3 Tips to Find Peace When your Relationship is Crumbling

When we are experiencing trouble in our relationship, it can feel like our world is crumbling along with our relationship. Our relationship issues take a front-row spot in the presence of our minds, consuming our thoughts and causing anxiety, stress, sadness, anger, and a host of unpleasant emotions.

If you are experiencing this, I feel you, I have been there myself, and I would love nothing more than to help you move through this difficult time.

So, I want to share three tips to help you find balance and peace so you can keep moving forward.

1. First, acknowledge that everything has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Every event in history, good or bad, has followed this sequence. While you are in the middle of your relationship crisis, it might be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise you that it does exist. Just as with everything else, your crisis will come to an end; you will not be stuck here forever.

2. Second, ask yourself, “Who do I want to be in the midst of this story?” In the future, when you reflect on how you showed up in the middle, what would you like to see? How will you have to show up right now to make your future self proud?

3. Last but not least, know that adversity helps us grow and blossom into a better and stronger version of ourselves. Adversity is an inescapable fact of life. Even a tree must endure the constant battles of the wind. But each seed of adversity has its silver lining. As the tree battles with the wind, its roots grow stronger and deeper below the surface, enabling the tree to support itself as it grows taller and taller. Without the adversity of the wind, the tree would eventually grow too tall for its shallow roots and would topple over. With every adversity that you face, there is a benefit. Start getting curious about the good that will come out of the challenges you face? Trust God and lean into His greater plan.

I believe in you. Not only can you make it through this, but you will arrive on the other side as a grander and more magnificent YOU.

Stay strong.

Sparkling Love,

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The Secret to a More Loving Relationship.

Would you love to feel more loved in your relationship?

Do you spend your days feeling disconnected and empty reminiscing about the deep and happy connection you once had together?

Then you might be able to relate to my client, Sally.

Sally was in a challenging relationship with her husband. It seemed as though all the love they once shared was just a figment of the past. Her husband slept in another room and would barely even look at her. I encouraged Sally to switch her focus from the love she wanted to receive to the love she could give. So she began finding ways to show her love by doing small, kind things for her husband, such as making his lunch in the morning and including his favorite snacks. To her delight, his attitude toward her changed dramatically. He began looking her in the eyes and showing his genuine appreciation for her. They experienced more of a connection with that small act of caring than they had in months.

How can you adapt this strategy to transform your relationship?


When we are faced with difficulties in our relationships, it is so easy and common to focus on what our partner is doing or not doing. I have to admit when I was married I fell into that trap but it is a dead-end – you can never control someone else – your point of power is within.

Einstein said you can never solve a problem at the conscious level it was created -you have to rise above it.

So are you up for an experiment? What if you chose to focus on what you can control: your own actions. If you want more love in your relationship, then GIVE more love.

Stop waiting for him to go first and be the bigger person, just like Sally.

Express your love more often, and watch your relationship transform and grow into one that is healthier, happier, and more loving for both of you.

Sparkling Love,

4 Words to Resolve Conflict

Is there a relationship in your life that has you feeling let down or unhappy? Does someone’s beliefs, behaviors, or patterns of interaction leave you broken-hearted?

Relationships can be tough. At one point or another, we’ve all experienced tense situations that trigger us. We can either react out of anger/hurt/fear or respond with love in these difficult times. Reacting often leads to more hurt without ever addressing the root of the problem. When you respond with love, you work towards healing.

I’m not saying it’s always easy but what I’m about to share IS easy and kinda miraculous.

I have a 4-word magic tool to give you that personally helped me transform one of the most important relationships in my life – it will help you too! It has the ability to shift you out of the habits that are hurting you and embrace a loving perspective.

Before reacting or responding, ask yourself:

When you ask yourself this question, you:

💖 Gain a whole new perspective

💖 Show up in a more loving way.

💖 You get better outcomes and create happier situations.

These four words can help you to improve your relationships with your partner, family, friends, parents, children, coworkers, and even yourself!

Watch this video to learn more.

Responding with love is the best way to nurture your relationships with others and yourself.

 

Sparkling Love,

PS – Interested in more short yet powerful videos that will help you transform your life? Check out my series: “Morning Messages of Love” on Diamond Power TV

Are you suffering from a betrayal?

Do you feel shocked, humiliated, and paralyzed with fear?

I remember when I discovered my husband was cheating and how devastated I was, how stupid I felt, and how depressed I became.

My mind was so scrambled I couldn’t think straight.

Sound like your life lately? If it is, I am so sorry. I feel your pain. It’s no fun, that’s for sure.

What I’m about to share with you will help you release stress, fear, and sleepless nights, just as it did for me.

Fortunately, during my lowest lows, my most painful moments, I dug myself out of this, and I documented the healing and transformative steps I took. I discovered and created ten key strategies to deal with a cheating husband, find strength, peace of mind, and courage.

These strategies not only helped me get to the other side, but they have also worked for thousands of women. So I decided to compile them into an ebook to guide women just like you to get to the other side too.  

Struggling is an awful place to be stuck in when dealing with infidelity. So jump into your healing; your time is now. Give yourself this tool of support to move you forward.

Click on the link below, and for only $7, you can have immediate access to my ebook – 10 Tips to Survive a Cheating Husband!

You deserve better, and that’s why I want to help you.

Sparkling Love,

6 Rules for Successful Communication

Last week, I gave you a 6-step solution for successful communication so you can be free of those frustrating and combative conversations. Did you give it a try?

This week, I bring you the second part to that solution: 6 rules for successful communication. (Watch the video.)

6 Rules for Successful Communication

Based on the Work of Dr. Gay Hendricks

Begin the conversation by letting the other person know that the purpose of this conversation is to evolve your relationship because you love and care about them. Then follow these six steps.

  1. Invite the other person to experiment with you: to use these 6 steps and 6 rules to communicate with each other over the next __ days. (You can assign any amount of time you would like; Dr. Hendricks suggests 90 days.)
  2. No name-calling.
  3. No labeling. (For example, don’t say something like “You’re insensitive.”)
  4. Don’t bring up the past.
  5. Exclude the words “always” and “never.”
  6. No hitting below the belt.

The best way to follow these rules is to replace these habits with more constructive ways of communicating your thoughts. Make sure to check out the video for examples of effective ways to share what you are thinking and more in-depth explanations of these rules.

Sparkling Love,

PS – Did you miss part one? You can watch it here. You can also read about the 6 Steps for Successful Communication on the blog.

6 Steps for Successful Communication

Are you tired of conversations that are always in conflict?

Do you keep talking about the same issue over and over again without ever agreeing on a solution?

Are you ready to be free of frustrating and combative conversations?

If you answered “yes,” I have a solution for you! (Watch the video.)

couple talking

6 Steps for Successful Communication

Based on the Work of Dr. Gay Hendricks

Begin the conversation by letting the other person know that the purpose of this conversation is to evolve your relationship because you love and care about them. Then follow these six steps.

1. Present the facts about what happened. Do not assign any blame!

2. Share how it made you feel. “It made me feel ______.”

3. State what you would have loved to happen instead. “Instead, I would have loved if _______.”

4. Ask the other person if they are okay with that? If they are, you have reached an agreement.

5. If they’re not okay with it, allow them to share their side of the story and actively listen to them.

6. If you did not reach an agreement in steps 4 or 5, start over.

Sparkling Love,

PS – Want to learn more about successful communication? Check out this short video where I discuss these steps and more.

Are you betraying yourself?

Is your soul calling you to do something that you’re putting off? Do you feel overwhelmed and find yourself running out of time to do the things YOU would like to do? Is there something else important to you that is getting in the way? Do you feel guilty chasing after it because other people are depending on you?

This is so common, especially for women. (watch the short 3 minute video below to find out how to overcome these obstacles)
When my soul called me to write my book, I was the primary caregiver for my parents. It was important to me to be there for my parents and take care of them, which often left me with no time to write my book. Eventually, I had to make a tough choice: prioritize my book by figuring out a way to set aside some time each week to work on it. I discovered, and so will you…If there’s a will there is a way!

When we neglect deeply meaningful things that our soul is calling us to do, we are betraying ourselves.

How can you free yourself from this pattern of betrayal?

First off, you must get comfortable with the uncomfortable. 

Make the commitment that you are going to figure out how to make it happen. 

Believe that it will all work out, and know that, in some way, there will be growth in your choice for everyone.

Sparkling Love,
 

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PPS – Are you wondering what Diamond Power is? Check out this article.

Are You Chasing Shadow Freedom?

Do you want to feel significant, important, honored, and seen? Do you want to be noticed and praised? Do you want to feel like you matter, like your life matters? Of course, you do, we all do!!

These are often the desires that lead us to chase freedom.

The problem is that many of us are chasing shadow freedom, not true freedom.

You might be asking, what the heck is shadow freedom? Well, just as any object projects a shadow in its likeness, freedom also has a shadow. What you need to know though, is that shadow freedom takes the shape of freedom, but there is no actual freedom there.

Shadow freedom pursues freedom at the expense of others.

It fuels the “dog eat dog world,” where people are more competitive than collaborative, more self-consumed than other-oriented.

All of our efforts to fill ourselves up, leave us empty and void shells of humanity.

The shadow freedom is an obstacle to true freedom.

True freedom comes when you are connected to your Light, to the All That Is/ Divine love, or what I call your Diamond Power. Your Diamond Power is your source of strength, confidence, and courage. This is where you have true freedom.

When you connect with true freedom, you will find yourself less concerned with your own interests and more concerned with the interests of others. You will feel so full of love and light that you will pour out your love and light onto others. The irony and the greatest gift of living this way? As you empty yourself in the service of all living creatures, God will continue to fill you up with more glory than you could ever imagine.

When we try to fill ourselves up on our own, we end up enslaved by shadow freedom, empty and void. When we cultivate a relationship with God and look to the infinite power to fill us up, we are filled with more glory, love, and light than we could ever imagine, overflowing to the benefit of all those around us.

True freedom exists when we are connected to our Diamond Power.

Are you ready to feel strong, confident, and courageous? Are you ready to be full of love and light?

I have a free gift to get you on your way to living a life connected to your Diamond Power:


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Stop enslaving yourself to the shadow freedom and open yourself up to receive all the goodness in this world.

Sparkling Love,
 
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Are you willing to be free?

As the Fourth of July approaches, one particular value comes to mind: freedom. It’s a BIG one for me – one of my core values…How about you? Many of us claim to want freedom, but we don’t always allow ourselves to be free. 

I encourage you to ask yourself, “am I willing to be free?”

Free from anxiety, fear, limiting beliefs, sabotaging behaviors, and the opinions of others?

Are you willing to unleash your soul magnificence and express your Truth? Are you ready to permit yourself to express yourself? To trust there is a power far greater than you orchestrating the best and highest outcome for you?

We live in the “Land of the Free,” yet so many of us aren’t enjoying personal freedoms. 

Are you ready to make a declaration to live fully into your vibrant, beautiful essence? Imagine yourself relaxed, confident, sparkling – see yourself walking in glittering sunshine! Can you imagine how this would impact your life and those around you? Woweeee!

We have the power to create this shimmering life and more… so why don’t we? What holds us back?

If you are like most women, the biggest thing that holds us back is fear and worry. Research shows the #1 belief that limits us is…”I’m not enough”. We worry that others will laugh at us, judge us, not like or love us. This anxiety can often paralyze us and keep us stuck; we miss out on opportunities that could close the gap between where we are and becoming the free, vibrant, fully ALIVE and magnificent women we want to be!

If this is you, are you tired of these life-sucking constraints? Has enough been enough yet?

If you are done living as a shell of yourself, I have a challenge for you. 

The challenge is this: for the next week, focus on reframing those beliefs that limit expansion and keep you from becoming your most divine, free, and sparkling self.

Open Up a Corner of Your Mind.

When Napoleon Hill was researching his seminal work, The Laws of Success, which would later become Think and Grow Rich, he had the opportunity to talk with Andrew Carnegie. Carnegie told Hill that he wanted him to look in the mirror every day and tell himself that he would surpass Carnegie in wealth.

To Hill that was preposterous. Carnegie was the wealthiest man in the world! But he did it. For weeks, Hill looked into the mirror and repeated the mantra that Carnegie had given him. Hill said that at first, he could barely look at himself. But by the third week, there was a little corner of his mind that started believing it was possible.

Reimagine What’s Possible for Yourself

One of my clients (I’ll call her Sandra), believed there was a glass ceiling in her industry she could not break through. She wanted to make more money and have a flexible schedule to spend more time with her daughters, but she had convinced herself that her boss would never say yes to either.

We worked on her vision of what it would look and feel like living that life. Next, we discovered the beliefs that didn’t support her vision. We reframed her thoughts, replacing the beliefs that did not serve her with new beliefs that supported her vision. Lastly, she had to take action by talking to her boss, and it went wonderfully! Sandra ended up with higher pay than anyone in her industry and the flexible work schedule she’d wanted!

How to Begin Reframing Your Beliefs

If you’re ready to free yourself from the beliefs that have been holding you back from achieving your heart’s desire, these tips can help.

1. Create a vision. Your mind thinks in pictures, so you need to see your dreams vividly to believe they’re possible.

2. Look at the fears or thoughts in conflict with that vision. Identify them, name them and then reframe them with new empowering thoughts. One way to do this is with mirror work. Just like Napoleon Hill, look in the mirror every day and speak your new beliefs out loud.

3. Have the courage to act. At some point, you will need to take action and do something you may have never done before. Even though my client created new beliefs, she was still nervous and anxious about talking to her boss, but she faced that fear and did it anyway.

Remember, no matter what the outcome, you win. If it works out, fantastic! If it doesn’t, hold the belief that this is what it looks like on the way to achieving your dreams. This belief will move you forward energetically and support you on the road to building your best, most sparkling life!

If you don’t think you can believe it for yourself, let me believe it for you. I have had the privilege of supporting women achieve their dreams for over 13 years now and have seen some incredible transformations. Whenever you’re ready to unleash your inner sparkle, I’ll be cheering you on!

Sparkling love,

PS – Are you ready to feel ALIVE again? To live fully into your vibrant, beautiful essence? I’d love to help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Click here to schedule a complimentary 30-minute no-obligation coaching session with me. Empower yourself and take the first step!!!

Have you felt this way? Here’s how to fix it.

Have you ever felt exhausted? Too Busy? Burnt out? Have you resented your work, even if you’re doing what you love?

There were times in my life where I definitely did.

I didn’t want to feel like that, but I let it happen. I justified it by telling myself that I had to work like crazy and put playtime on the backburner if I was going to grow my business.

I was always too busy. Too busy to see my girlfriends. Too busy to go out. Too busy to do anything fun just for the sake of having fun.

Life had become too serious.

The problem with living that way is that your soul needs playtime. You are meant to have fun in your life!! You are meant to take time to recharge and refill your well of happiness. If you don’t nourish your sparkling essence, you can’t be a better lover, mother, friend, or entrepreneur.

You need playtime in your life.

Daniel Gilbert and Matthew Killingsworth of Harvard University did a study and discovered adults spend only about 50% of their time in the present moment. The other half is spent wandering, and their research found that a wandering mind is an unhappy mind exhausting itself through negative emotions. Yikes!

Research shows when you are playing, laughing, having fun it puts a stop to the thoughts about the past and future, and you become fully present.

So take a moment, think back to when you were a kid and what you loved to do. I loved being outdoors and being active, and playing with my friends. One of my besties loved making (and I mean making, from scratch!) clothes for her dolls.

What did you love to do? What could you do right now in the sense of play that would lite you up?

One of my Sparkle clients had a dinner party recently, and she had the most brilliant way to break the ice with her guests. At each place setting, she put a bottle of bubbles, the kind with the dipstick that you blow on… remember those? Her guests saw this and immediately began to giggle, like seriously? Bubbles? No one did anything until one of the guests opened hers up and blew bubbles everywhere. The battle of the bubbles was ON!

This game was a definite crowd pleaser and a terrific icebreaker – allowing the guests to instantly drop any insecurities or shyness with which they may have arrived. Moreover, it set the tone for the rest of the evening. They had a blast!

Here’s the thing about having fun; when you spend all your time buttoned-up, not doing anything for yourself at all, your well of happiness and even your well of ability and creativity can run dry. You do not serve your clients, family, or friends in the same way as when you are feeling whole and happy, and you close yourself off to what you want most in life, a deep connection with yourself and others.

When you permit yourself to have some fun, it fills your inner Diamond cup up; you begin to sparkle and approach life, work, and relationships with less stress and resentment.

The best part of playtime is this – it doesn’t take much effort!

So get out there and play!

Sparkling Love,

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