healing from infidelity and come out the other side a stronger person.
I have no doubt that you can and will overcome the pain of betrayal and find strength, confidence, and peace.
PS – Do you know someone who could benefit from these tools for healing after betrayal? Please pass this message along to them. By simply forwarding this email or sharing the challenge link, you can help them embark on their journey to healing and thriving.
Is there someone in your life who has wronged you and you just can’t let it go? Is it weighing you down?
If you can relate, believe me, you are not alone!!! Resentment is such a common culprit for many of my clients – stirring up negative feelings and emotions, such as anger, as we re-live and dwell on past injuries.
When we carry around this baggage, it drains us of our energy and attention and ability to form those deeply loving bonds we crave.
Do you want to know the solution?
It may not be what you want to hear, but I guarantee it will help you feel more peaceful and whole.
Here it is…forgiveness…that’s the answer. Learning how to forgive is not only good for other people; it’s good for your soul too. When you forgive, you allow yourself the opportunity to cultivate compassion, which enables you to transform your toxic thoughts into a state of love. By being more compassionate toward others, you will feel lighter, happier, and more full of life.
Forgiveness isn’t about letting the other person off the hook; it’s not saying that whatever they did to you is okay. It’s about detaching emotionally from what happened.
When someone wrongs you, it creates resentment and anger inside. And when you’re unable to learn how to forgive, it has a tremendous effect on your health. While there’s a pandemic going on outside your body, there’s a health crisis inside of you as well. This inner crisis results from toxic thoughts and emotions. You can avert the crisis by shifting your perspective. By allowing negative emotions to soften, you can make way for compassion. In this state, you’ll feel amazing.
In the video below you will learn a 5 step process to cultivate compassion. When you understand how to forgive, you unlock a whole new way of being and are able to live a life that is grounded in love. Are you in? Let’s get started!!!
5 Things You Can Do to Cultivate Compassion:
1. Write out what is upsetting you. Let yourself feel the full force of whatever it is you’re experiencing
2. Ask yourself what you’re gaining by holding onto that emotion.
3. Ask yourself who you would be without that emotion.
4. Take action.
5. Imagine the other person as the light that they are.
When you learn how to forgive, you unlock a whole new way of being. Start to cultivate compassion in yourself, and you’ll be able to live a life of love.
PS – Did you miss last week’s article? You can read it here.
When we are experiencing trouble in our relationship, it can feel like our world is crumbling along with our relationship. Our relationship issues take a front-row spot in the presence of our minds, consuming our thoughts and causing anxiety, stress, sadness, anger, and a host of unpleasant emotions.
If you are experiencing this, I feel you, I have been there myself, and I would love nothing more than to help you move through this difficult time.
So, I want to share three tips to help you find balance and peace so you can keep moving forward.
1. First, acknowledge that everything has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Every event in history, good or bad, has followed this sequence. While you are in the middle of your relationship crisis, it might be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise you that it does exist. Just as with everything else, your crisis will come to an end; you will not be stuck here forever.
2. Second, ask yourself, “Who do I want to be in the midst of this story?” In the future, when you reflect on how you showed up in the middle, what would you like to see? How will you have to show up right now to make your future self proud?
3. Last but not least, know that adversity helps us grow and blossom into a better and stronger version of ourselves. Adversity is an inescapable fact of life. Even a tree must endure the constant battles of the wind. But each seed of adversity has its silver lining. As the tree battles with the wind, its roots grow stronger and deeper below the surface, enabling the tree to support itself as it grows taller and taller. Without the adversity of the wind, the tree would eventually grow too tall for its shallow roots and would topple over. With every adversity that you face, there is a benefit. Start getting curious about the good that will come out of the challenges you face? Trust God and lean into His greater plan.
I believe in you. Not only can you make it through this, but you will arrive on the other side as a grander and more magnificent YOU.
Would you love to feel more loved in your relationship?
Do you spend your days feeling disconnected and empty reminiscing about the deep and happy connection you once had together?
Then you might be able to relate to my client, Sally.
Sally was in a challenging relationship with her husband. It seemed as though all the love they once shared was just a figment of the past. Her husband slept in another room and would barely even look at her. I encouraged Sally to switch her focus from the love she wanted to receive to the love she could give. So she began finding ways to show her love by doing small, kind things for her husband, such as making his lunch in the morning and including his favorite snacks. To her delight, his attitude toward her changed dramatically. He began looking her in the eyes and showing his genuine appreciation for her. They experienced more of a connection with that small act of caring than they had in months.
How can you adapt this strategy to transform your relationship?
When we are faced with difficulties in our relationships, it is so easy and common to focus on what our partner is doing or not doing. I have to admit when I was married I fell into that trap but it is a dead-end – you can never control someone else – your point of power is within.
Einstein said you can never solve a problem at the conscious level it was created -you have to rise above it.
So are you up for an experiment? What if you chose to focus on what you can control: your own actions. If you want more love in your relationship, then GIVE more love.
Stop waiting for him to go first and be the bigger person, just like Sally.
Express your love more often, and watch your relationship transform and grow into one that is healthier, happier, and more loving for both of you.
Is there a relationship in your life that has you feeling let down or unhappy? Does someone’s beliefs, behaviors, or patterns of interaction leave you broken-hearted?
Relationships can be tough. At one point or another, we’ve all experienced tense situations that trigger us. We can either react out of anger/hurt/fear or respond with love in these difficult times. Reacting often leads to more hurt without ever addressing the root of the problem. When you respond with love, you work towards healing.
I’m not saying it’s always easy but what I’m about to share IS easy and kinda miraculous.
I have a 4-word magic tool to give you that personally helped me transform one of the most important relationships in my life – it will help you too! It has the ability to shift you out of the habits that are hurting you and embrace a loving perspective.
Before reacting or responding, ask yourself:
When you ask yourself this question, you:
💖 Gain a whole new perspective
💖 Show up in a more loving way.
💖 You get better outcomes and create happier situations.
These four words can help you to improve your relationships with your partner, family, friends, parents, children, coworkers, and even yourself!
Do you feel shocked, humiliated, and paralyzed with fear?
I remember when I discovered my husband was cheating and how devastated I was, how stupid I felt, and how depressed I became.
My mind was so scrambled I couldn’t think straight.
Sound like your life lately? If it is, I am so sorry. I feel your pain. It’s no fun, that’s for sure.
What I’m about to share with you will help you release stress, fear, and sleepless nights, just as it did for me.
Fortunately, during my lowest lows, my most painful moments, I dug myself out of this, and I documented the healing and transformative steps I took. I discovered and created ten key strategies to deal with a cheating husband, find strength, peace of mind, and courage.
These strategies not only helped me get to the other side, but they have also worked for thousands of women. So I decided to compile them into an ebook to guide women just like you to get to the other side too.
Struggling is an awful place to be stuck in when dealing with infidelity. So jump into your healing; your time is now. Give yourself this tool of support to move you forward.
Click on the link below, and for only $7, you can have immediate access to my ebook – 10 Tips to Survive a Cheating Husband!
Last week, I gave you a 6-step solution for successful communication so you can be free of those frustrating and combative conversations. Did you give it a try?
This week, I bring you the second part to that solution: 6 rules for successful communication. (Watch the video.)
6 Rules for Successful Communication
Based on the Work of Dr. Gay Hendricks
Begin the conversation by letting the other person know that the purpose of this conversation is to evolve your relationship because you love and care about them. Then follow these six steps.
Invite the other person to experiment with you: to use these 6 steps and 6 rules to communicate with each other over the next __ days. (You can assign any amount of time you would like; Dr. Hendricks suggests 90 days.)
No labeling. (For example, don’t say something like “You’re insensitive.”)
Don’t bring up the past.
Exclude the words “always” and “never.”
No hitting below the belt.
The best way to follow these rules is to replace these habits with more constructive ways of communicating your thoughts. Make sure to check out the video for examples of effective ways to share what you are thinking and more in-depth explanations of these rules.